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Posted by 10derheart on July 1, 2013, at 13:04:19
In reply to It is gone far beyond theorectical now, Dr. Bob, posted by 10derheart on June 30, 2013, at 11:37:12
I shouldn't have started this.
I just use this board as a secondary way to get Bob's attention. Emails are responded to....intermittently, so I thought, maybe, as luck would have it he'd be curious about my subject line...
Please, I didn't want to encourage bashing or uncivil posts toward Lou or anyone.
I just want every poster held to the overgeneralization rule and sensitivity rules, unless they are gone, in which case explicitly telling us that would be nice. I just wanted Dr. Bob to see we aren't imagining our concerns.
No, there was never an 'ignore' button here.
I wish we could delete our own threads.
Posted by SLS on July 1, 2013, at 13:06:10
In reply to Re: It is gone far beyond theorectical now, Dr. Bob, posted by Toph on July 1, 2013, at 12:33:35
> I'm sure it has dawned on many posters that Lou has no real interest in the people he purportedly attmpts to help with his strident admonitions and delusional solutions, rather he just likes to piss everyone off and spurn threads like this. The veil of cyber anonimity keeps him from facing those he injures while feeding his self-deception as the victim.
I sometimes wonder if Lou Pilder is trying to close this place down as one of his goals. He certainly has motive. He is also clever enough, and will continue to push the envelope until Dr. Bob sanctions him. He knows how disruptive his posts are, and how pernicious is his changing of the subject lines of every post he replies to. Ugly.
Psycho-Babble is quite ill.
PLEASE RESET SUBJECT LINES!
- Scott
Posted by SLS on July 1, 2013, at 13:41:09
In reply to Re: It is gone far beyond theorectical now, Dr. Bob, posted by 10derheart on July 1, 2013, at 13:04:19
> I wish we could delete our own threads.
If not you, it would have been me to start this thread. Only I would not have been as tactful as you in composing a subject line.
Bashing?
How does one define the word "bashing"?
Which of the words posted along this thread qualify as "bashing"?
I don't feel that I am bashing Lou Pilder. I am certainly making him the focus of my attention, however.
Simple: I think Lou Pilder should be blocked from posting if he continues his present posting behaviors.
- Scott
Posted by SLS on July 1, 2013, at 15:40:02
In reply to Re: It is gone far beyond theorectical now, Dr. Bob, posted by 10derheart on July 1, 2013, at 13:04:19
> I shouldn't have started this.
Confrontation can be uncomfortable, either to participate in or to witness. Not much would ever get done without it, though.
I'm sorry that I felt the need to confront you regarding your use of the word "bashing". It is an extremely important issue, in my estimation, to distinguish between bashing and discussing.
- Scott
Posted by 10derheart on July 1, 2013, at 17:03:26
In reply to Re: It is gone far beyond theorectical now, Dr. Bob » 10derheart, posted by SLS on July 1, 2013, at 13:41:09
I apologize if I accused you of bashing.
Accusation wasn't the mode of thought....I was more in, "oh crap, what did *I* just do and why did *I* do that?" mode.
>>How does one define the word "bashing"?
I guess I used it synonymously with the standard definitions of uncivil here on PB, mainly posts using language that could lead others to feel accused or put down and jumping to conclusions. You make a good point. Next time I will say what I mean more precisely; I can see how "bashing" could be vague.
The trouble is, of course, "uncivil," "accused," "put down," "insensitive," etc. could all be subject to interpretation.... so round and round we go and have gone for years. I rely on my understanding of what Dr. Bob generally used to mean by those when I was a deputy.
>>Which of the words posted along this thread qualify as "bashing"?
I shouldn't repost them, if I am going to resume following the FAQ policies as they stand.
I count at least 8 total times this occurs along the thread, with maybe 5 more depending on whether your Don Quixote analogy is "counted" as directed at Lou. I may be missing more, maybe my own. I think I posted at least one when I clearly implied you or others on this thread may be bashing or posting uncivil things. That is uncivil. (And i guess I am doing it again, right here...sigh...)
