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Posted by fallsfall on July 22, 2005, at 10:09:23
In reply to I wanted the perfect mother., posted by daisym on July 22, 2005, at 1:41:54
I want that for you, too.
Your children are lucky because they do have that.
(((((...Daisy)))))...
Posted by annierose on July 22, 2005, at 20:14:08
In reply to Re: I wanted the perfect mother. » daisym, posted by fallsfall on July 22, 2005, at 10:09:23
Just wanted to let everyone know that I would love to participate in the discussion, as I have been reading along, but I will be out of town :(
If my plane is on time, I should be home around 8 PM, so I'll catch up then.Annierose
Posted by alexandra_k on July 23, 2005, at 17:02:08
In reply to I wanted the perfect mother., posted by daisym on July 22, 2005, at 1:41:54
And now I want one :-(
Posted by daisym on July 24, 2005, at 0:01:39
In reply to Re: I wanted the perfect mother. » daisym, posted by alexandra_k on July 23, 2005, at 17:02:08
I think everyone deserves a "good enough" mother. I think my kids had one, until the past year or so. Because I wasn't afraid to say "I was wrong and I'm sorry" and I always told them how special they are, right now, right here...not that they "will be" or "could be" -- just that they are. And I genuinely like them them. I think they are a hilarious bunch.
I often wonder if I had a female therapist if things would be different for me. I bet I'd be more put together, still trying to prove how competent and strong I am while expecting them to see through that, into the pain. But put together is probably better than this current state. I think I trust men with my emotions more than women, even though I was abused by my dad, not my mom. It is the need to be perfect in her eyes, which means not telling any bad stuff or needing anything from her that she wouldn't/couldn't give. I can't tell you how many times she has told me that I was "such an unhappy child" and she "never knew how to make you happy" and she tells me I was never satisfied with anything, I always looked at her like I expected something more.
I wonder if I look at my therapist like that when I have to leave his office and I'm not ready? I'll have to ask him. I feel sorry for him, having to suffer the transference around mother issues AND father/trust issues. Poor guy.He should charge me for dual roles.
Posted by daisym on July 24, 2005, at 0:03:04
In reply to Re: I wanted the perfect mother. » daisym, posted by alexandra_k on July 23, 2005, at 17:02:08
I'm sorry Alexandra. I meant to add in the above post that I didn't mean to set you off or reactivate something for you.
Hugs from me.
Daisy
Posted by alexandra_k on July 24, 2005, at 1:34:44
In reply to Re: I wanted the perfect mother. » alexandra_k, posted by daisym on July 24, 2005, at 0:03:04
Its okay. It just got me thinking. Mostly about how I'll probably never choose to have kids. Because I don't even really understand what I would have wanted from a Mother. I just wanted her to leave me alone. So how on earth would I be with children of my own?
I typically get on better with guys. Most of my friends are either guys or the not traditionally feminine type. I am wary of females. Because they can turn on you. Because they can hurt you from behind. Because they have a knack of being able to reach inside you and drag out whatever is there no matter how hard you try and conceal it and stomp on it.
I guess I do tend to trust guys more.
Its good for me to have more to do with women.
Babble is good for me like that I think.
Posted by alexandra_k on July 24, 2005, at 1:35:56
In reply to Re: I wanted the perfect mother. » daisym, posted by alexandra_k on July 24, 2005, at 1:34:44
It always suprises me when females are kind to me.
And when I see a woman just being caring I feel all funny.
I guess I just thought it impossible that anyone would care about me like that.
Not an available option.
Not even worth thinking about.
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 24, 2005, at 13:40:47
In reply to Re: Deborah Lott this Monday?, posted by annierose on July 22, 2005, at 20:14:08
> If my plane is on time, I should be home around 8 PM, so I'll catch up then.
Sorry, but because of her schedule, we're going to postpone this a little. The new plan is this Thu. 7/28 through Wed. next week 8/3. Sorry,
Bob
Posted by Dinah on July 24, 2005, at 18:12:59
In reply to Re: Deborah Lott this Thursday, posted by Dr. Bob on July 24, 2005, at 13:40:47
Drat. I will be gone for most of it. Oh well, I'll have something to read when I get back.
Posted by alexandra_k on July 24, 2005, at 21:02:46
In reply to Re: Deborah Lott this Thursday, posted by Dinah on July 24, 2005, at 18:12:59
California?
Hope you have a pleasant holiday.
I just found out I get to go to conference in Melborne in September.
