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Posted by Vesper on August 16, 2000, at 21:10:01
Hi, I haven't posted in awhile, things have been kinda overwhelming. I am seeing a pdoc and "case manager" in Santa Monica. They have me on Wellbutrin SR and Ativan(1mg at bedtime) I have not taken the wellbutrin an a week or so, and the ativan is hit and miss. I have a girlfriend Wendy, it's hard cause she's younger, and knows it all, if you know what I mean! She can make everything hurtful she does sound like it's my fault. I'm so afraid to be alone again I will let her treat me any way she wants. I think I will kill myself when she finally decides to leave me. I'm 33 years old and not very successful in the accepted sense, and I can't see anyone else ever wanting to be with me. I listen to Indigo Girls and she likes Eminem! ack!!!! I try to explain how that kind of vitriol is sick and hurtful, but she just thinks its "funny." I love her though, I see the pain she has been through, and the potential for her life and want to see her blossom....sorry I;m rambling. Anyone know the effects of moving to another state while on SSDi?
Thanks
Vesper
I love you guys and gals!
Posted by Greg on August 16, 2000, at 22:58:19
In reply to Please listen an maybe help!, posted by Vesper on August 16, 2000, at 21:10:01
Vesper,
SSDI is generally transferable between states because it is federally subsidized. You may be asked to give your reasons for moving and probably will have to re-file your claim. Probably your best bet would be to check this info with your local and potential SS offices, but I'm relatively sure you'll be OK.
As far as your other situation, It's none of my business BUT.... I wouldn't tolerate someone showing me that kind of disrespect. It sounds like your girlfriend is just being plain mean and knows it. You are being taken advantage of my friend. Your health and happiness starts at home, you have to take care of you first. I don't like being alone either, but I'd rather be alone than be treated like that. You have to do what you feel is right for you, and you have my support with whatever you decide. But quite frankly I'd tell her not to let the door hit her in the ass on the way out!
I hope you don't find me intrusive with my comments and will forgive me if I'm out of line, but Vesper, I've been there and done that. You deserve better.
Let me know how it goes with the SSDI, OK?
Peace,
Greg> Hi, I haven't posted in awhile, things have been kinda overwhelming. I am seeing a pdoc and "case manager" in Santa Monica. They have me on Wellbutrin SR and Ativan(1mg at bedtime) I have not taken the wellbutrin an a week or so, and the ativan is hit and miss. I have a girlfriend Wendy, it's hard cause she's younger, and knows it all, if you know what I mean! She can make everything hurtful she does sound like it's my fault. I'm so afraid to be alone again I will let her treat me any way she wants. I think I will kill myself when she finally decides to leave me. I'm 33 years old and not very successful in the accepted sense, and I can't see anyone else ever wanting to be with me. I listen to Indigo Girls and she likes Eminem! ack!!!! I try to explain how that kind of vitriol is sick and hurtful, but she just thinks its "funny." I love her though, I see the pain she has been through, and the potential for her life and want to see her blossom....sorry I;m rambling. Anyone know the effects of moving to another state while on SSDi?
> Thanks
> Vesper
> I love you guys and gals!
Posted by Cam W. on August 16, 2000, at 23:12:43
In reply to Please listen an maybe help!, posted by Vesper on August 16, 2000, at 21:10:01
Vesper - Good to here from you (oops social commentary 8^(
As for your girlfriend. In the immortal words of Norm from Cheers, "Women, you can't live with them,... pass the beer nuts."
=^) - Cam
Posted by Cindy W on August 17, 2000, at 9:14:16
In reply to Re: Please listen an maybe help!, posted by Cam W. on August 16, 2000, at 23:12:43
> Vesper - Good to here from you (oops social commentary 8^(
> As for your girlfriend. In the immortal words of Norm from Cheers, "Women, you can't live with them,... pass the beer nuts."
> =^) - CamVesper, I agree with Greg that you shouldn't have to take disrespect from a s.o. I've heard nothing in my marriage but comments about what a bad person I am, for 26 years...and now that I've been away for about 4 years, I am starting to regain the self-respect and am getting a handle on my depression. You can do better than that! BTW, at your age, there are more women than men (so there are billions more "fish" in the sea!).
Posted by Kath on August 18, 2000, at 0:27:37
In reply to Please listen an maybe help!, posted by Vesper on August 16, 2000, at 21:10:01
Hi Vesper. Glad you've posted again. You sound like a kind, likeable person to me, and you deserve to be treated well.
Sounds like you're putting alot of your "happiness" eggs into one basket. If our happiness get soooo tied up depending on one person, it's very easy for us to get hurt.
I'm going to get on my "bandwagon". If at all possible, I'd suggest you attend a CoDependents Anonymous meeting!!! If you want to ask me anything about it, please do so.
It really doesn't make alot of sense to let our happiness depend too much on another person...it's okay to enjoy being with another person - to love them, like them, have fun with them, care about them. But it's important to FIRST love ourselves, like ourselves, be able to have fun by ourselves, care about ourselves. I used to feel like you do about my first husband. When he left I was devastated. I went to counselling for 3 years & got 'way healthier. But CoDA has helped my in 3 1/2 months probably as much as the 3 years' counselling!!Take care of yourself; keep posting.
Warm thoughts. Kath
> Hi, I haven't posted in awhile, things have been kinda overwhelming. I am seeing a pdoc and "case manager" in Santa Monica. They have me on Wellbutrin SR and Ativan(1mg at bedtime) I have not taken the wellbutrin an a week or so, and the ativan is hit and miss. I have a girlfriend Wendy, it's hard cause she's younger, and knows it all, if you know what I mean! She can make everything hurtful she does sound like it's my fault. I'm so afraid to be alone again I will let her treat me any way she wants. I think I will kill myself when she finally decides to leave me. I'm 33 years old and not very successful in the accepted sense, and I can't see anyone else ever wanting to be with me. I listen to Indigo Girls and she likes Eminem! ack!!!! I try to explain how that kind of vitriol is sick and hurtful, but she just thinks its "funny." I love her though, I see the pain she has been through, and the potential for her life and want to see her blossom....sorry I;m rambling. Anyone know the effects of moving to another state while on SSDi?
> Thanks
> Vesper
> I love you guys and gals!
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