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Posted by alexandra_k on June 8, 2005, at 2:48:50
In reply to Re: and what am i doing with this??? » alexandra_k, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on June 8, 2005, at 1:23:31
Posted by alexandra_k on June 8, 2005, at 3:40:52
In reply to Re: sorry (nm) » Gabbi-x-2, posted by alexandra_k on June 8, 2005, at 2:48:50
Thanks guys.
Posted by alexandra_k on June 8, 2005, at 3:47:32
In reply to Re: and what am i doing with this??? » alexandra_k, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on June 8, 2005, at 1:23:31
in general...
philosophers dont talk about helping people
it isnt about helping people
it is about investigating the nature of
knowledge
truth
reality
or whatever.over in the psychology dept you find people talking about helping people
mostly in clinical
teaching them stuff to help them practice
otherwise they dont really care about helping people
they are interested in finding out about the nature of
neurons
prejudice
whatever
just because they find it interesting
though practical implications are typically hauled in
when it comes to obtaining that research grantwe do that with ethics
sometimes it is considered 'selling out'
to adopt a topic
because of an associated research granti have come to the conclusion it is more about comprimise
but in general
helping people is not a consideration at all
it isn't in management
in most jobs
advertising
whatever
its not usually about helping people.i don't know
i don't know if that was even a question that you wanted answered or whatacademia is removed from the real world
it is its own world
in general people are kinder there
than the people who aren't
in my life expereince anyways
i dont know waht to say
sorry
Posted by alexandra_k on June 8, 2005, at 3:52:08
In reply to Re: and what am i doing with this??? » alexandra_k, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on June 8, 2005, at 1:23:31
im sorry
im pretty fragile at the moment
i should have stopped when you asked me to
im sorryi moved pretty quick from the topic to talking about arguments / philosophy in general
my thoughts on that didn't bear any direct relation to the initial topic.
in particular:
dinah,
i didn't think you were being inconsistent
i was just saying...look.
it doesnt matter
im sorry i didn't stop when you asked me to
im sorry you felt upset last night
i didn't feel very good either
i was hoping to repair that today but i think i just made it worse
Posted by Dinah on June 8, 2005, at 5:08:37
In reply to Re: gabbi - dinah, posted by alexandra_k on June 8, 2005, at 3:52:08
I'm sorry if you're upset, Alexandra, or feeling fragile.
It is difficult for me to believe that you didn't intend your comments on consistence or contradictions to have anything to do with me, since they closely followed statements by you on your perception that the party and the restrictive boards were essentially the same. And were unleavened by any intervening acknowledgement of my thought processes on why they were not indeed the same, and could not be considered the same, because the locus of the inability to join was different.
However I will try for the sake of mutual good will to believe that your statements were unrelated to mine.
Posted by AuntieMel on June 8, 2005, at 8:27:30
In reply to Re: not that strong, posted by alexandra_k on June 7, 2005, at 18:33:05
I love a good debate as much as the next guy. Just ask anyone here....
But - one of the first things kids learn in language arts is how to read a sentence and label it "fact" or "opinion."
Debating "facts" - or using logic to show that a set of premises naturally come to a conclusion is one thing - and one that no one should have any problem with, because the premises can be shown to be true or untrue.
Debating "opinion" however is usually an exercise in futility. Opinion doesn't involve just facts, it also involves feelings and personal experiences.
And anytime feelings are brought into an argument there is a strong chance they will get hurt.
Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on June 8, 2005, at 14:14:25
In reply to Re: debating the undebatable » alexandra_k, posted by AuntieMel on June 8, 2005, at 8:27:30
Thanks so much. Here's a little to much info, but I'll get to the point eventually. I've become Dr. phobic, after dealing with an antibiotic resistant infection (sorry if you've heard this) seeing 5 Doctors and 3 specialists, and being told there's either nothing wrong,
(yeah nothing wrong except every once in a while the whole side of my face swells up..) or at worst, hallucinating, or self injuring for attention..or because I'm stressed. "Maybe you should try and figure out the reason for your stress that's causing you to do this, do you have any idea?"
