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Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on January 23, 2004, at 21:05:58
well... i went to see my t thursday ... not to mention i have only seen here 3x now!!!! not a long time ... so we were talkin about my ex t that i am still very upset that i lost him ... and we were doing real good on the convo i felt comfy ... then she turns around tells me that ..i only have myself to blame for the transfer!!! i didnt do anything his personal feelings and stuff got in the way how the heck is it my fault????????
is she right or wrong ?
should i be concerened that she said that ?what do i do ??
Posted by Elle2021 on January 23, 2004, at 21:11:56
In reply to caught off guard!!, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on January 23, 2004, at 21:05:58
A good therapist knows how to deal with transference. I don't know all the details about what happened with your ex-therapist, whether he/she developed counter-transferece or what. So, it's hard to say whether or not your current therapist's reaction is valid. Can you clarify?
Elle
Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on January 23, 2004, at 21:31:06
In reply to Re: caught off guard!! » lilmsbubbles07, posted by Elle2021 on January 23, 2004, at 21:11:56
ok i was seeing my ex therapist for about 3 yrs and we had a good realtionship .... then he transfered me to someone else with no reason and then after 2 visits i was told that i was going back to see my regular t so i was happy .... then 8 visits later i was transfered again to another therapist because he was too involed with my case felt that my realtionship with my boyfriend was n ot good and i should get out of it....he couldnt work with me anymore ..
if u need anymore i nfo let me know!!!
Posted by Elle2021 on January 23, 2004, at 23:45:21
In reply to Re: caught off guard!!, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on January 23, 2004, at 21:31:06
Hmmm...
Maybe he just thought he had done as much as he could for you. Perhaps, he was frustrated with himself. It's hard to say, can you call him directly and ask exactly why he terminated you? That would give you an upfront answer.
Elle
Posted by Karen_kay on January 24, 2004, at 12:16:02
In reply to Re: caught off guard!! » lilmsbubbles07, posted by Elle2021 on January 23, 2004, at 23:45:21
I think it's just odd that your new therapist would "out of the blue" say it is your fault that your old therapist terminated therapy. Were you talking about your old therapist in the conversation before she said that, or did she just say it? It seems rather harsh, IMO. But, I've been following your "story" and it kinda sucks. I'm sorry :( I'm kinda having the same fears right now actually. Well, not that my therapist will transfer me based onhis own feelings, but that I'll get booted for being "stupid" :)
But, maybe you should try to continue working on your feelings regardin your old therapist and the termination, if you feel you haven't completely resolved those hurt feelings yet, as I know I wouldn't have at this point. Do you feel you have a grasp on the situation at this point? Do you know the whole story? It sounds to me like she has a different opinion than you do, as to why therapy was terminated. But accusing doesn't help in the healing process, IMO. I'd let her know, but that's just me.
Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on January 24, 2004, at 13:46:07
In reply to Re: caught off guard!!, posted by Karen_kay on January 24, 2004, at 12:16:02
well i thoughti knew the whole situiion but i dont think i do ..in some way i think i am just being pushed around!!! we were talkin about my old t at the time about how she says he didnt do his job well enough and all but if he didnt do his job how did i get better????
i have somewhat of a grasp on this but at times my life falls apart and i lose sight of everything ... my new tells me that i shouldnt be feeling hurt or angry but i think i should be ....
Posted by Crooked Heart on January 27, 2004, at 13:11:34
In reply to Re: caught off guard!!, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on January 24, 2004, at 13:46:07
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>... my new tells me that i shouldnt be feeling hurt or angry but i think i should be ...Can anybody else really tell you what you should be feeling? You *are* feeling that way. I don't really understand what's going on--it seems very confusing, and I hope things get better for you.
Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on January 27, 2004, at 14:12:13
In reply to Re: caught off guard!! » lilmsbubbles07, posted by Crooked Heart on January 27, 2004, at 13:11:34
everything is real confusing i always thought u feel what u feel but my new t tells me i shouldnt feel the way i do ... i canth elp i miss my old t or anything else and i dont see how any of this is my fault at thsi point sometimes i think i am better off not seeing and t ..i should just dissapear
Posted by Crooked Heart on January 28, 2004, at 8:58:58
In reply to Re: caught off guard!!, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on January 27, 2004, at 14:12:13
Well don't disappear from this board.
I hope you can talk things through with your new t. Would it be a good idea to start by telling her how confusing this all is.
Good luck!
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