I reflexively reacted to seeing a thread I created that is the kind that quickly descends into mostly negative comments and descriptions about one poster's posts...based on my 2+ years of experience watching it happen again and again as a deputy. My frustration and assumption Dr. Bob will not appear or act as he used to gets the better of me and I start making my own, probably contradictory rules, or exceptions to rules.
I liked it....loved it, really, when the rules were strict and enforced. This is a minority and rejected POV by several long time posters, and many other categories of posters - I know. Perhaps by the majority, including those who lurk...I have no data to determine that. I am pretty sure you have posted more than once that you thought the blocks, sanctions, etc., in general became a problem, roughly in agreement with, for example, Twinleaf's views, if that's a reasonably accurate memory of mine? We disagree there.
I like rules and I like leaving the elephant standing in the room if that means *forcing* all of us to create civil posts instead of posting what we first think or feel, or when we strongly believe we are stating facts. But I have never seen this go smoothly when Dr. Bob is not actively, constantly, consistently here, and that is a pipe dream.As I said, my view has generally been overruled and rejected in these sorts of discussions on how to administer this site re: civility.
I respectfully have to say I disagree confrontation (the way I think you mean it) is required to get things done. I see it happen regularly in my real life (family, church, Facebook) when people are deliberate about it. It is really, really, challenging, to the point it's like learning a new language, but it happens. When I can't find a way to be utterly honest and kind, compassionate, and charitable all at the same time, then the latter three must take precedence. I am far, far, far from an expert at this tricky balance, but I dislike myself a lot when I lapse and quit trying.
My favorite thing about being a deputy was trying my best to demonstrate that. But that was a ***long*** time ago.
Posted by Phillipa on July 1, 2013, at 20:48:19
In reply to Re: It is gone far beyond theorectical now, Dr. Bob, posted by SLS on July 1, 2013, at 13:06:10
Scott this is my theory. Think the same. Phillipa
Posted by SLS on July 1, 2013, at 21:14:25
In reply to bashing, etc. (far too long) » SLS, posted by 10derheart on July 1, 2013, at 17:03:26
Apparently, the rules have changed.
Perhaps I will attain my goals by continually pushing the envelope up to the point where I receive my first posting block.
Confrontation is sometimes preferable to appeasement.
- Scott
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 2, 2013, at 2:56:04
In reply to Re: It is gone far beyond theorectical now, Dr. Bob » SLS, posted by 10derheart on June 30, 2013, at 18:45:09
> Seems no matter what means or method is used by posters to draw attention to this is met with...I don't know...some kind of philosophical gobbledygook questions as answers to our questions and concerns, or some new request for *us* to do or not do this or that.
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> I'm tired of that.
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> Some clear administration, please. {she says into the wind...}It can be like a hockey game, one minute it looks like you're going to lose, the next minute you win:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/20130617/msgs/1046226.html
I thought it helped to:
1. focus on supporting the poster asking for help
2. keep the subject line focused on the poster asking for help
3. counter negative information with positive information
4. be civilSpeaking of hockey, does anybody else know the term "power play"?
Bob
Posted by SLS on July 2, 2013, at 3:44:34
In reply to Re: It is gone beyond theorectical now, posted by Dr. Bob on July 2, 2013, at 2:56:04
> Speaking of hockey, does anybody else know the term "power play"?
Yes. I believe it occurs when a player is blocked from playing.
- Scott
Posted by SLS on July 2, 2013, at 3:47:21
In reply to Re: It is gone beyond theorectical now » Dr. Bob, posted by SLS on July 2, 2013, at 3:44:34
> > Speaking of hockey, does anybody else know the term "power play"?
>
> Yes. I believe it occurs when a player is blocked from playing.I'm really not here to play games, though.
- Scott
Posted by Emme_V2 on July 2, 2013, at 5:49:07
In reply to Re: It is gone far beyond theorectical now, Dr. Bob, posted by SLS on June 30, 2013, at 13:35:30
> > And it is absolutely ridiculous.
> >
> > :-(
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> I agree.
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> http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/20130617/msgs/1046049.html
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> It no longer makes sense to avoid the elephant in the room. He has a name.
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> Precedent?
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> http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/20020124/msgs/92279.html
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> Lou Pilder: "Psychotropic drugs have been used for 5000 years and have never shown to lead anyone to anyplace except death, either physically or a living death that eats the victim's minds."
