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Posted by Dinah on October 27, 2004, at 21:32:26
I'm always saddened when someone I consider to be a friend doesn't consider me to be a friend in turn.
But that's life, I guess.
And perhaps it's all for the best.
Caring hurts. Not caring feels a whole lot better.
Posted by Dinah on October 27, 2004, at 21:35:28
In reply to Ah well., posted by Dinah on October 27, 2004, at 21:32:26
is that it's the people I most go out on a limb for that don't wish to speak to me. :(
Posted by alexandra_k on October 27, 2004, at 21:53:17
In reply to Ah well., posted by Dinah on October 27, 2004, at 21:32:26
Posted by TofuEmmy on October 27, 2004, at 21:57:02
In reply to Ah well., posted by Dinah on October 27, 2004, at 21:32:26
Posted by SLS on October 27, 2004, at 21:58:36
In reply to Re: What's really ironic, posted by Dinah on October 27, 2004, at 21:35:28
> is that it's the people I most go out on a limb for that don't wish to speak to me. :(
Dear Dinah,I don't think it is healthy for one to take personally the disappointing behavior of each and every person he goes out on a limb for, especially in a forum where mental illness is present. For instance, as well meaning as he would be, one suffering with Asbergers does not process social interaction the same way as someone who doesn't.
Just a suggestion.
:-)
- Scott
Posted by SLS on October 27, 2004, at 22:02:51
In reply to Ah well., posted by Dinah on October 27, 2004, at 21:32:26
> Caring hurts. Not caring feels a whole lot better.
Not having Dinah care feels a whole lot worse.
Please don't stop.
Selfish, aren't I.
:-)
- Scott
Posted by gardenergirl on October 27, 2004, at 22:15:29
In reply to Re: Ah well. » Dinah, posted by SLS on October 27, 2004, at 22:02:51
I agree...never stop caring. Just put your emotional sunscreen on at times?
(((Dinah)))
gg
Posted by Dinah on October 27, 2004, at 22:16:19
In reply to ((((Dinah)))) (nm), posted by alexandra_k on October 27, 2004, at 21:53:17
I had a good cry and feel somewhat better now.
Posted by gardenergirl on October 27, 2004, at 22:16:21
In reply to Re: Ah well., posted by gardenergirl on October 27, 2004, at 22:15:29
Posted by gardenergirl on October 27, 2004, at 22:17:01
In reply to And think of Emily Litella ;-) (nm), posted by gardenergirl on October 27, 2004, at 22:16:21
Posted by Dinah on October 27, 2004, at 22:17:49
In reply to Shoot! Roseanne Roseannadanna, I mean (nm), posted by gardenergirl on October 27, 2004, at 22:17:01
Well, thinking of either of them makes me smile.
But, you're right.
Posted by Dinah on October 27, 2004, at 22:23:10
In reply to Re: Ah well. » Dinah, posted by SLS on October 27, 2004, at 22:02:51
Oh, I suppose I was just feeling sorry for myself. I think I've stopped now. At least enough to feel sorry that I caused other people enough pain to request that I no longer speak to them, no matter how unintentional it was, as well as feeling sorry for myself. :) Well, it's hard to stop feeling sorry for yourself in one big step, you know?
I can't ever imagine stopping caring about you, Scott, no matter what my relationship with Babble is. :)
Posted by nikkit2 on October 28, 2004, at 7:03:55
In reply to Ah well., posted by Dinah on October 27, 2004, at 21:32:26
Dinah,
I can see why this would hurt, as you have been Lou's greatest supporter here and I feel hurt on your behalf if that makes sense.
I think you dared to question Lou, even though it was in your beautiful gentle manner. It seems to me that Lou will request anyone who does not say what he wants to hear to know post to him.
Within a few weeks there should be no one at PB who can, legally, post to him to question what he says, other than Dr Bob. This seems a real shame to me.
