Posted by Dinah on August 3, 2003, at 19:36:09
In reply to Re: A Book Recommendation, posted by Morgen on August 2, 2003, at 22:09:07
What I really liked were the chapters about whether you were letting your therapy take the place of real life relationships, or interfering with them. It made me take a good hard look, and I discussed the whole thing with my husband.
We both think that I don't really. I already do what the book suggests. I share with him an overview of what's going on in therapy, and I talk to him intimately about some of the issues raised in therapy. For example, he knows my parents better than my therapist does so I might ask him what his impressions are of what my therapist thinks.
What I don't share that much with my husband is the stuff he just can't take, and has proven he can't take. The self destructive thoughts. And I know that's just because he loves me. That's why it's good that our therapists don't have personal feelings for us. We don't have to shield them from things.
But the book did make me think about those issues, and I think that's good. And I did resolve to keep emotional intimacy with my husband one of my primary goals, and to watch for therapy interfering with that.
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