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Posted by dispatcher on June 11, 2007, at 9:49:51
In reply to Re: About the writing board » dispatcher, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2007, at 9:23:00
I know that your f*ck you fairy isn't me, honey. I'm not projecting or analyzing - but it's actaully pretty clear who it IS. I do know who you are referring to, as well the deputies who posted in the thread.
Do not deign to think posters cannot read between the lines.
The writing is loud and clear and as you have opined so eloquently about someone else's behavior - "it isn't flattering."
You're irritated? - gee, me too!!!!
Hugs and kisses,
you're quite the peach!
Posted by fayeroe on June 11, 2007, at 16:21:50
In reply to should be offended » Toph, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2007, at 8:34:25
"I can understand your point, though I also believe that the only one who decides what they should or should not be offended by is that person."
gg
thanks for clearing that up. now we can pick and choose what offends us? it offends me when someone jumps into the middle of something with both her feet when it isn't any of her business.
Posted by susan47 on June 11, 2007, at 16:42:03
In reply to Redirected to Admin., posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2007, at 8:29:18
> From Racer's post: "Any follow ups should be directed to Administration, and should themselves be civil."
> Thus, I've redirected replies related to administrative action to the admin board. Here is a link:
> http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20070605/msgs/762325.html
>
> ggI went to this link, gg, read through to the present end, and was astonished that anyone, ANYONE on this board, would deign to think that I was being personally offensive to anyone else. This is why Babble is such a ridiculously silly place at times. Mirrors are an awesome tool. Thanks, gg, for all your efforts and all your honesties.
Posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2007, at 17:26:46
In reply to Re: should be offended, posted by fayeroe on June 11, 2007, at 16:21:50
> "I can understand your point, though I also believe that the only one who decides what they should or should not be offended by is that person."
>
> gg
>
> thanks for clearing that up. now we can pick and choose what offends us?What do you mean by "now"? Nothing's changed, each of us has always had the right to be offended by what we will.
> it offends me when someone jumps into the middle of something with both her feet when it isn't any of her business.
Never fear. I held my nose.
Um, and I believe you meant, "I feel offended when blah blah blah?" Because otherwise, well, that would be as if someone else were causing your feelings of offense, and of course that's impossible, you know. Not to mention...
Although please do let me know if you meant exactly what you wrote.
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2007, at 17:31:47
In reply to INTERESTING., posted by susan47 on June 11, 2007, at 16:42:03
Posted by Racer on June 11, 2007, at 17:33:06
In reply to Re: About the writing board, posted by dispatcher on June 11, 2007, at 8:24:32
> which means that you can write all kinds of nasty stuff on here about other posters, as long as it's *seemingly* cleverly veiled in creative writing - right gg?
>
> Some folks seem to have perfected that -
>
> how's your f*ck you fairy, by the way?Please don't post anything which could lead others to feel accused or put down. If you're unclear about the civility guidelines, please check out the FAQ, located at http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
Any follow ups should be directed to the Administrative board, and should also be civil.
Racer, acting as deputy for Dr Bob
Posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2007, at 17:34:46
In reply to My Dear gg,, posted by dispatcher on June 11, 2007, at 9:49:51
I'm amazed at your mind-reading abilities, truly. Jeepers, can you tell us where Jimmy Hoffa is, pretty please with sugar on it?
snort
gg
Posted by 10derHeart on June 11, 2007, at 18:24:43
In reply to My Dear gg,, posted by dispatcher on June 11, 2007, at 9:49:51
>>I do know who you are referring to, as well the deputies who posted in the thread.
If I understand this to mean that the "deputies who posted in the thread" know who gg is referring to, well, I posted in that thread, and I have absolutely, positively, no earthly idea *what* or *who* you are talking about.
I never even thought gg was referring to one particular person, or even an actual person at all. Although on re-reading, I see how she may have been, but if that's so, I still didn't then, and I still don't now, have a clue what person.
I was responding to the overall emotion or sentiment, in the writing.
Posted by fayeroe on June 11, 2007, at 18:49:56
In reply to Re: should be offended » fayeroe, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2007, at 17:26:46
> > "I can understand your point, though I also believe that the only one who decides what they should or should not be offended by is that person."
> >
> > gg
> >
> > thanks for clearing that up. now we can pick and choose what offends us?
>
> What do you mean by "now"? Nothing's changed, each of us has always had the right to be offended by what we will.
>
> > it offends me when someone jumps into the middle of something with both her feet when it isn't any of her business.
