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Posted by gardenergirl on March 29, 2004, at 22:08:08
In reply to Re: Sandy » SandyWeb, posted by Fallen4myT on March 29, 2004, at 20:51:31
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 29, 2004, at 22:17:22
In reply to (((((Fallen4AmyT))))) and (((((SandyWeb))))) (nm), posted by gardenergirl on March 29, 2004, at 22:08:08
Posted by jlynne on March 29, 2004, at 22:54:41
In reply to Re: Sandy » Fallen4myT, posted by SandyWeb on March 29, 2004, at 20:34:04
. . . looks like you found an angel:~)
((((HUGS))))
...jlynne
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 29, 2004, at 23:47:25
In reply to Hey, Sandy . . ., posted by jlynne on March 29, 2004, at 22:54:41
jlynne I know I did. I am newish to this area..I usually haunt the psychology section and anyone that knows me there knows I have a creep of a husband and am smitten with my T...anyhow seems Sandy has done what I havent done yet..dump the abusive hubby and she will help me make this move no doubt....I think it a very brave thing to do and to do it to *protect your kids* tells me she loves those kids and thus did a hard thing to make their lives good and safe and happy and well we just click. I wish more people went to the psych area...cause thats where I kinda hang though its kinda empty lately
Posted by jlynne on March 30, 2004, at 0:28:22
In reply to Re: Hey, Sandy . . . » jlynne, posted by Fallen4myT on March 29, 2004, at 23:47:25
I'm glad you found each other . . . and I'm glad I found you both:~) The world can be very cold and cruel when you feel alone.
You both have big decisions to make, and you have each been where the other needs to go now - that is so huge! I am beginning to believe in cyber-miracles . . .
I will tell you both something I used to tell my kids when they didn't want to do their chores: "You don't have to like it; you just have to do it."
((((Sandy)))) ((((Fallen))))
...jlynne
Posted by SandyWeb on March 30, 2004, at 1:12:02
In reply to Sandy and Fallen, posted by jlynne on March 30, 2004, at 0:28:22
I had a message. It got lost. *sigh* I'm such a loser. I can't even send a message properly.
Guess it wasn't important. I can't seem to do much right in this life of mine.
Pity party...come one come all.
Posted by jlynne on March 30, 2004, at 1:13:23
In reply to Re: Sandy and Fallen » jlynne, posted by SandyWeb on March 30, 2004, at 1:12:02
Hey, sweetie . . . what are you doing up so late?
...jlynne
Posted by SandyWeb on March 30, 2004, at 1:18:18
In reply to Sandy, posted by jlynne on March 30, 2004, at 1:13:23
Hi jlynne,
I couldn't sleep. I think that darn tootin cop traumatized me. Lol.
Posted by SandyWeb on March 30, 2004, at 1:30:06
In reply to Sandy, posted by jlynne on March 30, 2004, at 1:13:23
Guess I'll try to hit the pillows again. It's almost 3:30am. No sleep, no food make Sandy a psychotic loser.
Wait a minute....I'm a loser whether I sleep or eat anyways.
I got so stomped on by that cop. He broke me, and then turned on his heel and left me. I couldn't have felt much better than that.
Okay, cheerful Sandy will leave now. I don't even feel like going to the hospital now. I feel so defeated. I don't think I have the energy to put up with hospital interviews. That would hurt my already broken brain...and soul.
Take care, sweetie.
Sandy
Posted by jlynne on March 30, 2004, at 1:30:15
In reply to Re: Sandy » jlynne, posted by SandyWeb on March 30, 2004, at 1:18:18
I'm not surprised. I remember being treated poorly by certain people in authority when I was on welfare. I hate bigotry.
My agency has been educating our police force for several years, and so has the mental health agency - - we are affecting changes, believe it or not.
Not soon enough for you, though, eh? Heck with him - he's full of @#!? anyway!
...jlynne
Posted by SandyWeb on March 30, 2004, at 1:32:41
In reply to Re: Sandy » SandyWeb, posted by jlynne on March 30, 2004, at 1:30:15
Yes, it would be lovely to say "the heck with him"....but I'm still reeling from his behavior. And more so....from my sense of loss of self. I was so powerless.
Time heals, right? *sigh* I'm tired.
