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Posted by joseph8 on August 12, 2002, at 1:12:02
Hi
I have been a solitary person all my life. I like my own company , I have friends but my problem is I dont really enjoy being aroud them. I live with two of my best friends and there is always people at our house and it bugs me. I can easily talk with them and Im not rude or aything when they come to our house I just dont enjoy it (and I think I should). I like going back to my home town where my parents live and I can lock my self in my old room without being disturbed. I go days wihout seeing people and I like it. When I observe other people , they like it when their friends come around. I just seem to have a disliking for socal interaction. I become anoyed when I am interrupted from what I am doing. People really bug me. I dont hate people and I know how to act civil around others, I just find that they arent interesting. Im sure this is some sort of dissorder. I was wondering if anyone had any comments or experience the same sort of feelings
Posted by .tabitha. on August 14, 2002, at 3:32:38
In reply to bored of ......?, posted by joseph8 on August 12, 2002, at 1:12:02
Hi,
Well it could be a lot of things. I've gone thru periods of feeling similarly, I can tell you what I've learned for myself.
Can you identify what it is that is missing from your friendships? Are they missing qualities that you value? When I was younger, I really didn't know myself well enough to know what type of people I liked. I just tended to make do with people who were available. All the while I felt guilty that they seemed to like me better than I liked them. I still fall into that trap at times. Also at times I don't know how to guide the conversation or activities into areas that interest me. This happens even with people I do like. Therapy can help with those types of things.
Depression could also be the culprit. When my depression is bad I just don't connect with people. When you're not connecting, then being with people just feels draining. Since I've gotten improvement in my depression with meds, I enjoy many more people's company.
Finally, I wonder if you feel lonely. Are you really OK with just your own company? People have different levels of social needs, it may be that you don't need much contact.
Wish I could be of more help,
Tabitha
Posted by nikioct73 on August 24, 2002, at 21:14:24
In reply to bored of ......?, posted by joseph8 on August 12, 2002, at 1:12:02
Wow..if you do find out what it is you have.. mean if its an actual disorder let me know..my Now Ex b-friend(for the third time in four very long years..)Feels exactly as you do about other people....maybe even more extreme as he can shut himself up in his "cave" for a week at a time when he gets home from work only to come out to hit the head and eat...it ruined our (and all his other ) relationship...well it was a huge contrubutiong factor anyways..well anyways you know your not alone in this feeling ..good luck figuring it all out..take care
niki
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