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Posted by judy1 on April 23, 2002, at 12:53:25
As self-elected president of SPOW (Sensitive People of the World), which I realize is grandiose but hey it's just us, I would like to ask the following: When you post a response to a poster who has come to this board in pain asking for advice/support, and you're feeling cranky because of meds/moods/the alignment of planets and you couch your response in a sarcastic/ironic tone read MEAN and the original poster who is sensitive because of nurture/nature is hurt and resorts to unhealthy coping skills like SI (read cutting), doesn't that make you think to look at your post a second time before hitting the final button?- Judy with bambino trying to pull shiny thing hanging from Mom's ear- Ouch!
Posted by fi on April 23, 2002, at 17:00:14
In reply to An Important Message from SPOW, posted by judy1 on April 23, 2002, at 12:53:25
Posted by DinahM on April 23, 2002, at 17:25:25
In reply to I agree (another SPOWer) (nm) » judy1, posted by fi on April 23, 2002, at 17:00:14
Thanks Judy for making me smile.
Now there would be an idea for a very useful board. The SPOW board where everyone goes out of their way to tiptoe gently. A truly safe place for SPOWers. More restrictive civility rules! Coupled with the free-for-all board suggested by someone (Old School maybe?) a while ago, it would remove a lot of tensions from the current social board. :)
Posted by medlib on April 23, 2002, at 19:32:19
In reply to An Important Message from SPOW, posted by judy1 on April 23, 2002, at 12:53:25
Madam Prez--
Truly an innovative, sensitive organization. As a proposed member emeritus of SPOW (too old to sweat anything short of life-threatening), may I offer an idea? What do you think about placing a SPOW trademark after our handles, like a sort of early warning sign? Maybe it could be the cyber equivalent of "Warning! Deer crossing ahead." or "Please do not disturb nesting nuthatches." How about a suitable symbol, like ))0(( or something similar? I think it might save a whole lot of grief, not to mention aggravation. I'd adopt such an addendum, but we already know I'm weird. How do you think others would react?
Admiringly---medlib
Posted by DinahM on April 23, 2002, at 19:42:32
In reply to A SPOW designation? » judy1, posted by medlib on April 23, 2002, at 19:32:19
I think that's a terrific idea medlib. Others complain that there is a large degree of uncertainty as to what they can safely say. The SPOW designation would help clear things up.
Oh you guys are really making me laugh. Excellent medicine.
Thanks,
Dinah,SPOW
Posted by Krazy Kat on April 23, 2002, at 19:54:36
In reply to A SPOW designation? » judy1, posted by medlib on April 23, 2002, at 19:32:19
yes, yes, yes. thanks medlib, for a great suggestion!! i would like to have a few more acronyms if possible. i am sometimes a SPOW, sometimes an idiot ;), sometimes a farce. sometimes i am even brazen, though the depakote is helping with that.
i would love to see this happen...
- kk
Posted by Alii on April 23, 2002, at 20:05:48
In reply to A SPOW designation? » judy1, posted by medlib on April 23, 2002, at 19:32:19
medlib,
Nesting nuthatches? I'm howling with laughter.
I would consider myself a part of 'others' and here is my reaction:
makes sense to me
There do seem to be variations of skin thickness that PBCs and gentle urgings to be nice do not address. I would gladly respect a symbol designating the nuttier nuthatches. (sorry, couldn't resist) Might seem silly now but a peek in the archives shows that these board splitting and civility issues are not going away.
--Alii
>>...may I offer an idea? What do you think about placing a SPOW trademark after our handles, like a sort of early warning sign? Maybe it could be the cyber equivalent of "Warning! Deer crossing ahead." or "Please do not disturb nesting nuthatches." How about a suitable symbol, like ))0(( or something similar? I think it might save a whole lot of grief, not to mention aggravation. I'd adopt such an addendum, but we already know I'm weird. How do you think others would react?<<
Posted by Zo on April 23, 2002, at 20:58:42
In reply to Re: A SPOW designation? » medlib, posted by Alii on April 23, 2002, at 20:05:48
It sure would be helpful to me!--I have some wicked memory problems from my meds and ADD, and have been known to post to the entirely wrong person!
Often I can seem inappropriate when the fact is, I am just wandering around looking for a signpost. Really.
I love your idea!
Zo
Posted by Krazy Kat on April 23, 2002, at 21:23:51
sorry if i'm taking this too far medlib, but would Love a repsonse from Dr. B. re: the SPOW, etc. concept.
I still just love it...
- kk
Posted by Cecilia on April 23, 2002, at 23:50:04
In reply to Re: Dear SPOWs, posted by Zo on April 23, 2002, at 20:58:42
Good idea, but not sure it would work, there was a thread on PSB a while back on predators and prey, my life experince has been that the more obvious it is that you`re prey the more you attract predators. Cecilia
Posted by Alii on April 24, 2002, at 0:09:16
In reply to Re: SPOWs, posted by Cecilia on April 23, 2002, at 23:50:04
>>>>...my life experince has been that the more obvious it is that you`re prey the more you attract predators.<<<<
Didn't think of that angle. Sadly true about the predators.
