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Posted by Phillipa on November 29, 2012, at 9:24:25
Back to fears. At night I feel like I can do things like go to florida at Christmas to stay With Daughter & Granddaughter & then wake up and know it's ridiculous and not realistic to go. Bring two dogs, leave a cat home alone, completly change our sleep routines and daily routines for a week. And go from our quiet home to a toddler who is undisciplined. And then know that oldest doesn't want me there, even in same state why don't know, then know that it will be on the go all the time trying to keep up with those that are my kids but so much younger. I don't know what to do I said yes we would go and now I don't see how it's possible. Shouldn't I be able to make a decision and stick with it? Fears of not sleeping, being confined without bike to ride with a toddler, and multiple responsibilities, not eating same foods, no my space. What is wrong with me? Shouldn't I want to be with my Granddaughter am I horrible or what? Phillipa
Posted by rjlockhart37 on November 29, 2012, at 17:49:15
In reply to Fears Again About Decisions, posted by Phillipa on November 29, 2012, at 9:24:25
at night....for me its like my mind wakes up and do things I don't do during the day...its higher dopamine...it causes you to feel more motivated, and then when I take my zyprexa...or even before that I would wake up and totally be embarrassed on the stupid phone calls I made, and posting disturbing stuff on babble...its like I cover my face with my hands and slouch....
if you can maintain that movtivation feeling that you have at night...like write something, or just a like a symbol of how motivated you felt...it may bring it back during the day...of course that's not guaranteed....but its hard when your caught off guard to do something that is not confortable in comfort zones. Think like your going to a big event, and you have get psyched up for it, forcing yourself like something superhuman mode. That's why its good to stay on your toes when events like this happen...ugh children that are wild, avoid it much as possible, act like your playing them and then run into the other room and start talking withsomeone to get me away LOL.
then when its over...its over!! ahhhhhhhhhhhhr
Posted by ChicagoKat on November 30, 2012, at 13:07:31
In reply to Fears Again About Decisions, posted by Phillipa on November 29, 2012, at 9:24:25
Oh dearest Phillipa, you have no idea how much I understand. I get all the exact same worries and indecision. I think that whatever decision you make, you have to make it for YOURSELF and no one else. You have a disease, even if others might not really count it as important. You have to take care of yourself above all others. Myself, I have cancelled THREE trips this year to go to Arizona to see my family. The latest cancellation was for thanksgiving. I just knew in my heart I was too sick and unstable to go. Fortunately they understood,, which actually amazed me, but I would have made the same decision no matter what their reactions.
You are NOT a bad person for feeling deep in your heart that you don't want to go...because that is what I'm sensing from you, that you really would rather stay home. (of course I could be completely wrong) And since your daughters don't seem to appreciate what a great Mom they have, you should think 'so what' if you don't go. And if you do decide to not go, NO GUILT my friend. Remind yourself that you are taking care of YOU and that is the most important thing by far.
Another solution I've found is deciding with my husband that we are just skipping Christmas this year. We did that last year and it was great. This year I'll probably send out cards, but that may be about it. We'll see.
But look deep in your heart and without thinking of anyone else, see the answer that is there, and then do it, and no matter what, no guilt. You come first and you have to take care of yourself above anything else.
Sorry for such a long post, but I hope at least part of it helped. I am thinking of you.
Kat xxxx
Posted by Phillipa on November 30, 2012, at 21:06:41
In reply to Re: Fears Again About Decisions » Phillipa, posted by ChicagoKat on November 30, 2012, at 13:07:31
Kat thanks just when I think I have the solution something or someone else steps in and offers another alternative now oldest said we can stay there. Let youngest know and no reply as I feel pretty sure that her plans for me is a babysitter. Can reveal anymore publicly. Phillipa
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