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Posted by maya3 on July 20, 2010, at 12:04:51
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Posted by fayeroe on July 20, 2010, at 15:45:18
In reply to Name change, posted by maya3 on July 20, 2010, at 12:04:51
Maya, I hope you won't be offended if I don't know who you are/were. The name changes are confusing to me.
Posted by maya3 on July 21, 2010, at 7:46:07
In reply to Re: Name change » maya3, posted by fayeroe on July 20, 2010, at 15:45:18
Of course not. I thought that was the purpose of name changes :)
Posted by Dinah on July 21, 2010, at 11:27:36
In reply to Re: Name change » maya3, posted by fayeroe on July 20, 2010, at 15:45:18
To me as well. I always feel at such a disadvantage. Remember that old saying? Someone would come up to someone who didn't know them from Adam and address them by name, and the person addressed would say "I'm sorry, you have me at a disadvantage." There was a certain amount of truth to that.
Dinah is Dinah is Dinah. So I always feel at a disadvantage to anyone who might have once known me. But that's just *my* feeling, and totally my responsibility.
Sadly I've had to learn to have a bit of distance over the matter in order to manage my feelings of uncertainty. I figure that anyone who cares if I know them will tell me. And if they don't, then it's just as well that I don't worry about it overmuch. Lopsided relationships are so uncomfortable to me. But of course those are my feelings, not a reflection on anyone else.
Just musing on the topic, I think. You seem to have gained a fair perspective yourself. :)
Posted by Dinah on July 21, 2010, at 11:29:09
In reply to Name change, posted by maya3 on July 20, 2010, at 12:04:51
Sorry, Maya, for the diversion of your thread.
If I never knew you, then I'm happy to meet you.
If I did know you, then I'm reasonably sure I'm happy to "meet" you again.
Posted by maya3 on July 21, 2010, at 15:33:16
In reply to Re: Name change » maya3, posted by Dinah on July 21, 2010, at 11:29:09
Thank you Dinah.
Likewise.
Posted by maya3 on July 21, 2010, at 18:28:31
In reply to Name change, posted by maya3 on July 20, 2010, at 12:04:51
If it makes it any easier, at least as far as my name change is concerned, then I'll disclose that I didn't use to write frequently on any of the boards. My former name would probably not be familiar to any of you :)
My name change came as a result of suspectng I had unintentionally hurt someone on one of the boards and fearing that seeing my former name would trigger pain for that individual.
Posted by Dinah on July 21, 2010, at 20:00:16
In reply to Re: Name change, posted by maya3 on July 21, 2010, at 18:28:31
Thank you for explaining, and it does help. I apologize if I pressured you in any way.
I can certainly see the appeal of a fresh start, and it's nice of you to not want to cause someone pain. I admit to a personal preference for apology, redemption, etc. I've been amazed over the years of the power of it, when I have been the recipient. But that's a purely personal preference.
Posted by maya3 on July 22, 2010, at 5:47:00
In reply to Re: Name change » maya3, posted by Dinah on July 21, 2010, at 20:00:16
No need to apologize. You didn't pressure me; I simply realized that refraining from an explanation would leave you, and perhaps others, with a feeling of being in the dark regarding which of your babble friends may have chosen not to update you about the change and why :)
I agree with you about apologies. In fact, I did apologize, but the truth is that the problematic message I wrote was a general statement and not directed towards a particular babbler. I realized, however, due to the responses, that I had touched on a sensitive issue. I fear the apology cannot prevent offended persons from associating my name with the painful feelings the message has aroused. Therefore, it is best that the former name no longer appear on the board, with hope that the effect of the message will diminish with time.
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 22, 2010, at 23:03:22
In reply to Name change, posted by maya3 on July 20, 2010, at 12:04:51
This is the end of the thread.
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