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Posted by Racer on May 18, 2005, at 18:39:24
I'm so miserable about myself right now. My self image has completely collapsed, and I'm not able to deal with it. I just want it all to drop away again -- all the weight I've gained. I've been restricting again, but no loss so far. It's harder now, and a part of me just can't stand being hungry anymore. And the fact that I'm not able to restrict as much as I was, and that I haven't lost any weight yet, those just make me feel like such a loser! Not to mention that my internal view of my body has changed from being tallish, slimmish, attractive, and capable; to being fat, lumpy, almost a caricature of a human being, and obviously a total zero as a person.
How the hell can someone get over that? How can that be combatted?
Damn, all i want is to be thin, to feel good about myself again, but that isn't seeming all that possible right now.
Has anyone successfully made it through this?
Posted by partlycloudy on May 19, 2005, at 9:51:29
In reply to Weight gain and self image and depression..., posted by Racer on May 18, 2005, at 18:39:24
Answering as someone with self image and self esteem issues, what kind of things to you do in therapy to address this? I'm concerned that your therapist maybe isn't "getting it" - that this is such an issue for you. There must be some practical activities to help us arrive at self acceptance. I am surrounded by mirrors in my home, yet I have myself trained to not even glance at them since I think of myself as lumpy, bumpy, and apart from my body, as having a perpetual Bad Hair Day.
Now Racer, I have been lucky enough to have met you in person when you had started your journey in recovery, and so I'm completely objective. You're not in the least bit unattractive or lumpy looking. I understand that who I see is not who you see; and my husband keeps trying to tell me that I'm attractive (ha!).
What is this barrier that prevents us from seeing past the carnival mirrors of our brains to what the rest of the world sees when they look at us? How do we strip away our misperceptions and allow ourselves to truly see ourselves for who and what we are?
I know this is of no practical help to you, and I'm sorry. But I am on this journey too, in my own way. I'm certain we can help each other.
partlycloudy
Posted by Racer on May 19, 2005, at 14:29:41
In reply to Re: Weight gain and self image and depression... » Racer, posted by partlycloudy on May 19, 2005, at 9:51:29
Oh, man! Talk about crazy -- I know that you're beautiful, have one of the loveliest speaking voices of anyone I know, and are great company. How in the hell can you think of yourself as anything other than lovely?
Same way I can, right?
My new T isn't even discussing it. It hasn't come up, isn't on her radar, and there are some other issues, too. I may be looking again...
Talk to you soon -- we've got a date!
Posted by Rocketgrrl on May 24, 2005, at 21:29:22
In reply to Weight gain and self image and depression..., posted by Racer on May 18, 2005, at 18:39:24
Hi racer...I know how you feel. The only thing I have found that helps is reading about positive body image. One book that really cheered me and empowered me was The Obsession by Kim Chernin. Its a bit feminist but has some great points.
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