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> Dr. Bob: "Please don't over-generalize. Whether or not you consider that the truth, that's not acceptable here."
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> - Scott
It looks like Scott found at least one good example of Bob previously enforcing the site guidelines against exaggeration and over-generalization. I'd be very pleased if those guidelines were enforced again.We have enough to battle with every day managing our illnesses. Please shouldn't come to a support forum and find themselves having to cope here as well. Even if some longtime posters are accustomed to certain circumstances here and are able to choose not to respond to posts that they find difficult, newcomers often do respond. Then the longtime posters expend energy trying to help the newcomer not only with their original question - which is the support folks here WANT to give - but in also doing damage control.
As Scott said, he's not here to play games. This board was not founded for the purposes of verbal hockey. I believe much of this could be alleviated if the site guidelines against exaggeration and over-generalization were applied. These guidelines already exist, they have already been enforced in the past, and they make sense.
Posted by Emme_V2 on July 2, 2013, at 5:50:57
In reply to Re: It is gone far beyond theorectical now, Dr. Bob, posted by SLS on June 30, 2013, at 13:35:30
Posted by Lou Pilder on July 2, 2013, at 8:37:48
In reply to Re: It is gone far beyond theorectical now, Dr. Bob, posted by Toph on July 1, 2013, at 12:33:35
> I'm sure it has dawned on many posters that Lou has no real interest in the people he purportedly attmpts to help with his strident admonitions and delusional solutions, rather he just likes to piss everyone off and spurn threads like this. The veil of cyber anonimity keeps him from facing those he injures while feeding his self-deception as the victim.
T,
You wrote,[...you have no real interest...delusional solutions...likes to **** everyone off...those he injures... spurns threads like this...feeding his self-deception as a victim...].
Friends, it is plainly visible here that Mr Hsiung and his deputy are allowing defamation to be heaped upon me here and could be seen as supportive, for Mr Hsiung states hat support takes precedence and that one match could start a forest fire. Mr Hsiung has stated that it may be good to see my requests not responded to. So I am REQUESTING TO YOU, to understand that when Mr. Hsiung and his deputies ARE IN CONCERT WITH MEMBERS POSTING HATE, that the hate could be induced into you , in such a way as to think that hate is state-sponsored and that you will be doing good for the community by yourself being in concert with the state. Be not deceived my friends, there have been many in history that have used the tactics here to arouse hatred toward one or a group and the record shows that it was not good for the community as a whole. And in this community, it has been revealed to me that overcoming depression and addiction is thwarted when hate is allowed to abound. And if hate is allowed to be seen as supportive, then this can be seen as a community of hate. Look at the lives of the people here using me as a scapegoat for their real or imagined ills and feelings. Look at the former deputy here arousing ill-will toward me here. Look at the leader allowing the hate to be posted here while hatred toward the Jews is also allowed to be posted.\
As long as my requests/notifications remain outstanding, hate will abound here as can be seen now. Hate that could keep you in the shackles of misery and even induce you to think that drugging a child will make them better. I pity those here that are led to believe that it may be good to see the hate being allowed to be posted toward me here, for you could be drawn into a vortex of hate yourself and kill yourself and/or others as the hate could consume you also by the nature that one match could start a forest fire. If you will not run from the flames, the flames will reduce you to ashes.
Lou PIlder
Posted by Twinleaf on July 2, 2013, at 9:15:54
In reply to Re: It is gone far beyond theorectical now, Dr. Bob » SLS, posted by Emme_V2 on July 2, 2013, at 5:49:07
I strongly support what Emme, Scott and others have said here. I am very concerned over the negative effect these posts are having upon newcomers - and how few newcomers there are now.
Scott found an excellent example of a very reasonable civility warning from the past to the poster in question. I join everyone else in making the strongest possible request that Dr. Bob reinstitute this kind of much needed administrative oversight. There could be as many civility warnings as he deems appropriate ( I.e. much more than one or two). But eventual short blocks of a week could also be considered. I personally think that, if they are used, they should always be kept short, and only used rarely. I think the prior continued doubling of block length becomes punitive, and does not help the poster maintain civil posting behavior, which should be the point.
