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Posted by CraigD on December 19, 2003, at 17:07:34
In reply to Re: EMDR experiences? » CraigD, posted by zenhussy on December 19, 2003, at 2:48:00
ZH-
Thanks for all the GREAT feedback. I had to start Celexa again just to make it through the holidays.
I didn't go to EMDR primarily for trauma -- it was more for terrible social anxiety and self-hatred. I uncovered memories last year of my uncle behaving inappropriate with me when I was in grades 4+5. I don't remember being raped per se, but my uncle was the only male figure in my life who showed any interest in me. My dad and step-dad didn't.
So there was mixed emotions of pleasure and shame in being with him, especially when the cops arrested him and questioned me in front of my mother.
But it is clear to my therapists I was exposed to something sexual earlier in life due to my hyper-sexual nature with relatives and friends starting at the age of 6 or 7, about the same time I began hating myself and believing I should be dead. Night terrors started in College, couldn't sleep in front of other people...lots of clear signs, but no memory.
my EMDR therapist is also treating as a trauma an unfortunate series of rejections/abadonments throughout my formative years.
We believe these things have left me afraid of people (mostly men...I am a gay 31 yo), unable to maintain close connections (walls go up after 6 months) and an extreme sensitivity to rejection.
EMDR is helping to relate these current feelings to their roots...I just need some remedial stuff soon.
Does this sound familiar to you?
Posted by Dinah on December 24, 2003, at 20:23:21
In reply to Re: EMDR experiences?, posted by antigua on December 17, 2003, at 23:30:29
My therapist said a while back that he wouldn't mind my going to a therapist who specialized in something he didn't offer. He gave me the name of someone he words with for EMDR. I might be contacting her at the beginning of the year.
Posted by fallsfall on December 24, 2003, at 21:06:36
In reply to Re: EMDR - I may be trying it, posted by Dinah on December 24, 2003, at 20:23:21
She seems to find it helpful. It is taxing for her, though.
Posted by zenhussy on December 25, 2003, at 2:26:12
In reply to Re: EMDR - I may be trying it, posted by Dinah on December 24, 2003, at 20:23:21
> My therapist said a while back that he wouldn't mind my going to a therapist who specialized in something he didn't offer. He gave me the name of someone he words with for EMDR. I might be contacting her at the beginning of the year.
You sure have come a long way if you and your therp. are considering adjunct therapy with EMDR.
The experiences that people have told me have varied widely. It worked for me but didn't do much for others.
It didn't work for me the first time I tried it but I wasn't ready (emotionally or therapeutically) for the intensity of what the EMDR brought up at that time.
Ring in the new year by updating us to your EMDR possibilities.
zh
Posted by zenhussy on December 25, 2003, at 2:31:33
In reply to Re: EMDR experiences? » zenhussy, posted by CraigD on December 19, 2003, at 17:07:34
CraigD,
I'm too med. stupid to adequately answer this right now. In a couple days I hope this mental idiocy lifts.
I'm praying for you to make it through these holidays. Please back off the hard stuff and try to do as many nuturing things as you can.
If you're stuck as to what is nuturing just ask and you'll get more ideas than you could ever possibly use or know what to do with!
zh
p.s. clear signs no memory..........sigh. Yeah. That was the beginning for me as well. Current studies are questioning the overall cost to the individual who dissociates at the time of trauma. It is now being said that it comes at too high a price later down the road. Small comfort now but at least we're not crazy, right?
Posted by Dinah on December 25, 2003, at 13:10:25
In reply to Re: EMDR - I may be trying it » Dinah, posted by zenhussy on December 25, 2003, at 2:26:12
I'm going to wait until after the holidays to call her, and that's hard. I tend to be a person who makes a decision and jumps on it.
I hope you don't have to be a believer to have it work, because I'm pretty skeptical. But I was encouraged by the stories I read here to bring it up again. For some reason I had always thought that EMDR was for neutralizing traumatic memories, which I have no real problem doing. I wasn't really interested. But it sounds from what everyone is saying that it can also be used to attach feelings to the sterile memories of things that probably should be remembered as traumatic? That would be far more helpful. I tend to store my memories such that all feelings are stripped from them first. If I could integrate the feelings I think it would contribute to moving past a certain blockage I feel in therapy.
But like I said, I'm skeptical.
