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Posted by Dinah on August 2, 2003, at 13:28:53
"When to Say Goodbye to Your Therapist" by Catherine Johnson
I've haven't quite finished it, but so far it is the best book I've seen other than "In Session" for a book on feelings for your therapist from a client centered point of view. It's already got me doing a lot of thinking. Fortunately most of my conclusions so far are good, but I've also decided to try to make some changes in my life based on what I've read.
Anyway, it's so rare that I come across a book this good that I'm recommending it. It's out of print, but Amazon has several used copies of it available at quite low prices.
Posted by Morgen on August 2, 2003, at 22:09:07
In reply to A Book Recommendation, posted by Dinah on August 2, 2003, at 13:28:53
Wow, thank you for pointing this out Dinah. I'm going to read it with you.
Morgen
Posted by judy1 on August 3, 2003, at 17:31:22
In reply to A Book Recommendation, posted by Dinah on August 2, 2003, at 13:28:53
Posted by Dinah on August 3, 2003, at 19:36:09
In reply to Re: A Book Recommendation, posted by Morgen on August 2, 2003, at 22:09:07
What I really liked were the chapters about whether you were letting your therapy take the place of real life relationships, or interfering with them. It made me take a good hard look, and I discussed the whole thing with my husband.
We both think that I don't really. I already do what the book suggests. I share with him an overview of what's going on in therapy, and I talk to him intimately about some of the issues raised in therapy. For example, he knows my parents better than my therapist does so I might ask him what his impressions are of what my therapist thinks.
What I don't share that much with my husband is the stuff he just can't take, and has proven he can't take. The self destructive thoughts. And I know that's just because he loves me. That's why it's good that our therapists don't have personal feelings for us. We don't have to shield them from things.
But the book did make me think about those issues, and I think that's good. And I did resolve to keep emotional intimacy with my husband one of my primary goals, and to watch for therapy interfering with that.
Posted by torpedo on August 5, 2003, at 13:24:23
In reply to A Book Recommendation, posted by Dinah on August 2, 2003, at 13:28:53
Hi, everyone. I have just signed up, and have read a little of the material so far. You guys seem like a pretty good bunch. I hope I can get a little help, and perhaps, give a little as well. Here is the reader's digest version of myself. I am a submarine service vet, 39 years old, married with no kids. But, we have a cat that is very smart, with no desire to go to college. I am being treated for depression, and brother, is it a haul! The navy conveniently decided not to diagnose me with it, so it stuck around for several years, and got dug in real, REAL deep. So, there I am. I hope I fit in. Cheers, everybody.
Posted by judy1 on August 5, 2003, at 20:06:25
In reply to Hello, and intro., posted by torpedo on August 5, 2003, at 13:24:23
welcome :-). I'm sure it's extremely difficult to get help while you are in the military, are you still on active duty? How did they word your diagnosis? I hope you are able to get good help now. take care, judy
Posted by torpedo on August 6, 2003, at 6:42:36
In reply to Re: Hello, and intro. » torpedo, posted by judy1 on August 5, 2003, at 20:06:25
Hi. I got out in 1988. I was really not diagnosed at all. I was refered because I was having suicidal thoughts. The "doc" gave me a book to read, and that was about all. Things continued to decline through out my time in service. I finally got to the end of my rope after I was discharged, and decided to go to the VA for help. I got talk therapy there, but they balked at medicating me. I spoke to a civilian therapist about three years ago, and finally decided to try the medical route. I could kick myself silly for resisting the idea of meds. If it wasn't for the macho rubbish, I could have started my recovery YEARS ago! I am making progress now. But, like I said...what a haul! Cheers!
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