"Yeah, well you see, I have this infection and no doctor seems to be taking me seriously.."I'm actually scared to go. Today I have a dissapointment with a new guy about something different. I've been nervous for three days, But this morning I thought..hey.. "I'm AWESOME!"
and I think I shall greet him with a smug smile on my face.You never know how much words can mean.
Thanks for the pat on the back.Sorry for hi-jacking the thread.
And now back to...
Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on June 8, 2005, at 14:41:25
In reply to Emmy, Dinah, P.C » AuntieMel, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on June 8, 2005, at 14:14:25
Posted by alexandra_k on June 8, 2005, at 16:22:46
In reply to Re: gabbi - dinah » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on June 8, 2005, at 5:08:37
> It is difficult for me to believe that you didn't intend your comments on consistence or contradictions to have anything to do with me, since they closely followed statements by you on your perception that the party and the restrictive boards were essentially the same. And were unleavened by any intervening acknowledgement of my thought processes on why they were not indeed the same, and could not be considered the same, because the locus of the inability to join was different.
YOU:
>>I don't think it's the same,
ME:
>ok.I never said you were being inconsistent Dinah.
You haven't said anything that is explicitly inconsistent that I noticed.But that is a general strategy, yes.
To explore the issue more to see whether they are truely analogous and to pinpoint the difference, or to see that there isn't a relevant difference.You think there is a relevant difference
I think that they might be fairly much the same in some relevant respects
But...
Apparantly our values are different so it is pointless to discuss it further.
Posted by alexandra_k on June 8, 2005, at 16:28:32
In reply to Re: debating the undebatable » alexandra_k, posted by AuntieMel on June 8, 2005, at 8:27:30
> Debating "facts" - or using logic to show that a set of premises naturally come to a conclusion is one thing - and one that no one should have any problem with, because the premises can be shown to be true or untrue.
> Debating "opinion" however is usually an exercise in futility. Opinion doesn't involve just facts, it also involves feelings and personal experiences.Validity and invalidity (logical notions) don't require one to know whether the premises are in fact true or not.
To say that an argument is valid is to say that IF the premises were true THEN the conclusion would just have to be.
So if someone believes that the premises are true it doesn't matter whether they are right that they are true or whether they are wrong that they are true the point is that that person would also have to accept the conclusion as true if they accept the premises as true.
So they are led to contradiction if they want to assent to the premises and deny the conclusion. So they have to decide whether they want to change their mind and say that actually one of the premises is false, or that actually the conclusion is true after all.
It isn't about mind-objective truth
It is about consistency in ones belief network
>
Posted by henrietta on June 8, 2005, at 19:31:59
In reply to Re: Auntiemel, posted by alexandra_k on June 8, 2005, at 16:28:32
I'm sorry you're feeling fragile. Maybe when you're feeling fragile this is not the best place to be.
I get everything you're saying (studied a lot of phil in college, and husband has masters in philosophy), but you're right, there's not much point in trying to continue this conversation here. In my opinion, your goals are entirely different from the goals of those you're trying to converse with, and not much good can come from that .
And I think you're awesome AND amazing! Sorry I'm not able (or, to be honest, willing) to hang out here much---but I'm supporting you in spirit.
XXO hen
Posted by henrietta on June 8, 2005, at 19:33:41
In reply to Alex, posted by henrietta on June 8, 2005, at 19:31:59
please take care of yourself!
Posted by alexandra_k on June 8, 2005, at 23:04:07
In reply to Re: Alex PS, posted by henrietta on June 8, 2005, at 19:33:41
Thanks.
Yeah.
I should have just let it go.
Admin probably isn't the best place for me to be when I am feeling fragile.
Posted by alexandra_k on June 8, 2005, at 23:04:32
In reply to Re: Alex PS » henrietta, posted by alexandra_k on June 8, 2005, at 23:04:07
because logic is my coping strategy
Posted by Dinah on June 9, 2005, at 0:37:09
In reply to Re: dinah, posted by alexandra_k on June 8, 2005, at 16:22:46
Quite probably true on this topic, Alexandra. But hopefully not true on all topics. At least it hasn't seemed to be in the past, and hopefully won't be in the future.
