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Posted by justyourlaugh on November 7, 2003, at 6:59:46
the longer i go without drinking the more paranoid i seem to become...
i think my sw is reading this right now..
he said things yesterday to me that made me believe he was surfing these boards...
i think i really blew it ..i always give out too much information about myself..
i dont feel safe here..
i feel he over steppped himself..
what do i do?
maybe i will talk it over with my boyfriend..and go hug my "only child"??ha ha
or maybe i shall tell my wife i want a new sw..
i cant come back as someone else(new sn)
way to obvious..
any suggestions..
i feel like a child ..
j
Posted by justyourlaugh on November 7, 2003, at 9:06:53
In reply to paranoid or perceptive?, posted by justyourlaugh on November 7, 2003, at 6:59:46
why yes...
why dont you ask him to email you directly..
add aol.com to my sn...
j
Posted by Dinah on November 7, 2003, at 10:13:50
In reply to paranoid or perceptive?, posted by justyourlaugh on November 7, 2003, at 6:59:46
Hi JYL. I suggest you talk about it with your social worker. I have an agreement with my therapist that he'll never browse here. He's not much on computers and the internet, so he acted a bit surprised that I would even ask. But I did make him promise, and I trust him to keep that promise. He knows that Babble is important to me and wouldn't want to invade my privacy against my wishes. It's a shame really, since I rather think all therapist should read Psychological Babble. :)
But really, JYL. The best thing to do when you're worried about something is just to ask. And listen with every sense to help you decide if they are telling the truth, and then trust that.
If he has invaded your privacy, you have every right to be angry. If he accidentally stumbled across this place and recognized you, well, you've never said anything you need to be ashamed of. But the chances that he's been here are really very small.
Ask outright and relieve your amxiety on the matter.
Posted by karen_kay on November 7, 2003, at 10:57:12
In reply to paranoid or perceptive?, posted by justyourlaugh on November 7, 2003, at 6:59:46
Hmmm. If I were in the situation I wouldn't say anything about it. If you bring it up, it might give him reason to look into it and read your posts,not that you've said anything wrong. I too get that feeling a lot. But, the chances are very slim that he has been on here reading your posts. Try not to sweat it, and I'm sure the feelings will pass. Karen
Posted by justyourlaugh on November 7, 2003, at 11:29:12
In reply to Re: paranoid or perceptive?, posted by karen_kay on November 7, 2003, at 10:57:12
karen,,
your post made me laugh and laugh..
the feeling has past already...ha ha ha ha haha
i am alone today and my head is really going full tilt....
i already called my husband twice and hung up on him at work...normally i only do 1 call before lunch...ha ha ..
i need something...but i dont know what?
i am lonely
thankyou for cheering me up..
dinah...i am too chicken to ask him straight out..
yesterday i had the guts to ask to read my file though...it was boring..not the evil banter i thought it was filled with...
have a good day
j
Posted by Dinah on November 7, 2003, at 11:37:48
In reply to Re: paranoid or perceptive? » karen_kay, posted by justyourlaugh on November 7, 2003, at 11:29:12
Ah, but see? You screwed up your courage and asked and received proof that things weren't as bad as you feared. There's no reason not to ask about this as well. Things aren't usually as bad as we expect. Besides, it will help your trust in him grow.
I feel so fortunate to have a therapist I trust so thoroughly I can tell him anything or ask him anything. But it took a lot of work to get there. Try to screw up your courage to do the work (See Rigby's post on an earlier thread); it's well worth it.
I'm even going to let my therapist to talk to biofeedback guy if he asks. My therapist and I talked about what I would and wouldn't feel comfortable with him telling the guy, we wrestled over details, and now I feel safe enough to trust him not to betray any confidences I don't want shared. OK, it did help my trust a bit to honestly be able to warn my therapist that biofeedback guy has a big mouth and I would probably hear whatever he told him. lol. But still, it's a certain amount of trust. :)
Posted by Poet on November 7, 2003, at 12:54:06
In reply to paranoid or perceptive?, posted by justyourlaugh on November 7, 2003, at 6:59:46
Hi JYL,
If my T looked at this site, she'd pick me out as soon as she read something from Poet. I just hope she would be upfront about it and not play the therapist version of "I know something you don't know."
Note: it's okay for me to play that game. It's also okay for me to not tell her I surf the net trying to find information on her. Giggle. Giggle.
Poet
Posted by karen_kay on November 7, 2003, at 13:10:56
In reply to Re: paranoid or perceptive? » karen_kay, posted by justyourlaugh on November 7, 2003, at 11:29:12
Glad I could amke you laugh... maybe you could return the favor sometime. I think that maybe sometimes my therapist reads my posts, but I have never ever mentioned to him I post on here, so how would he ever know? And I would never mention it to him, because I think maybe he would check it out and see all the things I write aobut him. That would be wrong (especially all the dirty things I write aobut him, and he is so cute!). So, this place is my secret! Even when my boyfriend walks into the computer room, I close the screen. I feel like I'm looking at internet porn or something. Is this weird? I would bring it up in therapy, but then he might investigate. Oh well.... Karen >
karen,,
> your post made me laugh and laugh..
> the feeling has past already...ha ha ha ha haha
> i am alone today and my head is really going full tilt....
> i already called my husband twice and hung up on him at work...normally i only do 1 call before lunch...ha ha ..
> i need something...but i dont know what?
> i am lonely
> thankyou for cheering me up..
> dinah...i am too chicken to ask him straight out..
> yesterday i had the guts to ask to read my file though...it was boring..not the evil banter i thought it was filled with...
> have a good day
> j
Posted by Dinah on November 7, 2003, at 13:40:20
In reply to Re: paranoid or perceptive? » justyourlaugh, posted by Poet on November 7, 2003, at 12:54:06
I'm always bringing in posts to read. Posts with interactions that upset me, posts with ideas that intrigue me, posts that bring up ideas that upset me.
It's a really rich source of material, and give me a way sometimes to open topics that I'm not quite sure how to open. Plus a lot of times I think things out here, then bring read my posts to him. I think Babble has brought a lot to my therapy.
And I'll sometimes just hand the posts to him and the web address will be at the bottom of the post and everything. It doesn't occur to me that he won't honor his promise not to look here. Even if he happened across the site, I think he'd remember the name, see Dr. Bob at the top, and move on.
Or maybe I'm unnaturally trusting. :)
Posted by karen_kay on November 7, 2003, at 15:55:27
In reply to Re: You mean you guys don't read posts in therapy?, posted by Dinah on November 7, 2003, at 13:40:20
No way!!! I only disclose to my therapist the parts of my life that i feel he needs to know!! I would be so embarrassed if he were to look on here and see some of the things I have posted, especially about humping him!! No way! I would never tell him that I post here! But, I am naturally untrusting! Karen
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