--alii
Posted by Cecilia on April 24, 2002, at 0:27:31
In reply to Re: SPOWs, posted by Cecilia on April 23, 2002, at 23:50:04
I worried after I posted that it sounded like I thought there were a lot of predators here-not true, most people are supportive, thanks to Dr. Bob`s efforts. I`ve read some of the unmonitored newsgroups and can`t imagine posting in them in a million years, there is definitely no support in alt.support groups. Cecilia
Posted by DinahM on April 24, 2002, at 7:32:21
In reply to Re: SPOWs, posted by Cecilia on April 23, 2002, at 23:50:04
I do understand your point Cecilia. But it's been my life experience that predators have absolutely less than no difficulty sniffing me out anyway. My thin skinned (and odd - predators love odd) condition is readily apparent. The SPOW designation would be designed more for the hardier, but well meaning folks who would like a little guidance on whether they need to tiptoe on those eggshells or if they can tromp away. I don't mean that in an offensive way, just my lame attempt at humor.
Dinah
PS Is there anyone in this world who remembers the Eggshell Family on Saturday Night Live? We use them all the time around our house. :)
Posted by Dr. Bob on April 24, 2002, at 11:11:56
In reply to Dr. Bob, medlib's suggestion?, posted by Krazy Kat on April 23, 2002, at 21:23:51
> would Love a repsonse from Dr. B. re: the SPOW, etc. concept.
Sorry, but I'd like posters to be sensitive whether or not others have declared themselves to be SPOW.
Bob
Posted by judy1 on April 24, 2002, at 17:18:11
In reply to Re: medlib's suggestion?, posted by Dr. Bob on April 24, 2002, at 11:11:56
Posted by JohnX2 on April 25, 2002, at 3:58:58
In reply to Amen and that was the point :-) (nm) » Dr. Bob, posted by judy1 on April 24, 2002, at 17:18:11
I think I'm done posting to psycho-babble beyond pure
medicinal talk. In fact, please don't expect to see
much posting from me in the future (maybe that's what
people want....).However, there is a lot more to healing than medicine.
Sharing experiences socially is therapeutic, but I have
decided to leave this task solely to sharing experiences/
thoughts with others in live group settings.The internet is a dangerous and mysterious place.
The free overload/exchange of information and its
impact on society is amazingly powerful.JohnX2
Posted by mist on April 25, 2002, at 10:04:17
In reply to Re: Amen and that was the point :-), posted by JohnX2 on April 25, 2002, at 3:58:58
> Sharing experiences socially is therapeutic, but I have decided to leave this task solely to sharing experiences/thoughts with others in live group settings.
> The internet is a dangerous and mysterious place. The free overload/exchange of information and its impact on society is amazingly powerful.
> JohnX2
John, a live support group sounds good. I would like to attend one too if I could make it out the door.:) I also have concerns/doubts about the about the internet for some purposes. I'm glad you found a good alternative. -mist
Posted by Zo on April 25, 2002, at 10:25:48
In reply to live support vs. internet » JohnX2, posted by mist on April 25, 2002, at 10:04:17
mist, would you please write me?
Zo
zozo1029 at mac dot com
thank you!
Posted by mist on April 25, 2002, at 19:01:50
In reply to Re: live support vs. internet » mist, posted by Zo on April 25, 2002, at 10:25:48
> mist, would you please write me?
>
> Zo
>
> zozo1029 at mac dot com
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> thank you!Zo, I have an aversion to email and have only used it under dire circumstances :), usually business purposes where I have no other choice. But if I ever join the modern world and start emailing, I'll contact you!
Posted by Zo on April 26, 2002, at 4:55:02
In reply to email-o-phobia? » Zo, posted by mist on April 25, 2002, at 19:01:50
Posted by Chris A. on April 26, 2002, at 21:40:34
In reply to An Important Message from SPOW, posted by judy1 on April 23, 2002, at 12:53:25
Posted by judy1 on April 27, 2002, at 16:35:43
In reply to Would you let me the VP of SPOW? (nm) » judy1, posted by Chris A. on April 26, 2002, at 21:40:34
Of course!!!! Any other volunteers? This could be huge maybe I'll design a web page and file for non-profit status :-) Take care, Judy
Posted by Chris A. on April 27, 2002, at 19:06:15
In reply to Re: Would you let me the VP of SPOW? » Chris A., posted by judy1 on April 27, 2002, at 16:35:43
Just yesterday a friend asked me if I was was taking something that is happening that is really upsetting me personally, and answered "I <always> take everything personally." How does one get out of such a trap? I also get upset when I see others endangered, unjustly criticized, stigmatized, etc., but am not sure that is all bad. When it is bad is when I am wanting the militia to come take care of the problem, which would only make it worse. My high-horse is always waiting when I am a bit mixed or hypomainic.
I need to work on being a kinder, gentler, more forgiving and accepting person myself.Blessings,
Chris A.
Posted by judy1 on April 28, 2002, at 14:35:02
In reply to Re: Would you let me the VP of SPOW? » judy1, posted by Chris A. on April 27, 2002, at 19:06:15
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