Posted by alexandra_k on June 9, 2005, at 3:33:25
In reply to Re: dinah » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on June 9, 2005, at 0:37:09
Sorry peoples.
I did ramble today / yesterday, didn't I...
Thought it might be time for a hug break.
(((Dinah)))
(((Gabbi)))
(((AuntieMel)))
Especially.
And (((everybody))) else too.
:-)
Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on June 9, 2005, at 14:04:49
In reply to Re: Hug break, posted by alexandra_k on June 9, 2005, at 3:33:25
How long have you been standing here? Your arms must be tired.
((((SquishedAlex)))
I just pulled your hair too : )
Posted by alexandra_k on June 9, 2005, at 21:21:42
In reply to OH Gosh » alexandra_k, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on June 9, 2005, at 14:04:49
...Though Dr Bob did choose to have the party in Chicago which excludes certain people from attending rather than, say, Auckland NZ which would have excluded certain others ;-)
Posted by alexandra_k on June 9, 2005, at 22:25:10
In reply to OH Gosh » alexandra_k, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on June 9, 2005, at 14:04:49
> How long have you been standing here? Your arms must be tired.
Aw. Its ok.
Its so cold I froze solid
So it didn't take too much effort.
> ((((SquishedAlex))):-)
> I just pulled your hair too : )Careful or I'll have to smack you ;-)
Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on June 9, 2005, at 23:27:44
In reply to Re: relevant difference, posted by alexandra_k on June 9, 2005, at 21:21:42
> ...Though Dr Bob did choose to have the party in Chicago which excludes certain people from attending rather than, say, Auckland NZ which would have excluded certain others ;-)
The inference from that I gather, is ethics of convenience "I wanted to do this, so I'm going to rationalize a way for it to be fair"
I can't imagine anyone having an opinion would feel it any more or less exclusive if Dr.Bob had held it in Japan, or if there was a conference he invitated people to that happened to be in
L.A.Life circumstances are going to prevent some from going to a party. That does not make it an exclusive event if all are invited.
I really wish the topic of the party and the exclusion could be left alone. It's clear what you are saying, that there are personal desires
affecting the consistancy of ethics. There are not.
Some see the two as being different in a way that you do not. Please try and accept this without feeling as if you need to educate the commoners. I wish the inferences would stop. I wish this topic could be let go of. Believe it or not critical thinking is not a foreign concept to us.
Posted by Dinah on June 10, 2005, at 7:53:22
In reply to Re: relevant difference » alexandra_k, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on June 9, 2005, at 23:27:44
Thank you again, Gabbi. You said that better than I could.
I'm assuming that Dr. Bob let the prior comment about the average person go because he correctly believes all Babblers are extraordinary. :)
Posted by Dinah on June 10, 2005, at 8:05:22
In reply to Re: Hug break, posted by alexandra_k on June 9, 2005, at 3:33:25
Alexandra, it seems to me that you're very hurt by not being able to come to Chicago. I think a lot of people were, even though almost everyone is being very gracious about it. I really wish there was some way to include everyone physically, and if not physically, then through technology.
It does occur to me that Babble birthday parties are doing more harm than good to the board, and I even emailed Dr. Bob something along those lines.
I understand that you place less emphasis on intent than I do in this topic. (Although I hope you appreciate the importance I place on intent.)
However, I hope you don't think that Dr. Bob held it there to exclude you. Just as if he were to hold in in New Zealand, and I absolutely could not scrape up enough money to go, I wouldn't consider that his intent was to exclude those from the US. Of course, if he decides to go to that area, I hope it's to the opal mining area of Australia. That's always been on my list of dream trips.
A hug for you, Alexandra, because you seem upset, and that was never my intention.
(((((Alexandra)))))
And a hug for Gabbi and Auntie Mel as well.
