Posted by Joan797 on May 29, 2006, at 7:32:33
In reply to Re: Go play crazy somewhere else, posted by llrrrpp on May 28, 2006, at 18:40:12
My father is dying, my family is moving on with their lives while I take care of him day and night.
My children are taking advantage of the situation of me being gone all the time by going out or staying at someone elses house all the time as well. They never stay home, thus never getting any household chores done for me.
Those that they stay with, family or friends, do not see a problem and never suggest that my children actually do something to help me out. One of these people is my mother in law....another one is my sister in law. In laws dont' seem to give a flying f**k about my situation.
I guess this has gone on so long, (we are going on 8 months now) they don't seem to remember or even care about the situation. Noone asks me how my dad is anymore, or if they do, they don't wait for me to answer them before they interrupt with their own story or start talking to someone else.
Those of us who are staying at dad's taking care of him are begining to lose patience with the situation, barking at each other, calculating each one's time and effort spent, or avoiding chores that should be done.
I'm exhausted, mentally overwhelmed, frustrated completely, and begining to hate everyone and their lives that don't seem effected as mine is by the situation.
Unless someone has been through this same scenario, it just doesn't seem that they understand or are affected by my situation enough to lend a hand.
All I can say is that when this is over, I'm bying a one way ticket to an exotic location, family, friends, etc. are not invited. Whether I ever come back or not depends on how long it takes me to stop being mad. I have a good percentage of German blood in me, thus making me very stubborn. I think it will be a long time.
Joan
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