:-)
Happy birthday to me
:-)
Posted by annierose on July 26, 2005, at 21:03:11
In reply to Re: Deborah Lott this Thursday, posted by Dinah on July 24, 2005, at 18:12:59
Sorry Dinah that you will be on vacation. I felt badly that I was going to miss the on-line discussion due to this poorly placed business trip. But your input to the discussion is so important, it will be missed.
Enjoy your family vacation!
Annierose
Posted by Dinah on July 27, 2005, at 7:10:48
In reply to Re: Deborah Lott this Thursday, posted by annierose on July 26, 2005, at 21:03:11
Posted by Dinah on April 27, 2007, at 21:02:16
In reply to Good to see you back. :) (nm) » annierose, posted by Dinah on July 27, 2005, at 7:10:48
:(
I had forgotten all about this, but it really was fun.
Posted by DAisym on May 27, 2007, at 1:22:41
In reply to We only got to Chapter 7, and didn't do another bk, posted by Dinah on April 27, 2007, at 21:02:16
It was fun. Let's do another book. How about "A General Theory of Love"?
Or - other suggestions? We could do Yalom too.
Posted by Jammerlich on May 27, 2007, at 12:19:27
In reply to Re: We only got to Chapter 7, and didn't do another bk » Dinah, posted by DAisym on May 27, 2007, at 1:22:41
I'd be interested in that book. I've been *trying* to read it for several months now. Discussion would probably help me keep moving through it!
Posted by muffled on May 27, 2007, at 18:59:28
In reply to Re: We only got to Chapter 7, and didn't do another bk » DAisym, posted by Jammerlich on May 27, 2007, at 12:19:27
I was rteading thru this thread and wondering that alexs block was up and I was so happy bout that.
And then it said bout Lott comming and I thot, hmmm, she already been here!
MAN, how dense am I , I JUST figgered that its and old thread with new attachments, DUH.
There oughta be note at the top of such combined threads so densos like me don't get so thrown.
Its an interesting thread.
Mebbe if theres any interest someone should restart it at thebottom????
Dunno how thisa stuff works.
OH MAN!
M
Posted by Dinah on May 28, 2007, at 10:40:37
In reply to Re: We only got to Chapter 7, and didn't do another bk » Dinah, posted by DAisym on May 27, 2007, at 1:22:41
I'd like that. It's sitting on my nightstand, needing only encouragement to be read.
Posted by Dinah on May 28, 2007, at 10:41:57
In reply to ROFL!! I such a ditz!!!, posted by muffled on May 27, 2007, at 18:59:28
I must confess that I purposely continued it on this thread. I really enjoyed reading it again, and hoped others would as well. The joys of asynchronous communication. :)
Posted by Dinah on May 28, 2007, at 13:18:55
In reply to Theory of Love » DAisym, posted by Dinah on May 28, 2007, at 10:40:37
I don't know about you, but if I don't set dates, things get put aside for forever. (You should see our half painted walls).
Posted by Jammerlich on May 28, 2007, at 13:43:46
In reply to Shall we set a date?, posted by Dinah on May 28, 2007, at 13:18:55
Yes! Any time is fine with me. Just tell me when and how much I need to have read.
Posted by DAisym on May 28, 2007, at 15:08:23
In reply to Re: Shall we set a date? » Dinah, posted by Jammerlich on May 28, 2007, at 13:43:46
I read pretty fast and I will be rereading this so tell me if I'm unrealistic or pushing too fast.
Can we read the first chapter over the next week and start talking about it perhaps June 2nd or 3rd?
Let me know. :)
Posted by Jammerlich on May 28, 2007, at 15:39:28
In reply to Chapter One, posted by DAisym on May 28, 2007, at 15:08:23
Posted by Jammerlich on May 29, 2007, at 9:48:00
In reply to Works for me (nm) » DAisym, posted by Jammerlich on May 28, 2007, at 15:39:28
I'm not sure I'm going to be able to participate, so please don't plan things based on what might or might not work for me.
Posted by Dinah on June 6, 2007, at 8:38:27
In reply to Chapter One, posted by DAisym on May 28, 2007, at 15:08:23
I'll be ready to start Sunday 6/10 or Monday 6/11, I think.
Looking forward to it.
Posted by Honore on June 12, 2007, at 0:27:10
In reply to Re: Chapter One » DAisym, posted by Dinah on June 6, 2007, at 8:38:27
What are you reading?
Honore
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