>
> Never fear. I held my nose.
>
> Um, and I believe you meant, "I feel offended when blah blah blah?" Because otherwise, well, that would be as if someone else were causing your feelings of offense, and of course that's impossible, you know. Not to mention...
>
> Although please do let me know if you meant exactly what you wrote.
>
> gg
>
>i feel offended by your quickness at jumping in where you aren't wanted or needed. even if you did hold your nose. p.s. but if it kept you from smelling yourself, hey, if it gets you through the night....it's cool with me......
Posted by fayeroe on June 11, 2007, at 18:55:57
In reply to Re: should be offended » gardenergirl, posted by fayeroe on June 11, 2007, at 18:49:56
Verb 1. deign - do something that one considers to be below one's dignity
from THE FREE DICTIONARY......
Posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2007, at 18:58:00
In reply to Re: should be offended » gardenergirl, posted by fayeroe on June 11, 2007, at 18:49:56
One thing that's true about you, Pat; you know exactly what you're doing here.
Oh, and what you want or need does not necessarily equal what anyone else wants or needs. But then I know you know that, too.
Au revoir,
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2007, at 19:02:03
In reply to Re: p.s. gg » fayeroe, posted by fayeroe on June 11, 2007, at 18:55:57
I was 'spressing my reaction to the use of the word. I didn't think I had to 'splain that. No, there's not enough time. I'd better sum up: Snort!
Posted by fayeroe on June 11, 2007, at 20:19:00
In reply to Thank you, I was aware of that. » fayeroe, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2007, at 19:02:03
> I was 'spressing my reaction to the use of the word. I didn't think I had to 'splain that. No, there's not enough time. I'd better sum up: Snort!
it's become too tiresome for words......Ciao!!!
Posted by fayeroe on June 11, 2007, at 20:28:54
In reply to Re: should be offended » fayeroe, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2007, at 18:58:00
> One thing that's true about you, Pat; you know exactly what you're doing here.
>
> Oh, and what you want or need does not necessarily equal what anyone else wants or needs. But then I know you know that, too.
>
> Au revoir,
>
> ggjust wanted to add this, it's good that you know why i'm here, because i sure don't!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2007, at 20:33:33
In reply to Re: should be offended, posted by fayeroe on June 11, 2007, at 20:28:54
Posted by sleepygirl on June 11, 2007, at 21:55:06
In reply to it says 'what' not 'why' (nm) » fayeroe, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2007, at 20:33:33
Posted by Phillipa on June 11, 2007, at 22:19:18
In reply to About the writing board » susan47, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2007, at 8:24:31
I always thought the writing board was a solitary place that you could spill your guts or frustrations without being afraid to say what you are feeling. As always said a trigger would signal others not to read the post just venting title could say? Love Phillipa
Posted by susan47 on June 11, 2007, at 23:45:44
In reply to Deign???? LOL (nm) » susan47, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2007, at 17:31:47
Deign, darling. As in one of The Shorter Oxford English Dictionary's definitions, "Treat as worthy of, dignify with" therefore, when I say I have a hard time believing anyone would think what I have to say as being worthy of offending anyone, when you and others here do it so extremely well (so much better, in fact, than I would ever deign to) under your thinly veiled disguise of "civility".
I don't understand why you think that was worth a "Snort" although it is quite in character with your personality .. of course, this is just my opinion and only that. I could be wrong, and goodness knows I've been wrong before.
Posted by confuzyq on June 12, 2007, at 1:16:34
In reply to Again, deign???? Snort! » dispatcher, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2007, at 17:34:46
... please, please think some things over, at least for the sake of your clients....
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/relate/20070210/msgs/761685.html
"...One of my biggest biggest issues, maybe even THE biggest is fear of rejection. This involves fear of being judged or criticized or that I've disappointed someone or made them mad or whatever. Any hint of any of that, real or projected, and I equate that somehow with rejection. Then I feel hurt and/or angry. Or I totally freeze and do nothing to avoid the possibility. Not a very adaptive style..."
Please also consider if that fits in with this (statement that I personally believe could be fairly considered a) platitude:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20070605/msgs/762419.html
"...Um, and I believe you meant, "I feel offended when blah blah blah?" Because otherwise, well, that would be as if someone else were causing your feelings of offense, and of course that's impossible, you know."
(This is NOT in any way a complaint about either of the above posts, so did not call for use of the "notify" button instead.)