((((((Gabbi))))))
(((((Auntie Mel)))))
Posted by alexandra_k on June 10, 2005, at 10:20:10
In reply to Re: Hug break » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on June 10, 2005, at 8:05:22
> Alexandra, it seems to me that you're very hurt by not being able to come to Chicago.
Not particularly. I would have liked to have gone and I feel a little envious that I couldn't but I'm not *very* hurt. I've had worse 'life circumstances' and this does not compare to those.
>I think a lot of people were, even though almost everyone is being very gracious about it.
I'm sorry if you think I am not being gracious about it. I'm not trying to ruin this. I just find it suprising and a little strange that the people most upset about small boards are most happy with the notion of a Babble party.
> It does occur to me that Babble birthday parties are doing more harm than good to the boardI disagree. I think it was a wonderful opportunity. It sounds like the people who went really enjoyed themselves and other people here are enjoying some of what people have to say about their experience.
> I understand that you place less emphasis on intent than I do in this topic. (Although I hope you appreciate the importance I place on intent.)
???
I'm not sure how I am placing less emphasis on intent. But maybe my focus is different. It is like one of us seeing the glass half full and the other seeing the glass half empty. You describe the intent as purposely excluding others, I describe the intent as purposely trying to help people feel included.
> However, I hope you don't think that Dr. Bob held it there to exclude you.I don't.
I am not taking it personally.
Really :-)>Just as if he were to hold in in New Zealand, and I absolutely could not scrape up enough money to go, I wouldn't consider that his intent was to exclude those from the US.
Yup.
And I guess I don't consider his intent to be to exclude people from Babbling.
Thanks for the hug.
I really am ok.
I hope you are ok too.
Posted by alexandra_k on June 10, 2005, at 10:32:46
In reply to Re: relevant difference » alexandra_k, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on June 9, 2005, at 23:27:44
> > ...Though Dr Bob did choose to have the party in Chicago which excludes certain people from attending rather than, say, Auckland NZ which would have excluded certain others ;-)
> The inference from that I gather, is ethics of convenience "I wanted to do this, so I'm going to rationalize a way for it to be fair"
What I was attempting to illustrate was the idea that what might be described as 'life circumstances' can sometimes also be described as 'intentional action'.
With respect to whether feelings of being left out result from 'life circumstances' or the 'intentional action' of a person.
To say that small boards are about intentional exclusion whereas babble parties are about life circumstances may not be so much of a distinction if we can equally well describe small boards as being about life circumstances and babble parties about intentional action.
And so if that is the relevant difference, I'm not sure that the 'difference' is enough to distinguish between those two cases.
> I really wish the topic of the party and the exclusion could be left alone.
I know you do.
> Some see the two as being different in a way that you do not. Please try and accept this
I'm trying to understand it. I'm finding it hard to see the relevant difference.
>without feeling as if you need to educate the commoners.
Ouch. I'm sorry that you feel that that is my intention. I'm trying to have a discussion. I don't see myself as better than you or anyone else on these boards.
:-(>I wish the inferences would stop. I wish this topic could be let go of.
You are free to stop following the thread if you really have had enough.
Remember... I can only post three posts if nobody responds...
>Believe it or not critical thinking is not a foreign concept to us.
Of course I believe it!
Thats why I like talking with you people.
If I looked down on you why would I bother?
If I was just trying to educate you why would I bother?
(Please believe me that tutoring is not my favourite thing to do)In this thread...
What you said to me got me thinking about my thoughts on philosophy etc in general.
In general.I can see you have an image of me
Of what you think I am trying to do
And my ramble on the nature of philosophy probably only served to reinforce that.:-(
Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on June 10, 2005, at 12:56:52
In reply to Re: relevant difference » Gabbi-x-2, posted by alexandra_k on June 10, 2005, at 10:32:46
> >without feeling as if you need to educate the commoners.
>
> Ouch. I'm sorry that you feel that that is my intention. I'm trying to have a discussion. I don't see myself as better than you or anyone else on these boards.How could I not.
You said "I'm trying to help people learn, but most ordinary people don't give a sh*t"
That sounds like an intent to educated to me.
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