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Posted by Toph on May 31, 2005, at 10:20:33
In reply to Re: invited to join that list » Toph, posted by Dr. Bob on May 29, 2005, at 13:37:42
So, I remind my wife at the end of last week that I'm going to have dinner with my internet friends the following Friday in Chicago. She says, "You know that is when your brother is having the graduation party for your niece." In a temporary loss of priorities I suggest that I will just rush downtown to join everyone after dinner. She asks, "What is your problem? Your sister is flying in from Denver and your brother from North Carolina and you want to go see some people you chat with on the computer?" Trying to salvage this experience I ask, "Honey, this thing is kind of important to me, if I don't go Friday, what would you think about having them all over Saturday for a picnic? You know I've never met them." She screams, "NEVER MET THEM, THEY PRACTICALLY LIVE HERE!"
That went well.
I've come to my senses and I realize that my niece, my brother, my sister and my marriage are more important to me than this wonderful dinner with the Babblers that I was looking forward to attending. I hope that I will be able to join you guys for some part of Saturday's events. I'm sorry about the dinner.
Toph
Posted by AuntieMel on May 31, 2005, at 10:28:00
In reply to Nuts!, posted by Toph on May 31, 2005, at 10:20:33
Thanks. I just spit iced tea all over my keyboard.
I believe you have my number? We *will* expect you to be at the Saturday festivities, you know.
Posted by Spoc on May 31, 2005, at 11:31:16
In reply to Nuts!, posted by Toph on May 31, 2005, at 10:20:33
PLAN A, FRIDAY:
Take *day or half day off work, meet babblers in Chicago from approx. 5 or 6 PM to 8 PM. Get back home with *reasonable* time left to fulfill relative duties. ("Reasonable" defined as, wife's part of the compromise.)
*YES! I'm giving you the afternoon off. You're welcome. ;-)
PLAN B, SATURDAY:
1. Tell them a short group road trip to Chicago would be a nice change of pace for you all.
2. Start out at a crowded place (e.g. Millenium Park; strolling Mich Ave; Lincoln Park; lunch destination), and LO AND BEHOLD!! Run into an old friend you haven't talked to in AGES!!!
3. Disappear for an hour or two (with wife in cahoots, as her part of the compromise).
Solved! See you there. ;-)
Posted by fallsfall on May 31, 2005, at 11:40:51
In reply to Nuts!, posted by Toph on May 31, 2005, at 10:20:33
Some of us will be staying in Chicago on Sunday, too.
Posted by fallsfall on May 31, 2005, at 11:50:19
In reply to Re: what color shirt?, posted by Dr. Bob on May 31, 2005, at 3:06:41
Posted by Dinah on May 31, 2005, at 18:51:04
In reply to Nuts!, posted by Toph on May 31, 2005, at 10:20:33
I'll miss you, but I admire your priorities.
Hope to see you Saturday.
Posted by Toph on May 31, 2005, at 19:20:29
In reply to Re: Nuts! » Toph, posted by Spoc on May 31, 2005, at 11:31:16
Spoc, I appreciate the planning, sounds like you've been there too. Plan A won't work. My brother's thing is at 5:30 probably ending at 8:00, but then I have my brother and sister in town who I see once every year or so. No whisking away to Chi Town in this scenario.
As for Plan B, well, it's too damn devious. My wife already shows signs of having illicit internet lover suspicions and the only way I hook up with everyone is by simply telling the truth. I need 6 hours or so to meet people who know to be of like mind and experience. I would regret it if I missed the opportunity. I'm sure we'll find a compromise.
Posted by AuntieMel on June 1, 2005, at 8:51:39
In reply to Re: Nuts! » Spoc, posted by Toph on May 31, 2005, at 19:20:29
Bring wife on Saturday. Suspicions allayed.
Posted by Toph on June 1, 2005, at 9:08:11
In reply to Re: Compromise » Toph, posted by AuntieMel on June 1, 2005, at 8:51:39
> Bring wife on Saturday. Suspicions allayed.
Good idea, but I thought that had been previously been discouraged Mel.
Posted by AuntieMel on June 1, 2005, at 13:14:58
In reply to Re: Compromise » AuntieMel, posted by Toph on June 1, 2005, at 9:08:11
This, from falls, is really the last comment I can find on the topic:
"So, I guess if family were genuinely interested in understanding our world better it would be OK. But if they are just looking for a social outing, it might not be the best place."
Although it will also be social, of course.
You know her better than we do. How do you think it would work?
Posted by Toph on June 1, 2005, at 17:08:03
In reply to Re: Compromise » Toph, posted by AuntieMel on June 1, 2005, at 13:14:58
She's great and it would be fine, but...
There's that part about me having mentioned her a lot here,
There's the garage sale she's having Saturday (I forgot that too),
There's the whole thing about these being MY friends, and
There's the whole problem - What if you guys like her better than you like me?
Posted by TamaraJ on June 1, 2005, at 17:41:30
In reply to Re: Compromise » AuntieMel, posted by Toph on June 1, 2005, at 17:08:03
Hi Toph!
Perhaps the compromise could be that she go to Chicago with you, have the opportunity to meet the Babble gang, and then she can do her own thing, like visit a museum she is interested in or do some shopping, if that's what she wants to do after having met your babble friends.