Posted by fayeroe on June 12, 2007, at 8:23:46
In reply to Re: In complete seriousness and concern... » gardenergirl, posted by confuzyq on June 12, 2007, at 1:16:34
in complete seriousness and concern for Babble, i would have never ventured past my original posts, but i received my third rude babblemail from someone here and i'm afraid to say that it put me over the edge. so, instead of "flight", i chose "fight"........
can't see that it did very many people any good and if i offended any friends, it is my "fight" coming out. and i apologize if you were upset over my quarrelsome posts.
there are times when enough is enough and the babblemail did it for me.
and there was a statement made that "we all know what you're doing here" yesterday (jumping to conclusions or a hell of a good student) and it didn't get a PBC.......and that along with several other statements could have received a PBC. oh well, we all know what works here. xoxox pat
Posted by gardenergirl on June 12, 2007, at 8:47:28
In reply to Re: In complete seriousness and concern... » confuzyq, posted by fayeroe on June 12, 2007, at 8:23:46
>
> and there was a statement made that "we all know what you're doing here" yesterdayYou might want to try reading that again. There's nothing anywhere I can see that states what you quoted. Though of course I may have missed it elsewhere.
What I *did* express was acknowledgment of your courage of convictions in expressing what you mean regardless of the consequences. I actually think this is honorable, though I didn't express that directly.
gg
Posted by fayeroe on June 12, 2007, at 8:47:34
In reply to Gardener Girl, Yes., posted by susan47 on June 11, 2007, at 23:45:44
> Deign, darling. As in one of The Shorter Oxford English Dictionary's definitions, "Treat as worthy of, dignify with" therefore, when I say I have a hard time believing anyone would think what I have to say as being worthy of offending anyone, when you and others here do it so extremely well (so much better, in fact, than I would ever deign to) under your thinly veiled disguise of "civility".
> I don't understand why you think that was worth a "Snort" although it is quite in character with your personality .. of course, this is just my opinion and only that. I could be wrong, and goodness knows I've been wrong before.
keep writing.............xoxoxo pat
Posted by fayeroe on June 12, 2007, at 8:50:28
In reply to Re: In complete seriousness and concern... » fayeroe, posted by gardenergirl on June 12, 2007, at 8:47:28
> >
> > and there was a statement made that "we all know what you're doing here" yesterday
>
> You might want to try reading that again. There's nothing anywhere I can see that states what you quoted. Though of course I may have missed it elsewhere.
>
> What I *did* express was acknowledgment of your courage of convictions in expressing what you mean regardless of the consequences. I actually think this is honorable, though I didn't express that directly.
>
> ggi feel that my actions are honorable. rarely needed any reassurance of that. i don't skirt around the issues nor do i hide behind the "civility" "rules" here.
and this is the last word i have to say on this mess. as i said before, if i offended any of my friends by getting down in the trenches, i apologize to them.
Posted by gardenergirl on June 12, 2007, at 9:18:26
In reply to Re: In complete seriousness and concern... » gardenergirl, posted by confuzyq on June 12, 2007, at 1:16:34
Thanks for your concern, and given your "please please", you sound quite concerned. I admit though I haven't been able to figure out the connection you suggest between something I posted for support and my work.
>
> "...Um, and I believe you meant, "I feel offended when blah blah blah?" Because otherwise, well, that would be as if someone else were causing your feelings of offense, and of course that's impossible, you know."Actually, the first part of that quoted section is a restatement that could be used in response to a "Please rephrase". The second part, starting with "Because" goes on to describe what meaning the sentence structure the other poster used conveys and the difficulty I have with that concept. Perhaps it's that second part you consider to be a platitude. I believe it depends on the usage, but it certainly could be viewed as such.
I'm totally lost, however, on how the trait I described in the first post you cite relates to discussing what another poster's words convey and the problem I have with that message. And I'm completely flummoxed on how that might relate to working with clients. Do folks here think that the gg they see here is the only gg there is? Is it assumed that the gg one sees here is the gg who is sitting across from a client? I might actually be speechless if that's true.
Thanks for your thoughts and feedback on this. Please feel free to babblemail or email me to discuss this in more depth if you wish.
gg
Posted by dispatcher on June 12, 2007, at 13:20:26
In reply to Re: should be offended, posted by fayeroe on June 11, 2007, at 20:28:54
Hmm, I dunno if fayeroe's real name is Pat or not, but gg - if it is - then pray tell, what is yours??
I hope you are as comfortable using YOUR first name as you are about using others!!!
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