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Posted by Zo on April 30, 2002, at 23:20:37
Dr. Dr. Bob,Why is trash like "better without sar" left to stand?
Why is it not deleted as other posts have been?
I am about one inconsistency, one insensitivity away from resigning.
Others are leaving in the same sorrow, dismay, frustration.
We are simply not being supported by the board administration. People are struggling
in the attempt to be heard, to have their concerns acknowledged, and to see a response.This ought to be basic policy.
I'm ready dialogue on this--I just don't think there's going to be any.
Disheartened,
Zo
Posted by Dr. Bob on May 1, 2002, at 8:17:50
In reply to repost from Social - Ready to resign, posted by Zo on April 30, 2002, at 23:20:37
[Posted by judy1 on May 1, 2002, at 1:58:52]
> Hi Zo,
> I was going to suggest you put your post on admin. but see you already did. I agree with you that it was a horrendous post and she certainly deserved to be blocked and she was. Hopefully the board will turn over very soon. 2 or 3 years back someone posted an internet site that explicitly told ways to commit suicide- how many pills, etc. It was obviously not a supportive post for the board and I posted Dr. Bob at about 3am and by morning it was gone. I understand how you feel and consider you a great asset and hope you don't leave. Take care, Judy
Posted by wendy b. on May 1, 2002, at 14:22:59
In reply to repost from Social - Ready to resign, posted by Zo on April 30, 2002, at 23:20:37
Posted by Dr. Bob on May 1, 2002, at 23:39:32
In reply to repost from Social - Ready to resign, posted by Zo on April 30, 2002, at 23:20:37
> Why is trash like "better without sar" left to stand?
> Why is it not deleted as other posts have been?First, I don't like to delete posts. And people don't like to be "censored", either. And even if a post isn't civil, it does provide information. About the kind of response that's possible here, what might be expected from that particular poster, what I consider and how I deal with incivility, etc.
> We are simply not being supported by the board administration. People are struggling
> in the attempt to be heard, to have their concerns acknowledged, and to see a response.Sorry, what haven't I heard or acknowledged? And what sort of response would be supportive?
Bob
Posted by Chris A. on May 2, 2002, at 0:02:18
In reply to repost from Social - Ready to resign, posted by Zo on April 30, 2002, at 23:20:37
I was mortified that anyone would post such a statement. I try to stay uninvolved, but that was morally wrong, I don't care what background one comes from.
Chris A.
Posted by beardedlady on May 2, 2002, at 5:48:27
In reply to Re: Why it is not deleted, posted by Dr. Bob on May 1, 2002, at 23:39:32
Dr. Bob:
You have deleted far more innocuous statements than this, including, I think, that series of posts of mine and the rapper's. (I can't remember which posts were deleted, but I remember everyone on the board being surprised by it, since you had just previously said you didn't like to delete posts. Remember?)
The sar post of scared's should go, especially since it's hanging at the top of the thread like an open wound.
beardy
Posted by Willow on May 2, 2002, at 12:32:05
In reply to Re: Why it is not deleted » Dr. Bob, posted by beardedlady on May 2, 2002, at 5:48:27
The above mentioned post in my opinion serves no purpose besides hurting a already wounded group. I've had a post deleted for no reason but that I think admin didn't like the board it was on.
Having the option and power to delete such a post would show some human compassion. Just my thoughts.
Weeping Willow
Posted by judy1 on May 2, 2002, at 12:45:37
In reply to Re: Why it is not deleted » Dr. Bob, posted by beardedlady on May 2, 2002, at 5:48:27
While scared's post certainly pushed a number of people's buttons here (including mine) it may not have affected other's so strongly. Several month's back I posted on this board about a poster who had 'pushed my buttons'. I knew from previous times that I correctly posted my feelings here, and this was greeted by many as 'tattling'. While I got upset, other's did not. That poster went on to offend many others and eventually got blocked for a month, a month of relief for me. So I tend to agree with Dr. Bob's response and admire the time he invested in it. My shrink charges $200/hour and I don't expect Dr. Bob to be the answer to all my concerns for free, do you? I'm just grateful for being able to post on a relatively safe board and be afforded the opportunity to express myself when it's not. Take care, Judy
Posted by Zo on May 5, 2002, at 15:21:13
In reply to A different perspective, posted by judy1 on May 2, 2002, at 12:45:37
I would only argue--and I think it's an important distinction--that there is a difference between something pushing your buttons. .. and the feelings that arise around, for example, someone's death.Zo
Posted by judy1 on May 6, 2002, at 12:39:55
In reply to Re: A different perspective » judy1, posted by Zo on May 5, 2002, at 15:21:13
Of course I'm not minimizing a suicide, I'm addressing the reaction to a post. My father committed suicide, I've had serious attempts, etc.- of course I reacted even though I didn't know Sar. I just feel different subjects have different impacts on people, and perhaps the phrase 'pushing buttons' wasn't an accurate one. Take care, Judy
Posted by Zo on May 7, 2002, at 21:10:48
In reply to Re: A different perspective » Zo, posted by judy1 on May 6, 2002, at 12:39:55
Thanks for writing. I reread your original post and *finally* got your point, that it would be less of a sting to some people to read scared's post. I appreciate that you were trying to open up the concept a little! I still think that bottom line, it was inappropriate AND inconsistent to not delete those posts. Just wanted to acknowledge your last post, and to thank you for your earlier post asking me to stay.
XXX,
ZoHow's the bebe?!
Posted by judy1 on May 8, 2002, at 0:00:33
In reply to Re: A different perspective » judy1, posted by Zo on May 7, 2002, at 21:10:48
Posted by Zo on May 8, 2002, at 0:46:17
In reply to The 'bebe' is wonderful, thank you! (nm) » Zo, posted by judy1 on May 8, 2002, at 0:00:33
Posted by judy1 on May 8, 2002, at 16:56:01
In reply to Re: R U nursing?? ;o) (nm) » judy1, posted by Zo on May 8, 2002, at 0:46:17
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