In this situation, a clear PBC alone would clarify the standards of the forum, and go a long way towards reassuring newer posters.As time goes by with no action from Dr.Bob, this is becoming an extremely serious issue.
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 2, 2013, at 12:13:57
In reply to Re: It is gone far beyond theorectical now, Dr. Bob, posted by Twinleaf on July 2, 2013, at 9:15:54
> As time goes by with no action from Dr.Bob, this is becoming an extremely serious issue.
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> TwinleafOne point of view is that the psychiatrist needs to make the problem go away. Associated feelings might include anxiety and frustration. Success is dependent on the psychiatrist.
> We have enough to battle with every day managing our illnesses. Please shouldn't come to a support forum and find themselves having to cope here as well. Even if some longtime posters are accustomed to certain circumstances here and are able to choose not to respond to posts that they find difficult, newcomers often do respond. Then the longtime posters expend energy trying to help the newcomer not only with their original question - which is the support folks here WANT to give - but in also doing damage control.
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> Emme_V2Another point of view is that the problem needs continually to be battled. Associated feelings might include exhaustion and resentment. Success is dependent on learning ways to cope and finding the energy to persevere.
In a way, I see myself as trying a new coping mechanism that relies less on myself and deputies and more on posters. I feel some anxiety depending on others, but delighted and proud and hopeful because they just won a tough battle.
Bob
Posted by Dinah on July 2, 2013, at 12:32:17
In reply to Re: It is still somewhat theorectical, posted by Dr. Bob on July 2, 2013, at 12:13:57
> I feel some anxiety depending on others, but delighted and proud and hopeful because they just won a tough battle.
>
> BobWhat win was that? I don't really see a win.
I see bullying being allowed by management. People shouldn't come here for help and be shamed and bullied into panic attacks because of it. I will never be happy with management while vulnerable parents are being attacked for trying to do the best for their kids.
I struggle to maintain positive feelings towards even the most difficult of posters. But that's impossible for me to manage when management does not seem to care a bit about the pain caused to anyone other than one poster.
The thing is that that poster does try to follow the rules. So I see it as an easy enough thing for you to give a reminder about pressuring and exaggeration. The problem is really less with the poster and more with you.
Posted by Dinah on July 2, 2013, at 12:34:03
In reply to Lou's response and warning to readers » Toph, posted by Lou Pilder on July 2, 2013, at 8:37:48
Funny.
I see Dr. Bob as being in concert with you in allowing the reprehensible shaming of parents coming here looking for an answer. I suppose we can take it. Newcomers shouldn't have to take it.
Posted by Dinah on July 2, 2013, at 12:40:23
In reply to Lou's response and warning to readers » Toph, posted by Lou Pilder on July 2, 2013, at 8:37:48
Have you no shame?
Do you feel at all for the pain you caused that poster? Do you give a damn about people, or just about your mission?
If you think God will approve of that, well... All I can say is that we have different notions of God.
I want to feel positively about you, Lou. I was long a strong supporter of you. But you are hurting people. I don't have positive feelings about those who are hurting others.
Posted by Lou Pilder on July 2, 2013, at 12:43:14
In reply to Pain isn't theoretical » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on July 2, 2013, at 12:32:17
> > I feel some anxiety depending on others, but delighted and proud and hopeful because they just won a tough battle.
> >
> > Bob
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> What win was that? I don't really see a win.
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> I see bullying being allowed by management. People shouldn't come here for help and be shamed and bullied into panic attacks because of it. I will never be happy with management while vulnerable parents are being attacked for trying to do the best for their kids.
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> I struggle to maintain positive feelings towards even the most difficult of posters. But that's impossible for me to manage when management does not seem to care a bit about the pain caused to anyone other than one poster.
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> The thing is that that poster does try to follow the rules. So I see it as an easy enough thing for you to give a reminder about pressuring and exaggeration. The problem is really less with the poster and more with you.Friends,
It is written here,[...I see bullying being allowed...]and it is being allowed for others to heap hatred upon me with defamation, scapegoating and other devices that are against the rules.
