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Posted by Uppendown on March 22, 2002, at 4:58:25
Hi Ya'll,
I probably shouldn't post this... but I'm going to in the hopes that maybe those that post here may think about how they interact with other "newbies" here in the future...
I'll be the first to say that maybe I should have waited longer for a more positive "welcome" from the "community" here... a couple of days really isn't that long. But, I've been interacting with on line communities for a couple of years now, and I think I have some sense of what to expect. I'm also almost 50 years old now, and have been interacting with fellow humans for all my life...
I feel like I'm being ignored, or shunned.. and, based on my past experiences with forums such as this, I don't think my feelings are base-less. We're all trying to find "connection", otherwise we wouldn't be writing our thoughts and feelings down for others to read and comment on.
Maybe you found my style of writing offensive. Maybe you found the topics I wrote about threatening to your personal belief structures... I don't know... I have no way of knowing. Other than DreamerX, and one other person, no one even bothered to comment, and only DreamerX had the COMMON COURTESY to extend a WELCOME to a new person here ( Thank you, Dreamer..)! What is wrong with this picture????? Was a simple "Welcome here" all that time consuming, and difficult to post??
I hope you can find the basic humanity within yourselves to think about something so basic and simple, the next time a newbie posts at this forum...
And, I hope you all find what you're looking for in your lives..
Best Wishes,U&D
Posted by jay on March 22, 2002, at 5:57:05
In reply to Obviously, I made a mistake!, posted by Uppendown on March 22, 2002, at 4:58:25
No mistake...welcome with arms open!
Jay
Posted by Charlotte on March 22, 2002, at 6:06:06
In reply to Obviously, I made a mistake!, posted by Uppendown on March 22, 2002, at 4:58:25
Hi U&D --
I rather like being able to "jump in" here without attending to particular formalities that I may/may not be aware of. I'm very new here as well, so to me I'm the only "newbie" I guess! Welcome.
Charlotte
Posted by Cressida on March 22, 2002, at 7:34:34
In reply to Obviously, I made a mistake!, posted by Uppendown on March 22, 2002, at 4:58:25
Uppendown, you're roughly the same age as my father, and thus surely more experienced in social interaction in its many guises. I would like to suggest that perhaps you're making some assumptions and expectations about this experimental forum. I never received a "welcome message" when I began posting over a year ago. I took a long break, but recently I have started to participate again. Nonetheless, although many of my posts go unanswered or seemingly overlooked, I do not complain or lecture people on the art of conversation or cyber-etiquette. Please read the purpose and policy behind this site. Take care, and I hope you find what you're looking for...
Posted by beardedlady on March 22, 2002, at 7:38:37
In reply to Obviously, I made a mistake!, posted by Uppendown on March 22, 2002, at 4:58:25
Welcome, Uppendown!
I think the only mistake you've made is having an expectation.
There are so many names on this board--so many people with lives and pains and joys (I hope). And they are all looking for different things. Like me, when they see a new name, not all of them are that tuned in to who's new. So many of us are that it's impossible to tell who's been here since yesterday or since 1999.
I've only been posting about a month. No one rolled out the red carpet for me, nor did I expect them to! I came with questions, and those who could answer them did. I am looking for commiseration rather than companionship, comparing notes with folks.
My guess is that people respond to the posts that interest them--to answer questions about meds they're familiar with or to ask questions or share experiences. Maybe, like me, they respond only when they feel they could add something to the discussion.
You shouldn't take it personally. No one here has bad breath or smelly poop or a dunce cap on or a hideous deformity. (Though I'm upfront about my beard!) People aren't whispering, "Hey, look what Uppendown's wearing today! Ew!"
So, welcome. If you can help someone or someone can help you, this is the place. But if you are a sensitive soul, and you probably are, you might have to develop a thicker skin.
By the way, I've read your posts, but I didn't have anything to add, so I didn't!
Ah, but I just did. So there!
beardy : )>
Posted by CtrlAlt n Del on March 22, 2002, at 7:49:16
In reply to Obviously, I made a mistake!, posted by Uppendown on March 22, 2002, at 4:58:25
Good morning u&d (well it's morning here)
Hmmmm...it can take a long time to feel a part of the cyber sanitaruim I've been here a long time maybe too long and I still get ingnored but it doesn't bother me , don't worry bout what you write I thought the post you wrote earlier was very informative not over-complicated.
