Posted by .tabitha. on August 14, 2002, at 3:32:38
In reply to bored of ......?, posted by joseph8 on August 12, 2002, at 1:12:02
Hi,
Well it could be a lot of things. I've gone thru periods of feeling similarly, I can tell you what I've learned for myself.
Can you identify what it is that is missing from your friendships? Are they missing qualities that you value? When I was younger, I really didn't know myself well enough to know what type of people I liked. I just tended to make do with people who were available. All the while I felt guilty that they seemed to like me better than I liked them. I still fall into that trap at times. Also at times I don't know how to guide the conversation or activities into areas that interest me. This happens even with people I do like. Therapy can help with those types of things.
Depression could also be the culprit. When my depression is bad I just don't connect with people. When you're not connecting, then being with people just feels draining. Since I've gotten improvement in my depression with meds, I enjoy many more people's company.
Finally, I wonder if you feel lonely. Are you really OK with just your own company? People have different levels of social needs, it may be that you don't need much contact.
Wish I could be of more help,
Tabitha
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