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Posted by Sobriquet Style on February 27, 2006, at 18:36:40
In reply to yeah :-) (nm) » AuntieMel, posted by 10derheart on February 27, 2006, at 17:42:36
Hope my post didn't offend anyone. It was meant as a harmless observation of recent messages/threads.
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Posted by Daisym on February 27, 2006, at 20:56:31
In reply to Re: Careful! » daisym, posted by AuntieMel on February 27, 2006, at 15:40:00
Sorry. I know better. Thanks for the warning. I shall retire to safer places and eat cream of wheat.
:(
Posted by Daisym on February 27, 2006, at 20:58:20
In reply to Please be civil » daisym, posted by Dinah on February 27, 2006, at 15:40:44
This might be my first one, sorry it had to come from you.
I'm heading back to safer waters. Didn't mean to add to the ruckus. I know better.
Posted by 10derHeart on February 27, 2006, at 21:05:30
In reply to Ps, posted by Sobriquet Style on February 27, 2006, at 18:36:40
Your post didn't offend me, and my post had absolutely nothing to do with your post on this thread.
No worries :-)
Posted by Dinah on February 27, 2006, at 22:59:06
In reply to Re: Please be civil » Dinah, posted by Daisym on February 27, 2006, at 20:58:20
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 28, 2006, at 2:01:53
In reply to Re: San Francisco, posted by 5 on February 27, 2006, at 7:13:14
> Don't people find it strange that he wants to hang out with a bunch of women in the grip of transference?
Are you calling KID A a woman? :-)
Bob
Posted by Sobriquet Style on February 28, 2006, at 4:48:47
In reply to Re: Ps » Sobriquet Style, posted by 10derHeart on February 27, 2006, at 21:05:30
Posted by AuntieMel on February 28, 2006, at 9:03:03
In reply to Re: San Francisco, posted by Dr. Bob on February 28, 2006, at 2:01:53
Posted by LegWarmers on February 28, 2006, at 9:10:53
In reply to Re: San Francisco, posted by Dr. Bob on February 28, 2006, at 2:01:53
Posted by KID A on February 28, 2006, at 13:00:12
In reply to Re: San Francisco, posted by Dr. Bob on February 28, 2006, at 2:01:53
> > Don't people find it strange that he wants to hang out with a bunch of women in the grip of transference?
>
> Are you calling KID A a woman? :-)
>
> BobI'm going to be in the grip of low self esteem if someone doesn't say I'm gorgeous--- stat.
Posted by LegWarmers on February 28, 2006, at 14:19:52
In reply to Re: San Francisco, posted by KID A on February 28, 2006, at 13:00:12
>
> I'm going to be in the grip of low self esteem if someone doesn't say I'm gorgeous--- stat.I think you are hOt and gorgeous!
Posted by Dr. Bob on March 1, 2006, at 1:14:27
In reply to Please be civil » 5, posted by Dinah on February 27, 2006, at 9:50:25
> > Don't people find it strange that he wants to hang out with a bunch of women in the grip of transference?
>
> Please don't jump to conclusions about others or post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down.I just want to be clear that I agree with Dinah and my previous lighthearted remark was not intended in any way to condone jumping to conclusions...
Bob
Posted by Racer on March 1, 2006, at 13:11:00
In reply to Re: San Francisco, posted by 5 on February 27, 2006, at 7:13:14
> Don't you have friends in real life, Dr Bob? Don't people find it strange that he wants to hang out with a bunch of women in the grip of transference? Don't people find that just a little disconcerting?
It's taken me a bit of time to respond to this, giving myself time to settle my jets before I got myself in trouble. I think I'm cooler now.
When I first read this, it felt like a slap in the face. I won't address the question of whether or not I feel transference in any situation, because I do't feel qualified to do so. I will say that I resent someone who knows my situation so much less than I do stating that I am "in the grip of transference."
I also feel as though I'm collateral damage in a situation that has nothing to do with me, and that feels bad, too.
So, the bottom line is that I feel bad after reading something someone else wrote. Someone who, so far as I know, doesn't even know me to make judgements about me. I hope someone came out of this situation feeling good. Otherwise it just seems like we've all lost.
Posted by crushedout on March 1, 2006, at 14:45:05
In reply to Re: San Francisco » 5, posted by Racer on March 1, 2006, at 13:11:00
Posted by Gabbix2 on March 1, 2006, at 19:02:43
In reply to Re: San Francisco » 5, posted by Racer on March 1, 2006, at 13:11:00
It was very civil
I thought the post was unusual because the general complaint I hear about Dr. Bob is that he doesn't see us as individuals, we are a group experiment.
And yet, when he does something like invite people out for drinks, which I thought was a nice gesture.