Posted by antigua on December 25, 2003, at 23:19:59
In reply to Re: EMDR - I may be trying it, posted by Dinah on December 25, 2003, at 13:10:25
Dinah,
I think you've described well what I've experienced in EMDR: attaching feeling to sterile memories of traumatic events. I was (and still am) very skeptical about how it works, but it has seemed to unblock SOME feelings; others I still can't get close to (I've had 8 sessions so far). I see my EMDR therapist and the next day I see my regular therapist to try and process these feelings. My EMDR therapist closes every session by walking me through putting away the scary/harmful/devastating feelings until I am in my safe environment w/my therapist. This has worked well for me and has lessened the panic of the intensity of some of these emotions.While I haven't had any huge breakthroughs and don't think I've reached the heart of my trauma yet (isn't that what we all want?), I have felt some really sad/tough/unpleasant feelings that I have never faced before (like remembering overhearing my parents arguing about how they didn't want me) and that have influenced me profoundly my whole life. That said, please just be aware that it can be very painful and try to have a good support system while you're doing this. It's exhausting for me.
antigua
Posted by judy1 on December 27, 2003, at 11:40:47
In reply to Re: EMDR - I may be trying it, posted by Dinah on December 25, 2003, at 13:10:25
Dinah,
My son is doing it for a specific phobia (bees) that was really limiting his activities. After about 4-5 sessions I noticed a huge improvement, and the psychologist has recommended about 3 more sessions. I'm considering it for myself (for repressed memories) because I dissociate so much. I imagine my case will be a lot more involved. Best of luck with your decision- judy
Posted by Dinah on December 27, 2003, at 21:14:59
In reply to Re: EMDR - I may be trying it » Dinah, posted by judy1 on December 27, 2003, at 11:40:47
I think I'm definitely going to do it. The only question is in the specifics. My therapist wants me to use a colleague of his, but since I can't seem to locate her, he's going to have to find out what's up. And he is so unbelievably disorganized that it might take a while. Sigh.
Posted by Dinah on December 27, 2003, at 21:17:49
In reply to Re: EMDR - I may be trying it » Dinah, posted by antigua on December 25, 2003, at 23:19:59
That sounds like it's exactly what I'm looking for, although I understand it would be painful if it works. Thanks for sharing your experience of it.
I wonder why the literature only seems to refer to making traumatic memories less painful?
Posted by Dinah on December 28, 2003, at 11:02:32
In reply to Re: EMDR - I may be trying it » Dinah, posted by judy1 on December 27, 2003, at 11:40:47
By the way, Judy, one of my biggest concerns is that the person my therapist recommended might not have sufficient training and experience in EMDR to deal with a highly dissociative client. But I don't really want to upset him by going to someone else. I understand that you should have a person trained in at least Level II and with some experience, as highly dissociative individuals are the ones most likely to have negative outcomes with EMDR. I wonder if the risks are overstated? I can't really imagine what might go wrong.
But it does make me halfway hope that the person my therapist wants me to see is not, in fact, available or willing so that I can interview others who are on the EMDR association referral list.
I suppose my therapist feels that he'll be able to work with this woman, and not worry that I'll try to dilute my dependence by developing a therapeutic relationship with her (since he's always known I'd love to have a backup therapist).
Posted by zenhussy on December 28, 2003, at 11:54:17
In reply to Re: EMDR - I may be trying it » judy1, posted by Dinah on December 28, 2003, at 11:02:32
>>By the way, Judy, one of my biggest concerns is that the person my therapist recommended might not have sufficient training and experience in EMDR to deal with a highly dissociative client. But I don't really want to upset him by going to someone else.
Dinah,
Respectfully, your therapy isn't about your T. Upsetting him need not be your first concern.
>>I understand that you should have a person trained in at least Level II and with some experience, as highly dissociative individuals are the ones most likely to have negative outcomes with EMDR. I wonder if the risks are overstated? I can't really imagine what might go wrong.
Yes I would have to agree with finding a level II professional (phd, mft, mfcc, lcsw, etc.) to work with as I have worked with different therapists trained at different levels.
As for what can go wrong? If you would like me to e-mail you I can give you an in depth personal experience as to just what can go wrong with a therapist inadequately trained in using EMDR with a dissociative client. Let me know if you would like to hear it.
>>But it does make me halfway hope that the person my therapist wants me to see is not, in fact, available or willing so that I can interview others who are on the EMDR association referral list.From what I'm reading this sounds like the smartest idea for you. When doing EMDR for the second time (with a level II professional) I researched the training and contacted the institute for level II people in my area. I interviewed the hell outta them before I chose the person I did. At that time the therapist doing the EMDR was my all around therapist. Looking back I would do EMDR with a separate therapist and process with both that person and my individual therapist.
>>I suppose my therapist feels that he'll be able to work with this woman, and not worry that I'll try to dilute my dependence by developing a therapeutic relationship with her (since he's always known I'd love to have a backup therapist).
It is very important for professionals to have a good working relationship together otherwise everyone involved suffers in one way or another.
