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Posted by Wildflower on September 9, 2006, at 12:45:39
I haven't spent much time on this board but after reading some of your posts, I think I'm in the right place.
To look at me, you might not consider me to be overweight. However, I'm trying my best to hide a weight issue. Up until I turned 30, weight wasn't something that obsessed about. Now, I can't stop thinking about it or the next time I'll get to eat.
Right now I'm supposed to be out shopping for new clothes (suits for work) but I'm online trying to avoid the whole crying spell that shopping will trigger. In the last 6 weeks, I've gained 10-15 pounds. This may not seem like a big deal but I'm late to work every morning because I can't fit in my clothes. Pin stripe pants are supposed to have straight lines but the lines are now severly stretched.
I feel like a total fraud. Those who have been around PB for a while know that I teach two fitness classes a week along with my full time job. How can I convince women to lose weight when all I can do is gain it?
Any willpower I had is gone along with my metabolism. I've been researching the *Easy* but non-healthy ways I could lose weight. I'm terrified that I may have an eating disorder if I continue down this path.
It's sad when people told me 10 lbs. ago that I looked the best they've ever seen me. They were being polite after my last weight gain. Those same people are saying the same phrase again. Obviously, they're liars.
Posted by Racer on September 9, 2006, at 14:25:42
In reply to Can no longer deal with this weight issue, posted by Wildflower on September 9, 2006, at 12:45:39
> > It's sad when people told me 10 lbs. ago that I looked the best they've ever seen me. They were being polite after my last weight gain. Those same people are saying the same phrase again. Obviously, they're liars.
They may not be liars, you know that, right? It could be that your body image distortion blinds you to having held your weight too low for a long time. It may not be that you could develop an eating disorder, so much as you may have to admit the one you've already got...
Or, of course, that could be totally off base.
My nutritional counselor told me that HEALTHY people without weight issues should expect to gain five to ten pounds per decade. Sure, that's not 10 to 15, but you are going to gain a bit of weight at 30. Period. Just gonna happen, for nearly everyone.
And it's not your job to convince anyone to lose weight, so put that thought out of your head. You might actual inspire MORE people if you're not stick thin yourself. What you're "supposed" to do with those students is model for them the benefits of being fit, of being in shape and healthy, while teaching them how to get there themselves. And you would feel much worse, truly, if you knew that the healthy advice you were giving them about healthy weight loss was radically different from the unhealthy ways you were going about it.
I hope that helps a little. It's terrible, and I can't offer you any magic cures. I can only say I've been through it -- and the 35, and 40 weight gains. Metabolism changes, life changes, hormone changes, medication changes... They all play a role, and there's no much that can be done about most of them. Continue to eat a healthy diet -- none of the fads, include starches and carbs of all kinds -- and continue to pursue healthy exercise, and I hope you find your way to accepting your body.
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