I so wish I could go this year < sigh >. It sounds like it is going to be fun.
> She's great and it would be fine, but...
> There's that part about me having mentioned her a lot here,
> There's the garage sale she's having Saturday (I forgot that too),
> There's the whole thing about these being MY friends, and
> There's the whole problem - What if you guys like her better than you like me?
Posted by AuntieMel on June 1, 2005, at 18:01:25
In reply to Re: Compromise » AuntieMel, posted by Toph on June 1, 2005, at 17:08:03
No way I could like her better than you. I don't relate all that great to the mentally unsick.
Posted by Poet on June 1, 2005, at 18:35:28
In reply to Re: Compromise » AuntieMel, posted by Toph on June 1, 2005, at 17:08:03
Hi Toph,
Could you offer to help get ready for the garage sale? Putting on price tags, getting everything in place and helping out for the first hour or two?
Maybe you could still join us Saturday afternoon?
I understand how obligations are. My husband doesn't mind me going to meet my online friends, he cares more about how much I am paying for the hotel room for the night. I assure you I am worth every penny, and even if I'm not I still have a temp job for the next week or two.
Poet
Posted by Poet on June 1, 2005, at 18:37:06
In reply to Re: Ok Then, so so far it's, posted by Dinah on May 30, 2005, at 21:17:32
Posted by AuntieMel on June 1, 2005, at 18:49:32
In reply to Re: Compromise » AuntieMel, posted by Toph on June 1, 2005, at 17:08:03
She might feel better about it knowing she could come if she wanted to.
Posted by Toph on June 1, 2005, at 19:10:55
In reply to Re: Compromise » Toph, posted by AuntieMel on June 1, 2005, at 18:49:32
Very astute Mel. She actually doesn't want me around for the sale Poet. If someone asks how much something is, I say, just take it. She makes hundreds of dollars at these things and still deducts a capitol loss on the 1040. That's why she's an administrator and I'm still a social worker. Anyway, thanks for all the encouragement everyone. I'm sure I will be there for some part of this event. How could I miss an opportunity to meet a real elf?
Posted by fallsfall on June 1, 2005, at 20:15:53
In reply to Re: Compromise » Toph, posted by AuntieMel on June 1, 2005, at 13:14:58
My comment on families joining us was intended to spark some conversation about the topic - not to lay down the law. But no one else commented. I don't know if that is because other agreed, or if they felt they didn't have the option of disagreeing or what. But I certainly don't have any more say than anyone else! And, as I said, in the Depression Support group I really did like it when family came to support one of our members.
So... Don't take my opinion as *the* answer!!!!! It is just my opinion.
Posted by Dinah on June 1, 2005, at 21:35:32
In reply to Re: Compromise » AuntieMel, posted by Toph on June 1, 2005, at 17:08:03
We'd never like her better than you, Toph. You're Toph, who's been here for us all this time. But we might be glad that our Toph has such a lovely wife and helpmate. :)
I think you should suggest she come meet us. If she sees we're not scary, she might feel better.
I have no problem with her coming.
I offered my husband the chance to come, and while he wouldn't have hung out with us, I'm sure, he would have probably said hi.
He couldn't though.
Posted by Toph on June 2, 2005, at 7:19:48
In reply to Re: Compromise » Toph, posted by Dinah on June 1, 2005, at 21:35:32
>...But we might be glad that our Toph has such a lovely wife and helpmate. :)...
>
See, I just know see'd like you guys. But she has the garage sale. Oh, and I was wrong about the loss deduction. But you can donate the stuff that doesn't sell and make a charitible deduction, I'm told.Have a great dinner. Michigan Avenue is fun at night. Be sure to get Bob so loaded he can't do any research on you guys. ; ) I wish I could hear all the stories. Hope to meet you Saturday.
Toph
Posted by Jai Narayan on June 2, 2005, at 8:57:53
In reply to Re: what color shirt?, posted by Dr. Bob on May 31, 2005, at 3:06:41
what size?
I'd love a t-shirt too.
but would have to be XL
jai
how would we pay you for them?
Posted by jay on June 2, 2005, at 18:08:09
In reply to Re: what color shirt?, posted by Jai Narayan on June 2, 2005, at 8:57:53
I posted this on social-babble, but this is a story that should be of deep concern to *all* of the world's citizens for human rights to us with a mental illness.
The post is here:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20050525/msgs/507022.htmlThanks for listening.
Jay
Posted by henrietta on June 2, 2005, at 19:46:09
In reply to Dr. Bob, all, PLEASE read..., posted by jay on June 2, 2005, at 18:08:09
Thank you, Jay, for this reminder of the real world that we have a responsibility to address.
hen
Posted by Poet on June 2, 2005, at 21:02:58
In reply to I think you've got the tally correct. (nm) » Dinah, posted by Poet on June 1, 2005, at 18:37:06
Posted by Spoc on June 3, 2005, at 7:45:43
In reply to See some of you tomorrow, wish all could come (nm), posted by Poet on June 2, 2005, at 21:02:58
... or something like that, if I see anyone I know. ;-) Happy commuting all.
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