Be advised that I am the subject person here and I am being accused falsely. This is allowed to stand by your "Dr. Bob" in spite of his own rules to the contrary. This could foster hatred toward me here and I could become a victim of anti-Semitic violence due to the nature that hatred toward the Jews is allowed to stand here and I am prevented from posting here the Jewish perspective in relation to what has been revealed to me that IMHHHHO could save your life, prevent addictions and life-ruining conditions and save the lives of innocent children that are drugged in collaboration with a psychiatrist/doctor.
You say I am bullying? I am being bullied, bullied by your "DR Bob" allowing hatred to be spewed upon the Jews and me here. And for those that want to pretend that they just don't see, I say to you that it would be better for you to be (redacted by respondent) than to come here and post that you do not see what is plainly visible.
Lou
Posted by Dinah on July 2, 2013, at 12:46:16
In reply to Lou's response and warning- » Dinah, posted by Lou Pilder on July 2, 2013, at 12:43:14
> I say to you that it would be better for you to be (redacted by respondent) than to come here and post that you do not see what is plainly visible.
> LouOh Lou. Don't redact. Please, tell me exactly what you'd see happen to me. Do you see Dr. Bob administrating?
I'd rather like to see the truth in your heart. It might be.... enlightening.
Posted by 10derheart on July 2, 2013, at 12:52:25
In reply to Re: It is gone far beyond theorectical now, Dr. Bob » SLS, posted by Emme_V2 on July 2, 2013, at 5:49:07
>>As Scott said, he's not here to play games. This board was not founded for the purposes of verbal hockey. I believe much of this could be alleviated if the site guidelines against exaggeration and over-generalization were applied. These guidelines already exist, they have already been enforced in the past, and they make sense.
So well and succinctly put it deserves to be reposted :-)
Bless you, Emme.
Posted by Lou Pilder on July 2, 2013, at 12:54:41
In reply to Re: Lou's response and warning to readers » Lou Pilder, posted by Dinah on July 2, 2013, at 12:40:23
> Have you no shame?
>
> Do you feel at all for the pain you caused that poster? Do you give a damn about people, or just about your mission?
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> If you think God will approve of that, well... All I can say is that we have different notions of God.
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> I want to feel positively about you, Lou. I was long a strong supporter of you. But you are hurting people. I don't have positive feelings about those who are hurting others.Friends,
The shame here is the preventing of me to post fro a Jewish perspective that IMHHHHHO could saver the lives of people and their children that they are trying to decide as to drug them or not in collaboration with a psychiatrist. These drugs can kill the minds of children and those that give them may not know what I know that could save the child's life. I am prohibited to post that here and people then could become uninformed by not knowing what I know. And it is so easy to persude the uninformed.
Parents. look what is being attempted to do to me here. Those that want to stuff my mouth to silence can attempt to engender whatever they want you to think, but it has been revealed to me as the sun comes out of the East and sets to the West, so shall those children that are killed by the drugs being promoted here see you one more time again. I am prevented from posting here what the God that I give service and worship to prescribes to those that
Posted by 10derheart on July 2, 2013, at 12:56:55
In reply to Pain isn't theoretical » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on July 2, 2013, at 12:32:17
>>The thing is that that poster does try to follow the rules. So I see it as an easy enough thing for you to give a reminder about pressuring and exaggeration. The problem is really less with the poster and more with you.
Gosh, why didn't I think of that?
That's exactly what it is.
Thank you.
Posted by Dinah on July 2, 2013, at 13:15:45
In reply to Lou's response and warning to readers-scheym, posted by Lou Pilder on July 2, 2013, at 12:54:41
I usually try to remember that it isn't really wise to ask someone who believes they are on a mission given to them by the rider on the white horse, to modify their message or have other considerations (such as compassion for a parent in pain) in mind.
And upon further reflection I have decided that I do not in any way shape or form want to know what resides in your heart. It doesn't look like very pleasant, what with the "redacted" and all.
My problem is really with Bob, not with you.
Posted by Dinah on July 2, 2013, at 13:17:07
In reply to Re: Pain isn't theoretical » Dinah, posted by 10derheart on July 2, 2013, at 12:56:55
It really is.
When Dr. Bob spoke of winning or whatever rot it was, I lost my temper.
I would always far rather see myself be a target than others.
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