I'm a little confused as to why your T would be worried about diluting your dependency. Is that a bad thing? Sounds a bit fishy to me after so many years. But then again I'm not the one with the degrees charging the big bucks so I'm sure your T is working from some psych. angle I'm not aware of.
zh
Posted by zenhussy on December 28, 2003, at 11:56:13
In reply to Re: EMDR experiences? » zenhussy, posted by CraigD on December 19, 2003, at 17:07:34
CraigD,
How are you doing? Been thinking about you over these holidays and wondering if your meds are helping you with this crud coming up from the EMDR.
Take care and please update if you are able and so desire.
zenhussy
Posted by antigua on December 28, 2003, at 14:57:44
In reply to Re: EMDR - I may be trying it » antigua, posted by Dinah on December 27, 2003, at 21:17:49
From what I've learned, the goal IS to make the memories less painful by processing them. My EMDR therapist explained to me that EMDR helps to untrap feelings that are caught up in our short-term memory. They have never moved to long-term because they haven't been resolved. By working through them hopefully I will lessen their impact. That said, the hard part for me is that I now realize how little I really do remember. There are definitely blocks of years from childhood that I don't remember, but now that I am into it, I realize how large these holes are!! Also, my T says it doesn't matter if the memories are organized or logical, what is important is our feelings about them because that is what we felt as a child.
Also, I don't know who brought it up, but having a well-trained EMDR T is very important. My family dr. recommended I try EMDR because I felt stuck in trying to remember and I was able to convince my regular T that I was ready to try it, and could handle the consequences. My family dr. recommended a T, but I went w/the one my regular T recommended. Turns out she was the first therapist I saw 12 yrs ago through an EAP program and I was only allowed 6 visits w/her. So I'm back w/her now for EMDR, which is quite amusing. She was trained by the founder of EMDR and is heavily involved in training others so I'm comfortable w/her abilities.
My only real problem is that I don't trust easily and I have had a hard time opening up to her, even though I know her. I know I need to just let go and experience the feelings, but I can't even do that w/my regular T.
Good luck.
Posted by Dinah on December 28, 2003, at 15:05:57
In reply to Re: EMDR - I may be trying it » Dinah, posted by zenhussy on December 28, 2003, at 11:54:17
Thanks, Zenhussy, for the perspective. I wouldn't want to stir up any unpleasant memories for you, and I do take your point. I suppose I get too comfortable with the dissociation, and feel too sure of myself that I have it under control. I take it from what you are saying that that is not a wise assumption. If you feel comfortable sharing I would certainly appreciate it, but if you feel that it would be in any way upsetting to you, then rest assured that I understand what you are saying.
I suppose that when I speak to her, I should definitely check out her qualifications and experience with dissociative clients. I'm sure she'll have the professional ethics to be honest if she's not sure she can handle it. That's assuming she's even in practice. I find it odd that I can't find her...
I'm not sure if my therapist is working from some knowledge of psychology as much as he's working from knowledge of me. He's aware that I still get absolutely furious about my dependence on him sometimes (now being one of those times, and my timing for deciding to go forward with EMDR may not in fact be unrelated if I'm being honest). And he thinks a secure dependency on him is important for me until I move naturally beyond it.
I am definitely going to push him though, if I must rely on him to locate this therapist. He has a tendency to let things slide forever.
Posted by Dinah on December 28, 2003, at 15:07:15
In reply to Re: EMDR - I may be trying it, posted by Dinah on December 28, 2003, at 15:05:57
Posted by Dinah on December 28, 2003, at 15:10:21
In reply to Re: EMDR - I may be trying it Dinah, posted by antigua on December 28, 2003, at 14:57:44
I know what you mean about trusting. There are some things that I would like not to say so much that I don't really trust myself to be totally honest about them. I've asked my current therapist if he can fill her in on what he thinks it's absolutely essential she knows and I'll talk to her about it afterwards. And I'm *still* not sure I won't lie through my teeth. Trust is not easy for me.
Posted by zenhussy on December 29, 2003, at 3:29:00
In reply to Re: EMDR - I may be trying it, posted by Dinah on December 28, 2003, at 15:05:57
Posted by Jeffrey on December 30, 2003, at 0:04:03
In reply to Re: EMDR - sent you an e-mail (nm) » Dinah, posted by zenhussy on December 29, 2003, at 3:29:00
Hi all,
EMDR sounds interesting. Is there any benfit from obsessional thinking? I ruminate about an x-ray my wife had while she was pregnant and that it will give our child cancer. Would EMDR be helpful in relieving these obsessions which are very unpleasant and make enjoying our family difficult?
Best Wishes,
Jeffrey
Posted by Dinah on January 1, 2004, at 15:23:07
In reply to Re: EMDR - sent you an e-mail (nm) » Dinah, posted by zenhussy on December 29, 2003, at 3:29:00
Thank you so much. I've done a bit of thinking, now I've recovered from Monday, and I'd really like to give the EMDR a shot. And I am going to insist, even at the risk of alienating my therapist a bit (not a lot, I'd drop the whole idea first), that the EMDR therapist have at least a level II certification.
