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Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on January 14, 2004, at 12:55:28
hey everyone ... here the the problem ... i cantacted my old therapist boss about my transfer and he wants to hold a meeting with him and me and my old t which is ok but i am scared this is the reason ... i confessed my transfernce on my lat session with my old t and i didnt get to talk about it thta much so i am going crazy ..i am angry,sad, i cry all the time ... i want to talk to him about everything but i cant ... he transfered on time before this and i went to a different t and he wanted me to come back to see him so of course i did because he was like the only person i trusted my entire life .... things were ok ... but then excatly 8 sessions later he dischaged to another therapist and we had out last session and he was like it isnt ur fault and it isnt mine ... (well whos fault is it) he was very emotioal!!! and so was I ... so this meeting meeting is supposed top clear up y he discharged me after 8 visits and didnt let me just stay where i was ... i amnot sure whati am asking u all .. but i think what iam asking did my therapist do the right thing by takin me back and throwing me back out i feel like a YO-YO ..am I ? it feels like i am just joke to him ... i dont think it is joke it is my life and my state of mind ...he crushed me so much ... How do i go on with my life ????
how should i go abou this meetin that is going to take place tomorrow ..do i smile do i cry do i just sit there numb should i be angry ... os many differnt things i dont even know ...
if anyone has advice please help
SRY IF I RAMBLED !!!
Posted by Joslynn on January 14, 2004, at 13:55:21
In reply to meeting with my old therapist and his boss ...., posted by lilmsbubbles07 on January 14, 2004, at 12:55:28
IMO, you should just be honest about how it made you feel and about how much time you were given (or not given) to find someone new.
I think this is actually good that your former T's supervisor is involved. Maybe it will help your former T learn how to handle this better next time and it might give you a sense of closure to get these feelings off your chest. Personaly, I wouldn't try to "protect" your former T by hiding how much it hurt or by glossing over what was said in session.
Let us know how it goes.
Posted by Karen_kay on January 14, 2004, at 14:50:10
In reply to Re: meeting with my old therapist and his boss ..., posted by Joslynn on January 14, 2004, at 13:55:21
Bubbles (can I call you that?) Cute name by the way :)
I'm sorry about your situation. I know it must hurt so much. I agree with Joslynn. You should be honest about your feelings. Since he isn't your therapist anymore, don't try to protect him with false smiles. If you are hurting, say so! Let him know that transfering you hurt and that you are in a tight situation because of it.
Work through this with your new therapist and be honest about your feelings. I know that this just adds to your pile of other issues, but once you work through it, think of how much better you'll feel.
And we'll be here to help as well! Let me know what happens. The supervisor should help just being there. It should help to keep things honest knowing that there's another person in the room and you can be honest about your feelings. Just let that person know how you feel. It's hard I'm sure, but you'll get through.. You sound like a strong peron through your posts. I hope the appointment isn't too rough for you. Just try to be honest hun, OK?
Posted by gardenergirl on January 14, 2004, at 20:21:52
In reply to Re: meeting with my old therapist and his boss ..., posted by Karen_kay on January 14, 2004, at 14:50:10
Great advice from the others. I really have nothing to add but support. It sounds like a terribly difficult situation, and I'm sorry you have to go through this. You are not alone. We are here for you!
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Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on January 18, 2004, at 0:04:35
In reply to Re: meeting with my old therapist and his boss ..., posted by gardenergirl on January 14, 2004, at 20:21:52
well the meetin was ok i guess ..the reason for the disharge was what my boyfriend was doing to me he couldnt handle cus of his feelings for me plus he felt in was in danger... my boyfriend was grabbin on me and just being a totally a** !!! and i always went to my t about him cus i was scared i thought i was supposed too ..i totally understand his reasoning but that dont take away the pain or the heartache at all ... i gave him a cd on how i feel with sings cus i just could bring it to words the day of the meetin all i could do was cry .... i still feel like i am losing it without him and i feel that i need him in my life .. sorta like i cant go on with out him i have never felt that way in my life about anyone... id give anything to have him as m y therapist again ANYTHING!!!!
am i crazy ??? am i insane ??
i really dont know what is going on with me or what is in my head anymore !!!
Posted by fallsfall on January 18, 2004, at 9:17:56
In reply to Re: meeting with my old therapist and his boss ..., posted by lilmsbubbles07 on January 18, 2004, at 0:04:35
I'm glad you had the meeting.
He can't see you because of issues that *he* has. You did nothing wrong. And you were right to talk to him about what your boyfriend was doing. It sounds like he has a tender/weak spot in himself, and your issues happened to hit him right there.
I thought that I would never survive without my first therapist. But I am now 6 months with my second therapist and it really is OK. Shop around to find someone who you feel comfortable with. But do believe that there is a therapist out there (other than your old one) who can help you.
Good luck
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