Posted by jlynne on March 30, 2004, at 1:36:47
In reply to Re: Sandy » jlynne, posted by SandyWeb on March 30, 2004, at 1:32:41
'night, sweetie. Some sleep is what you need. I'll man the planet for awhile:)
Sweet dreams . . . zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
*************************************************
(those are stars)...jlynne
Posted by SandyWeb on March 30, 2004, at 1:38:38
In reply to Re: Sandy » SandyWeb, posted by jlynne on March 30, 2004, at 1:30:15
I'm going to try and get some sleep.
I don't like myself very much right now. I'm still the same as when I was married to hubby. After all these years, I still crumple under a man's loud voice. I still let him run over and stomp on my self-esteem.
Too bad there weren't more gals like me!
I'm not going to make it, am I? What a fool I've been.
Well, back to the pillows. Chat later.
Sandy
Posted by jlynne on March 30, 2004, at 1:42:37
In reply to Re: Sandy » jlynne, posted by SandyWeb on March 30, 2004, at 1:38:38
. . . you're going to make it, love. Just get some rest now. You've been through the wringer.
I'll be on watch:~)
((((soft strokes))))
...jlynne
Posted by SandyWeb on March 30, 2004, at 9:00:30
In reply to Re: Sandy » SandyWeb, posted by jlynne on March 30, 2004, at 1:42:37
Good morning jlynne,
After I got the kids off to school this morning, I layed back down for another hour. I am exhausted. I am sooo tired, and I can't seem to get my brain to wake up. Ugh.
Thanks for the ((soft strokes)). Touch does wonders, doesn't it? I'm thankful that my kids still like to be hugged, and they'll still even cuddle with me. Can you imagine that at 12-years and 15-years?? Wow! I've got some special kids here! They're not perfect by any means and can drive me absolutely batty, but I think we've got a pretty darn good relationship. Maybe it comes from being the only parent in the household. I don't know, but I'm not questioning it.
I have no idea what I'm going to do today. During my 2 1/2 hour walk yesterday, I was going around and around in my head trying to figure out what I could do now that I can't afford to return to University. But after all the walking...and sun stroke (ha!)....I still didn't come up with a solution. Life requires money. The only "completed" education I have is my high school....and that was a lifetime ago. Work experience was also another lifetime ago. Darn! I should have had hubby work while he sent ME to school, rather than me working to support HIM through school. Isn't that always the way, though? Men are such dinkle-dorfs! LOL!
I'm still scared to go to the hospital. There were times while I was in bed last night that I thought I could really push myself to walk over there today. But after that degrading experience with MR. Bad Cop yesterday, it's going to take a bit of time to feel any sort of trust towards an authority figure again. I can't believe he would treat ANYONE like that, suicidal or not. He has become a very hardened person, and maybe he shouldn't be a police officer anymore. Then again, maybe he's always been this way and he gets his thrills over having power over others. Ramble ramble.
I need to go wash up. Big day of sitting in my chair ahead of me. I haven't told my kids yet that I've left school. I haven't told anyone except you guys and the nice cops from the SECOND visit. I don't know how to tell them. We've all been making sacrafices in order for me to complete my nursing....the kids knew we would be financially okay once that was done. Now....just another family on welfare.
It's awful to get out of bed feeling bummed. *smile*
God bless,
Sandy
Posted by SandyWeb on March 30, 2004, at 9:41:44
In reply to Re: Sandy » SandyWeb, posted by Fallen4myT on March 29, 2004, at 20:51:31
And on with the self-pity thread. Lol. :
I felt like I was back with hubby last night, when that cop was putting me in my place. I thought that time of my life was over.
And now I can't even go outside anymore because I don't want any cops to see me. I'm a laughing-stock. Even if I did go to the hospital, the cops wouldn't know this and they'd still think I was a dumb trouble-maker. I can't lift my head up around here anymore.
I am totally ruined.
And how is your morning? Lol!
Miss Suzy Sunshine signing off.
Posted by SandyWeb on March 30, 2004, at 9:55:43
In reply to Re: Sandy, posted by SandyWeb on March 30, 2004, at 9:41:44
I quit. I just plain quit.
I'm leaving this site.
I'm shutting my computer down.
