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Posted by Jody on January 20, 2000, at 21:54:46
I have a problem that has developed in the last 3 weeks or so. I am constantly thinking about my pdoc. I only see him once every 3 months and we don't talk much, he just hands out meds. The last time I went to see him, I got so nervous, I had to take an Ativan in order to calm down. (I am very shy and very nervous anyway, but this was far worse.)This is making me nuts. It is not sexual or anything like that and I don't know why this is happening at this particular time. I am also "obsessing" about a doctor that I had when I was in the hospital a couple of years back! I cannot figure out why I keep thinking of him, also.
Anyone have any ideas how I can stop this foolishness. My mind is getting tired!
Posted by Cindy W on January 21, 2000, at 9:33:47
In reply to Obsession, transference or???, posted by Jody on January 20, 2000, at 21:54:46
> I have a problem that has developed in the last 3 weeks or so. I am constantly thinking about my pdoc. I only see him once every 3 months and we don't talk much, he just hands out meds. The last time I went to see him, I got so nervous, I had to take an Ativan in order to calm down. (I am very shy and very nervous anyway, but this was far worse.)This is making me nuts. It is not sexual or anything like that and I don't know why this is happening at this particular time. I am also "obsessing" about a doctor that I had when I was in the hospital a couple of years back! I cannot figure out why I keep thinking of him, also.
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> Anyone have any ideas how I can stop this foolishness. My mind is getting tired!Jody, why don't you discuss it with your pdoc? It sounds like a "transference," which is common in psychotherapy. Every time I've been in therapy, I've generally developed a "psydoc in my head" (I imagine what my therapist would say, or what he/she would think about something). When you have somebody listening to you and being kind and empathic, it's not surprising that you develop positive feelings (not sexual, just grateful). People tend to do this. Discuss it with your therapist.--Cindy W
Posted by kelly on January 21, 2000, at 10:52:10
In reply to Obsession, transference or???, posted by Jody on January 20, 2000, at 21:54:46
> I have a problem that has developed in the last 3 weeks or so. I am constantly thinking about my pdoc. I only see him once every 3 months and we don't talk much, he just hands out meds. The last time I went to see him, I got so nervous, I had to take an Ativan in order to calm down. (I am very shy and very nervous anyway, but this was far worse.)This is making me nuts. It is not sexual or anything like that and I don't know why this is happening at this particular time. I am also "obsessing" about a doctor that I had when I was in the hospital a couple of years back! I cannot figure out why I keep thinking of him, also.
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> Anyone have any ideas how I can stop this foolishness. My mind is getting tired!I also obsessing about my pdoc, And some DR.'s from the hospitals over the last 10yrs. I even called one up to easies my mind about if they still would remember me after all this yrs. I was suppried that he did. so i tried my favored pdoc when we lived in MN and he couldn't remember me at all,I was so disappointed by that.
I was wondering what are you are thinking about when you are obessing about your pdoc?
Posted by Jody on January 22, 2000, at 1:11:13
In reply to Re: Obsession, transference or???, posted by kelly on January 21, 2000, at 10:52:10
It is not so bad today. When I think of the doctor that I had in the hospital, I just kind of wonder how he is.
I am way too shy to tell my regular pdoc that I have been thinking of him. I guess I kind of think of what I wish I could tell him and have "imaginary" conversations. I want to reach out for help, but do not know how. Instead I remain silent and answer his usual questions with yes or no. I am starting to hurt again and I don't feel I have anyone to turn to. Maybe that is why I have been "obsessing." I would like to have someone just "read my thoughts" and just know how I am feeling. I cannot bring myself to speak up. Any ideas on how to get over the fear of revealing yourself.
Anyway, I am rambling. It kind of just feels better being able to "speak" here.
Posted by AnnieJ on January 22, 2000, at 11:40:57
In reply to Re: Obsession, transference or???, posted by Jody on January 22, 2000, at 1:11:13
I know exactly where you are at. Been there, and currently am working hard to resolve a similar issue. What has helped me to broach the subject with my doc was to write down the thoughts I've been having. If I can, I read it aloud to him. If not, he reads it himself. That gets things going, and then I warm up enough to talk.
Keep in mind that you are not alone in this and that your pdoc has been through this before. It's not at all unusual or wierd. If he's good, he can help you figure out where those feelings of attraction truly belong.
It ain't easy to go through all this, (unimaginably embarrasing moments have become common place for me!) but until you do you will be holding yourself back on the road to recovery. In my opinion, you really need to work through this with him.
Good luck!
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