I think the positive statement about myself that I'd like to aim for is "I am strong enough to handle feeling my emotions."
The trouble is that I'm not sure that's a legitimate goal to work on. Experience tends to tell me that realistically, I'm not....
I'm a bit concerned again though. I borrowed the Shapiro book and she seems to only talk about eliminating strong reactions to memories. My reactions to my memories could generally now be rated at a zero on the scale she uses. If that's the purpose of the treatment, it won't do a lot of good.
So I think I'll use this thread to cobble together an explanation of what I'm looking for and bring it to the first session with the EMDR therapist to see if it's even reasonable to expect the opposite of what Shapiro described.
Posted by bruce_w6 on February 24, 2004, at 15:53:13
In reply to EMDR experiences?, posted by CraigD on December 17, 2003, at 15:30:39
Anyone having luck with this? I am going to try it. I haven't seen any postings in almost 2 months.
Posted by Sabina on February 26, 2004, at 23:36:06
In reply to EMDR experiences?, posted by bruce_w6 on February 24, 2004, at 15:53:13
> Anyone having luck with this? I am going to try it. I haven't seen any postings in almost 2 months.
hi bruce,
here is a link to a thread from earlier this month, in particular my experience with EMDR. more of my background can be found within the thread.
good luck, and let us know how it goes for you. http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20040131/msgs/309607.html
Posted by Camilla on May 26, 2004, at 12:38:06
In reply to Re: EMDR - I may be trying it » Dinah, posted by zenhussy on December 28, 2003, at 11:54:17
Hi, Zenhussy and everyone here,
I'm new to Psycho-babble. (I was brought here by clicking a link that was on an EMDR-related site. It looks cool, so I registered and stayed. :-D)
Anyway, I am considering EMDR, starting relatively soon. I'm going to call an EMDR practioner whom I tentatively picked based on a personal recommendation from a friend of a friend. (The one who's a friend of mine has done EMDR and found it extremely helpful, but unfortunately her practitioner moved several states away. So she needed a recommendation herself. She hasn't started seeing the woman yet, though.) I also checked that that the EMDR therapist was Level-II-certified and does a lot of EMDR. (She is; and she does.)
I'm concerned now, though, about the really bad emotional fallout following EMDR sessions that's been described in some posts here. I kind of need to be functional right now, in fact fairly robust of ego and less rejection-sensitive, since I need to find a job (I was laid off a while back when company went under).
Specifically, I'm very interested to know what people mean when they say EMDR for trauma can be really rough on people who are "highly dissociative." How can one tell if one is dissociative, and/or highly so? I do have an idea of what "dissociation" means, but I'm not familiar with the adjective "dissociative," though it sounds like it describes an ongoing personality trait present many years after the original abuse or trauma.
I did suffer some physical and emotional abuse during childhood, but I do remember it. (I think. Of course, I don't know if there was some that I don't remember -- because if there had been, I wouldn't remember it, if you see what I mean. Also, my childhood is 25 years behind me at this point.) In fact, people have commented on what a good memory I have for events in the distant past.
Also, I have a mild case of ADD--Primarily Inattentive Type, so I'm a bit daydreamy and prone to spacing out when bored, anyway. Could complicate the picture.
> As for what can go wrong? If you would like >me to e-mail you I can give you an in depth personal experience as to just what can go wrong with a therapist inadequately trained in using EMDR with a dissociative client. Let me know if you would like to hear it.
>
Zenhussy, I'd love to get a copy of this e-mail from you, if you still have it. Or if not, if you are willing to write me a fresh one, that would be great.
>
> When doing EMDR for the second time (with a level II professional) I researched the training and contacted the institute for level II people in my area. I interviewed the hell outta them before I chose the person I did.
> zhCan I ask how you researched Level II training? By finding the training manuals somewhere and reading them? Or some other way? And what did you specifically ask when you interviewed the level II practitioners in your area?
Thanks!
Posted by NikkiT2 on May 26, 2004, at 13:36:49
In reply to Re: EMDR - I may be trying it: for zenhussy, posted by Camilla on May 26, 2004, at 12:38:06
Hey there,
I'm afraid Zenhussy is currently riding out a 24 week break.. *sighing*
She sends her best to you!
nikki x
Posted by Camilla on May 26, 2004, at 18:21:03
In reply to Re: EMDR - I may be trying it: for zenhussy » Camilla, posted by NikkiT2 on May 26, 2004, at 13:36:49
> Hey there,
>
> I'm afraid Zenhussy is currently riding out a 24 week break.. *sighing*
Well, if anyone else has any relevant knowledge/experience, I'm happy to hear from them, too...
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