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Posted by Dinah on November 4, 2003, at 18:27:52
Are you still around? I was wondering how therapy was going for you.
Posted by Adia on November 5, 2003, at 9:46:20
In reply to Adia?, posted by Dinah on November 4, 2003, at 18:27:52
Dear Dinah,
Thank you so much for thinking of me...
I know Iīve been a bit quiet...
itīs just that things are a little rough..
Itīs confusing and hard to explain but I had been starting to open my heart more to my T and something happened that is delaying that..because my mother playing the role of worried mom contacted my therapist behind my back..and my T had no choice but to see her because my mother kept insisting and calling. (my T talked to me first)..and well I just feel my safe place is being invaded..Things with my mother are really difficult, (she never admitted the truth of my fatherīs abuse to me), and now she goes saying she is worried because I lose control and show anger towards her...
Iīm trying to feel Iīm still in control and to feel that no matter what my mother says about me or what she does I am my therapistīs patient and not her, my T has been really supportive lately and has called me a lot to check on me..even on sunday.
but I donīt like that my mother can invade the safety of my place in therapy. Now she has also emailed my therapist. Itīs a long story..but well, all this is making therapy right now really hard and all I want is to feel safe and to connect with my therapist and make progress with her. Sheīs been great and really supportive...so I trust itīll be ok.Sorry I havenīt been posting..Iīve been reading and sending love from here..but not very strong to post...
I hope things with your therapist are going well.. :o)
Thank you for asking and thinking of me... :o)
Love and support,
Adia.
> Are you still around? I was wondering how therapy was going for you.
Posted by Dinah on November 5, 2003, at 15:48:30
In reply to Re: Adia? ŧ Dinah, posted by Adia on November 5, 2003, at 9:46:20
I'm sorry you're having a rough time. Remember that you are your therapist's patient and her obligation is to you. She won't tell your mother anything without your permission.
I understand how violated your safe space must feel. :( I've never liked having anyone else involved in my therapy either.
I'm glad you still feel able to trust your therapist. Keep holding on to that, and I'm sure you can ride the rest of it out.
And if you need to, spell out to your therapist the limits of what you are comfortable with. That's part of therapy too. :)
Posted by fallsfall on November 5, 2003, at 20:40:31
In reply to Re: Adia? ŧ Dinah, posted by Adia on November 5, 2003, at 9:46:20
It scares me to know that people are talking about me. I've become almost OK knowing that my doctors are talking to each other (though I would love to know what they say). My old therapist saw my husband and my dad, but only when I was present. Would you feel better if the three of you sat down? Your therapist should always be working for YOUR best interest (even if that means that someone else's best interest is violated).
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