Suddenly.. according to the poster the attendees would be " a group of women in the grip of transference"
I certainly felt de-personalized by that comment, though I'm not attending, nor have I experienced transference that I know of anyway.It also seems that well, as dr. Bob has likely clued into by now. : )
He can't win.
Posted by 5 on March 1, 2006, at 21:33:31
In reply to Re: jumping to conclusions, posted by Dr. Bob on March 1, 2006, at 1:14:27
> > > Don't people find it strange that he wants to hang out with a bunch of women in the grip of transference?
So people might feel accused or put down if you say they are having a transference response?
I didn't know at was an accusatory / putting down thing to say...
I'm sorry for the hurt feelings. I didn't intend to hurt anybody.
For those who attended...
Would you meet other men in person who you had only talked to off the internet?
Why does it feel safer to meet with Dr Bob?
Especially given that... He doesn't even talk in proper sentances ;-)
Posted by Gabbix2 on March 1, 2006, at 21:37:24
In reply to Re: jumping to conclusions » Dr. Bob, posted by 5 on March 1, 2006, at 21:33:31
Um.. 5
Your slip is showing.
Posted by 5 on March 1, 2006, at 21:39:29
In reply to Re: jumping to conclusions » 5, posted by Gabbix2 on March 1, 2006, at 21:37:24
You mean you didn't notice it before?
Posted by Gabbix2 on March 1, 2006, at 21:58:55
In reply to Re: jumping to conclusions » Gabbix2, posted by 5 on March 1, 2006, at 21:39:29
I just wasn't sure how concerned you were about it is all : )
Posted by Tabitha on March 2, 2006, at 0:00:44
In reply to Re: San Francisco, posted by KID A on February 28, 2006, at 13:00:12
> I'm going to be in the grip of low self esteem if someone doesn't say I'm gorgeous--- stat.
I remember your pic and you are a cutie!
Posted by 5 on March 2, 2006, at 4:00:03
In reply to Re: jumping to conclusions » 5, posted by Gabbix2 on March 1, 2006, at 21:58:55
> I just wasn't sure how concerned you were about it is all : )
How concerned can I afford to be?
Changing is harder than people might be inclined to think it is...
People don't have to like it.
It is okay.
Well...
More to the point...
There is nothing to be done.
I'm here for a short time etc etc...
Tying up loose ends...
Or something.
This community is interesting in how people change
Flavor of the month...
Then it is like they just pop out of existence
And its okay
It doesn't matter
Things continue on
Nobody is worse off
Because things continue on
Nobody notices
Or not after a time
And all things considered
The community is better offBecause that is what blocks are about
And when they start to stack up
One has got to start wondering what the message is...Change in personality
aka pervasive posting style
One poster noted that
And I suppose one is left having to conclude that that is true
But that being the case
I'm here for a short time
Tying up lose ends
And then...
Things will continue
Better off.
I mean all the people who may have felt accused or put down in my wake...
Better off.Strange.
But there it is.
Posted by 10derHeart on March 2, 2006, at 11:29:58
In reply to Re: jumping to conclusions » Gabbix2, posted by 5 on March 2, 2006, at 4:00:03
>>Then it is like they just pop out of existence
And its okay
It doesn't matter<<I completely disagree. It does matter.
>>Things continue on
Nobody is worse off<<I don't believe you can possibly know that that's true for each individual other poster. Perhaps some feel a huge void in the community.
>>Nobody notices<<
Again, I totally disagree. You'd be surprised what people notice....
>>The community is better off
So you say. Definitely debatable.
((5))
Posted by zenhussy on March 2, 2006, at 13:42:30
In reply to Re: San Francisco » KID A, posted by Tabitha on March 2, 2006, at 0:00:44
>> I'm going to be in the grip of low self esteem if someone doesn't say I'm gorgeous--- stat.
>>>> I remember your pic and you are a cutie!he (haven't checked closely as that isn't polite but am rather convinced he is male) is a ravishingly handsome gentleman who has been a lovely houseguest during his stay.
glad someone else remembers those pics from way back ;)
Posted by KID A on March 2, 2006, at 14:33:31
In reply to Re: San Francisco » KID A, posted by Tabitha on March 2, 2006, at 0:00:44
> > I'm going to be in the grip of low self esteem if someone doesn't say I'm gorgeous--- stat.
>
> I remember your pic and you are a cutie!
>And now, I couldn't be happier with the way this went!
Posted by Gabbix2 on March 2, 2006, at 16:21:53
In reply to Re: jumping to conclusions » Gabbix2, posted by 5 on March 2, 2006, at 4:00:03
I can't say everything I want to right now, but I will.
In the mean time, It's summed up pretty well on my post to you in Social.If there's anything you can interpret negatively.
It's not meant that way. : )
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