Stick around a bit longer at least until I finish learning cosmology in 12 easy steps..What other sites have you visited?
dreamerxxxxxxx
Posted by Kat26 on March 22, 2002, at 12:16:20
In reply to Welcome, posted by Cressida on March 22, 2002, at 7:34:34
I think yes, in some communities, there are welcome messages etc, but I think this one is not like that and for some reason I never expected it. Maybe because so many people just come and go or just check in once in a while. It seems like it is more of a fact-oriented community, talking about meds and all that. Sorry you were offended, I don't think anybody meant to make you feel that way.
Kat26
Posted by LiLi80 on March 22, 2002, at 12:45:23
In reply to Obviously, I made a mistake!, posted by Uppendown on March 22, 2002, at 4:58:25
Ok, I am sorry that no one welcomed you. But some of us are new too. I have only been on psycho-babble for a weeks now, I dont know who is new and who isn't. How are we supposed to know if you are new? This may sound bitchy, but its not meant to me.
lili
Posted by IsoM on March 22, 2002, at 14:10:50
In reply to Obviously, I made a mistake!, posted by Uppendown on March 22, 2002, at 4:58:25
Crap!! I wrote a *long* welcoming post, bumped my keyboard by accident & erased it all. Aarrghhh!!
Suffice to say, you're more than welcome here. It's just I never saw any questions in your first few posts that an answer from me would fit.
Posted by Kar on March 24, 2002, at 1:02:11
In reply to Obviously, I made a mistake!, posted by Uppendown on March 22, 2002, at 4:58:25
I feel like I'm being ignored, or shunned..
I'm sorry you feel that way but it's true what the others have posted...there are tons of people popping off and on all day long. Maybe if you kind of introduced yourself and "announced" your arrival (maybe you did and people just missed it?) you would have received the welcome that you wanted.
I'm new here too and actually feel welcome just by being part of the conversations...people on this board are too caring and well-meaning to be intentionally shunning anyone. I think we're all just here to help...
I don't mean to sound harsh, but there is more "basic humanity" on this board than you'll find out there in the "real world"...I kind of felt offended by that statement.
>
Kar
Posted by BarbaraCat on March 24, 2002, at 2:59:17
In reply to Obviously, I made a mistake!, posted by Uppendown on March 22, 2002, at 4:58:25
Hi there and welcome very much, U&D. Here's a little secret: It's easier to connect and interact by joining an existing thread rather than starting a new one. New threads get stuck at the bottom of the list and tend to get overlooked. Sometimes it's a few weeks later and someone will finally notice the thread and respond to it. This is especially true at the beginning, it was for me.
We're all here trying our best to learn, and to not feel so alone in our various illnesses. So just jump in, click the 'notify me' checkbox and you'll soon start feeling like you're part of a network of kindred souls. Best wishes to you, Barbara.
Posted by ST on March 24, 2002, at 3:45:29
In reply to Yes, but what is the mistake? » Uppendown, posted by beardedlady on March 22, 2002, at 7:38:37
Yep...It's hard to keep track of who is new, who used to post, stopped doing so and is now back again...etc...
Don't take it personally. No one here has any agenda or ill will toward anyone. We all are trying to learn. (No one extended a welcome to me, either, but I didn't need one - I was just trying to get some questions answered)
Welcome! We're a friendly bunch!
Sarah
Posted by beardedlady on March 24, 2002, at 6:21:31
In reply to Hard to keep track of who's new! » beardedlady, posted by ST on March 24, 2002, at 3:45:29
Posted by Zo on March 25, 2002, at 6:05:46
In reply to Obviously, I made a mistake!, posted by Uppendown on March 22, 2002, at 4:58:25
I don't that's quite fair. If you read through the board, you will notice that PsychoBabble is not a "friendship" warm and huggy board, but one dedicted to a certain purpose.
If you want more Social--come on to Social!
Zo
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