I'm sorry he has hurt you like this. I really am
Nikki
Posted by Jai Narayan on October 28, 2004, at 8:40:08
In reply to Re: What's really ironic, posted by Dinah on October 27, 2004, at 21:35:28
I know Dinah, what is that about. I have learned that lesson so many times and fall into helping again.
What can you take away from that as a lesson?
It's funny but I never seem to stop caring about the person it's just more painful when I do.
I think the poster in question is painting themselves into a corner.
I appreicate what you were doing.
Jai
Posted by Miss Honeychurch on October 28, 2004, at 9:38:05
In reply to Ah well., posted by Dinah on October 27, 2004, at 21:32:26
(((Dinah)))
Scott makes a great point.
Posted by AuntieMel on October 28, 2004, at 14:36:31
In reply to Ah well., posted by Dinah on October 27, 2004, at 21:32:26
<picture and hear flower (from babmi)>
you can talk to meeeee anytime you want to.....
blush
Posted by Jai Narayan on October 28, 2004, at 16:10:55
In reply to Re: Ah well., posted by AuntieMel on October 28, 2004, at 14:36:31
> <picture and hear flower (from babmi)>
>
> you can talk to meeeee anytime you want to.....
>
> blushThat was "THE" sweetest voice I have ever heard. Loved the blush too.
Jai
Posted by Dinah on October 29, 2004, at 2:51:10
In reply to Re: Ah well. » Dinah, posted by nikkit2 on October 28, 2004, at 7:03:55
Thanks Nikki. I really appreciate that. Especially since I have been trying to walk the tightrope of being supportive to you as well as to Lou, and worrying that I'm just alienating everyone. It means a lot to me that you don't hold it against me that I also attempted to be supportive of Lou.
(((Nikki)))
That's a hug for you being you. But I'm also hoping you're feeling better.
Posted by Dinah on October 29, 2004, at 2:56:01
In reply to Re: What's really ironic, posted by Jai Narayan on October 28, 2004, at 8:40:08
Trying not to help is one of the goals my therapist has set for me, believe it or not. And I periodically go through periods of trying to comply. It *is* hard, though, isn't it? I can never seem to hit a happy medium. I can detach entirely or throw myself into something entirely. I wonder how many Admin board posters share that characteristic? I think if Dr. Bob wants a research project, the whys and wherefores of who manages to stay clear of Admin and who doesn't might be interesting.
Posted by Dinah on October 29, 2004, at 2:57:53
In reply to Re: Ah well., posted by AuntieMel on October 28, 2004, at 14:36:31
And I'll be happy to take you up on that, Mel. :)
Posted by nikkit2 on October 29, 2004, at 6:18:26
In reply to Re: Ah well. » nikkit2, posted by Dinah on October 29, 2004, at 2:51:10
Dinah,
Anyone else and I might have got huffy.. but this is you, and you don't, truly, ahve an evil bone in your body, and I knew that you wanted to support us both.
I think I'm more angry about this, than about anything said to me.. I, in my own way, deserve any sh*t I get, as I give as good as I get (and yes, I KNOW that *l*), but you have given nothing but sweetness and kindness..
Nikki
Posted by fayeroe on October 29, 2004, at 9:03:58
In reply to Re: Ah well. » Dinah, posted by nikkit2 on October 29, 2004, at 6:18:26
Nikkit2, I've been getting your name wrong...I'm sorry. I support you totally. I hope you're feeling better. Pat
Posted by Dr. Bob on October 30, 2004, at 6:28:14
In reply to Re: Ah well. » Dinah, posted by nikkit2 on October 28, 2004, at 7:03:55
> he has hurt you
Please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused.
If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
Follow-ups regarding these issues, as well as replies to the above post, should of course themselves be civil.
Thanks,
Bob
Posted by Dr. Bob on October 30, 2004, at 6:29:13
In reply to Re: Ah well. » nikkit2, posted by fayeroe on October 29, 2004, at 9:03:58
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