I don't want anything to do with anyone.
No more meds, no more tears, no more talk, no more cops. No more failure.
I quit. Plain and simple.
I quit, I quit, I quit.
I've had enough. I'm sick of this whole adventure.
Thanks for the memories, guys. Now it's time to put a stop to them.
Bye. (AND DO NOT CALL THE COPS!!!! That's worse than death! Just leave me alone)
Sandy
Posted by Dinah on March 30, 2004, at 10:03:07
In reply to Re: Sandy, posted by SandyWeb on March 30, 2004, at 9:55:43
If not the hospital, please call the doctor who prescribes your medications. I find that when I get in that state, it's generally the medications that need a bit of tweaking.
Risperdal has worked wonders for me. I'm not of course recommending it for you, only your doctor knows what will work for you. But for me it has a wonderfully calming and centering effect when I feel like everything is falling apart. Perhaps you can find a medication that works that way for you.
(By the way, that's one of the biggest reasons for hospitalization. To allow you to tweak your medications in a safe environment.)
And who cares anyway what the cops think? Whether or not you go to the hospital isn't for them. It's for you and most importantly your kids.
Posted by jlynne on March 30, 2004, at 11:25:09
In reply to Re: Sandy » SandyWeb, posted by Dinah on March 30, 2004, at 10:03:07
Hey, Sandy . . . I didn't desert you; I just got up.
You know, you're going to go up and down with your emotions right now. Just try to ride them like a wave, and this will pass.
Dinah's right; do you have a therapist or a pdoc? That's one place you should be able to find confidentiality - and help.
Hang in there, sweetie. What are you doing now?
((((HUGS))))
...jlynne
Posted by jlynne on March 30, 2004, at 15:04:32
In reply to Hey, Sweetheart . . ., posted by jlynne on March 30, 2004, at 11:25:09
Sandy, I have to leave now; I have home visits to make all afternoon.
Please, keep in touch. Someone will be watching this board . . .
I will be back this evening.
((((HUGS))))
...jlynne
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 30, 2004, at 16:52:46
In reply to Sandy, posted by jlynne on March 30, 2004, at 15:04:32
am wondering how you are and if you can give me some info later on how to get out of a bad home life please? Thanks and Hugs
Posted by LynneDa on March 30, 2004, at 17:21:42
In reply to Re: Sandy I will be on late but, posted by Fallen4myT on March 30, 2004, at 16:52:46
I'm just getting caught up on the board, was on vaca last week. Has anyone heard from Sandy today - 3/31? Does anyone know what city she is in? Isn't there someone besides the cops Dr. Bob can send - like a social services person? Can we somehow get her to tell us who her doctor is or is that too invasive? I'm just puzzled why we can't do more.
Thanks to anyone who has thoughts on this subject still.
~ Lynne
Posted by LynneDa on March 30, 2004, at 18:36:17
In reply to Was Sandy on today?, posted by LynneDa on March 30, 2004, at 17:21:42
OK, I feel kinda dumb. Today IS 3/30 right? long day I guess and Sandy did post earlier today. Guess we'll see if she comes back tomorrow. And, I have to commend Dr.Bob for all he does. It takes guts to put up a site like this, with the risks that come with it. Can't we send her a list of crisis hotlines or social service organization numbers in her area? We did that for a young girl who seemed suicidal and revealed her city. She didn't use them, but at least she has them if she really gets to that point.
~ Lynne
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>I'm just getting caught up on the board, was on vaca last week. Has anyone heard from Sandy today - 3/31? Does anyone know what city she is in? Isn't there someone besides the cops Dr. Bob can send - like a social services person? Can we somehow get her to tell us who her doctor is or is that too invasive? I'm just puzzled why we can't do more.
> Thanks to anyone who has thoughts on this subject still.
> ~ Lynne
>
Posted by jlynne on March 30, 2004, at 20:09:33
In reply to Sandy, posted by jlynne on March 30, 2004, at 15:04:32
Please, let me know if you are there.
((((Strokes))))...jlynne
Posted by jlynne on March 30, 2004, at 22:07:21
In reply to Sandy, I'm home now . . ., posted by jlynne on March 30, 2004, at 20:09:33
Where are you, sweetie??
((((Sandy))))
...jlynne
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