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Posted by dimple on January 28, 2006, at 6:55:06
Hi All,
I have social anxiety and depression.
current Meds:
300 mg of Wellbutrin XL
.5 mg - 1.5 mg of KlonopinI hate myself right now. This happenes almost every weekend. I will most likely do nothing all day. If I do go anywhere- it will turn out to be miserable. All week long I look forward to these 2 days of freedom, but they are filled with thoughts of self hatred and fear.
Worrying is a waste of time. I know this, yet I can't stop. My mind is blank, but I know I have more to say.
Please comment so that I can better describe what I'm feeling.
dimple
Posted by fiftylager on January 28, 2006, at 8:00:22
In reply to feeling low...need some support, posted by dimple on January 28, 2006, at 6:55:06
I'm sorry to hear you are feeling so low. I can sympathize as I am going through some anxiety and depression now too.
I heard this is very common for people with anxiety disorders and depression to feel good during the week when they are busy and then to feel overwhelmed and unhappy on the weekends. I guess weekends tend to be a time when more people socialize, so maybe that is why you feel this way. Have you talked to your doctor about this? Maybe you need a med adjustment. Perhaps, if you make a definite plan for your weekend then you won't feel this way. For instance, Saturday could be a day when you do some baking or organising and Sunday is for a craft or something. Maybe having free time is overwhelming and you need to plan it. I know myself that worrying is a waste of time but that is one of our problems, right? Don't beat yourself up for your anxiety and depression. I know that's easier said than done. I am not really knowledgeable about these things, I'm trying to figure out my own problems but so many on here are very knowledgable. I wish you the best.
Crissi
Posted by john berk on January 28, 2006, at 8:17:36
In reply to feeling low...need some support, posted by dimple on January 28, 2006, at 6:55:06
Hi Dimple!!
i think "chrissi" gave a great answer, i hope i can add something here to help!!
i do know that when i worked full-time, i would more than expect a great weekend, plenty of drinks and dating, and when nothing was "planned", or i had nothing exciting to do, i felt like a social failure, and would also be angry at myself!!
although i don't suffer from it, [i have depression, and ocd] remember you are being treated for social anxiety, and maybe just getting out a taking in a movie, or visiting a friend, would be a good step, it would help you with s.a., and give you much needed activity to keep you from feeling low!!i guess, what i am saying , is that i always had high expectations for the weekend, when those weren't met, i was down on myself!!
but just being home relaxing and reading, without the stress of work, can be enjoyable too, it took me awhile to realize that!!
i hope you are able to get out and about this weekend, good luck...john
btw, i take klonopin also, it is supposedly one of the best meds for social anxiety!!!
Posted by dimple on January 28, 2006, at 8:47:08
In reply to Re: feeling low...need some support » dimple, posted by john berk on January 28, 2006, at 8:17:36
wow, thanks for the encouragement. i didn't expect such sincere support.
keep posting! i'm feeling a little better knowing someone out there cares.
Posted by john berk on January 28, 2006, at 16:30:15
In reply to Re: feeling low...need some support, posted by dimple on January 28, 2006, at 8:47:08
Hi, i actually just practiced a little of what i preached earlier, lol, i took a long walk this morning, then did some shopping, [rented a flick for this evening while out] and then hung out with my bro-in law, a nice saturday, after just taking 0.5 of klonopin, i am relaxed, and not even discouraged about not going out tonight,
i'm too tired from today, lol!! i have always thought i deserved more on the weekend, but i see so many others, especially my married friends, just happy to be relaxing and enjoying the weekend,
but i do look forward to maybe a great weekend out in the future. i hope your meds start to work and give you more confidence, and please don't be tough on yourself, things wil get better, no doubt!!
you just have to find what truly makes you happy, not someone elses idea of what an ideal weekend should be, i have friends who think getting completley drunk at a phillies game is the height of social engagement, lol, so we all have
our own ways of being happy, peace...john
Posted by Phillipa on January 28, 2006, at 18:11:59
In reply to Re: feeling low...need some support » dimple, posted by john berk on January 28, 2006, at 16:30:15
I know what you mean even though I'm not working when the weekend comes I feel I should be doing something speical and not staying at home like the rest of the week. Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by wanttobhappy on January 28, 2006, at 22:24:22
In reply to Re: feeling low...need some support » john berk, posted by Phillipa on January 28, 2006, at 18:11:59
I agree with the above posts. I found when I went back to school I functioned far better than I did when I was a stay at home mom, and I was way out of my comfort zone then. Having a schedule really helps me. If I hve more than a couple days off of work at a time I sort of get lost, I get nothing done around my house and seldom leave it. It has taken me many years to realise this, twice I quit jobs because I was starting to feel overwhelmed with the hours ect. only to realise I was absolutely lost and overwhelmed to be at home with little or no expectations of me. I know it's not exactly the same problem, but I feel your pain.
All the best,
wtbhappy
Posted by cindy lou on January 30, 2006, at 13:47:00
In reply to feeling low...need some support, posted by dimple on January 28, 2006, at 6:55:06
Hi ...
I know that the weekend is over now, but I wanted you to know that my depression also gets much worse on the weekends.I am a stay-at-home mom with two young kids, and I think my issue is that I HAVE to hang in there during the week to take care of them. But on the weekend when my husband is home, I must subconsciously let everything come to the surface. I feel exhausted, weepy, unable to pull myself together, etc. Then of course I feel guilty that I am not better able to help my husband with the kids and the house while he is home, etc. etc. This also happens in the evenings when he gets home from work.
Our situations may be different, but perhaps we hold a lot in while we are busy at work/home and then it all comes crashing down on the weekend when we are not occupied or obligated to anything or anyone.
I wish I had answers, but mostly I can just offer support, compassion and empathy. Who would have ever thought "Thank God it's Monday?"
I hope you are feeling better today.
Take care,
cindy> Hi All,
>
> I have social anxiety and depression.
> current Meds:
> 300 mg of Wellbutrin XL
> .5 mg - 1.5 mg of Klonopin
>
> I hate myself right now. This happenes almost every weekend. I will most likely do nothing all day. If I do go anywhere- it will turn out to be miserable. All week long I look forward to these 2 days of freedom, but they are filled with thoughts of self hatred and fear.
>
> Worrying is a waste of time. I know this, yet I can't stop. My mind is blank, but I know I have more to say.
>
> Please comment so that I can better describe what I'm feeling.
>
> dimple
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