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Posted by cbwarejr on October 28, 2003, at 11:24:54
While trying to understand my wife better, I came across this diagnosis. I about fell out of my chair because it fits her to a tee. Almost every aspect describes her.
I don't know where her lifelong depression fits in, her dad is severly depressed.
Anyone else have experiences and comments about this Borderline Personality Disorder Stuff. If you read about the Avoidant aspect, you can see that discussing or even bring it up make her worse. It also ties in with her being very reluctant to discuss her true feelings with her docs, or maybe even capable. Sometimes she lives in a different world and although the diagnosis helps with the description it seems like there is no way her situation will ever improve much.
Long term I always wonder what I am in store for as her husband. There are not many threads from the standpoint of the person who lives or is married to the depressed person.
Oh well.
Posted by NikkiT2 on October 28, 2003, at 12:47:51
In reply to Avoidant Borderline Personality Disorder, posted by cbwarejr on October 28, 2003, at 11:24:54
This is a website for people who care about someone with BPD..
BPD is a damned hard illness to watch in someone.. All you can do is support your wife and try and make sure she gets the treament she needs. Don't let anyone tell you its untreatable.. it is treatable.. its hard work to get well, but it can be done.
Good luck
Nikki x
Posted by Elle2021 on October 28, 2003, at 16:57:06
In reply to Avoidant Borderline Personality Disorder, posted by cbwarejr on October 28, 2003, at 11:24:54
I have Borderline Personality Disorder. Please don't try to diagnose your wife, it is a much hated label to have. Take her to a psychiatrist who knows about BPD and let him make the diagnosis. If you want to ask me any questions about the disorder (personal or general) I would be happy to answer. Bless you.
Elle> While trying to understand my wife better, I came across this diagnosis. I about fell out of my chair because it fits her to a tee. Almost every aspect describes her.
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> I don't know where her lifelong depression fits in, her dad is severly depressed.
>
> Anyone else have experiences and comments about this Borderline Personality Disorder Stuff. If you read about the Avoidant aspect, you can see that discussing or even bring it up make her worse. It also ties in with her being very reluctant to discuss her true feelings with her docs, or maybe even capable. Sometimes she lives in a different world and although the diagnosis helps with the description it seems like there is no way her situation will ever improve much.
>
> Long term I always wonder what I am in store for as her husband. There are not many threads from the standpoint of the person who lives or is married to the depressed person.
>
> Oh well.
Posted by cbwarejr on October 28, 2003, at 17:13:09
In reply to Re: Avoidant Borderline Personality Disorder » cbwarejr, posted by Elle2021 on October 28, 2003, at 16:57:06
No need for me to be the therapist. Her past psychologist did the diagnosis.....this information came from her x, who is a physician.
Also, unprovoked, her sister and her mother both have brought it up..that years ago, her psych. at that time, different than theone above, also came up with the same diagnosis...in addition to depression.
I am more interested in comments by those who live with a person who has BPD, how they cope, etc.
I am not trying to come across as a know it all, but there is no question about the diagnosis. I did not make it very clear in my first post.
If I had known it earlier, it would not have changed my mind about her and marrying her. SHe is still the same incredible, wonderful person I married....but at times, it is difficult to keep that in focus, and is very easy to lose sight of things.
Posted by Dr. Bob on October 28, 2003, at 22:20:02
In reply to Re: Avoidant Borderline Personality Disorder, posted by cbwarejr on October 28, 2003, at 17:13:09
> I am more interested in comments by those who live with a person who has BPD, how they cope, etc...
Sorry if it's confusing, but there are a number of boards here, and I'd like to redirect this thread to Psycho-Social-Babble. Here's a link:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20031020/msgs/274470.html
Thanks,
Bob
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