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Posted by sadmom on November 4, 2003, at 8:49:24
Last week I was talking to my therapist about my feelings and experiences concerning men ...
One of the examples I gave her was my former pdoc who was male. Every appt he would ask me if I was sexually active and I would always say no like that was ridiculous. I was being treated with Celexa at the time and was divorced with 4 kids.
Since then I've seen two female pdoc's who have never asked anything like that.
Do you think that was a normal question for the male pdoc to ask me at every appt?
Posted by Poet on November 4, 2003, at 9:00:45
In reply to Inappropriate pdoc question?, posted by sadmom on November 4, 2003, at 8:49:24
Hi Sadmom,
A gynecologist should ask if you are sexually active at every appointment, not a pdoc. The only thing I can think of is he wanted to know what other meds you were on, but then he should have asked specifically about oral contraceptives, not sexual activity.
If he was trying to get you to talk about sex and your relationships with men he went about it the wrong way. I think it was inapproriate behavior on his part.
Poet
Posted by jane d on November 5, 2003, at 0:29:45
In reply to Inappropriate pdoc question?, posted by sadmom on November 4, 2003, at 8:49:24
Sadmom,
It could be a legitimate question. Lack of interest in sex can be both a symptom of depression and a side effect of some drugs. Of course it can also be a side effect of trying to raise 4 kids as a single parent - something I suspect women doctors may be quicker to grasp.
I always thought it was just as strange that some psychiatrists never ask me about sex at all. I wonder whether they don't ask any of their patients or if they are only comfortable asking the men.
What's your gut feeling about the way the question was asked? Did it give you the creeps? If one of the women were to ask you do you think they'd ask the question the same way?
Jane
Posted by Elle2021 on November 5, 2003, at 1:31:02
In reply to Inappropriate pdoc question?, posted by sadmom on November 4, 2003, at 8:49:24
Hmm...sounds like an experiece I had. When I first started seeing my pdoc, he asked me about my sexual history. For some reason I am uncomfortable discussing it with him. He pushed the topic as far as he could. Then he asked what questions I thought were too personal. He told me that if he asked me something that I felt uncomfortable answering, just to say, I don't want to answer that. I believe he thought I had been sexually molested (I haven't), and that was the reason for the interrogation. Maybe it's the same case for you.
Elle
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