Posted by shrinking violet on August 20, 2005, at 13:54:21
Even though this sort of falls under the Psychology forum, I'm posting it here since it has to do with a book idea...
I've had a turbulent relationship with my ex-T, and the termination was rather messy as well. I feel like it's an open wound that will never heal, because the person who holds the power to help me heal will not provide any solutions. Too many times I've read on this board how crossed boundaries, blunders, and bad terminations have caused so much pain to so many clients. It angers me, somewhat too, that most T's have no idea how their actions and words can cause so much pain. I believe that most T's do mean well, but their ignorance or lack of vigilance in such matters causes much unnecessary pain and confusion for their clients.
I've been thinking of writing a book that is aimed toward sufferers at the hands of their T's, so that they know they are not alone and are not "crazy" for quesitoning and wondering and hurting. I also hope it will be used as a manual for clinicians, to prevent them from causing more harm. It seems the topic of terminations, and how they can deeply effect clients if done "wrong" isn't addressed enough when a T is trained. I hope this book will teach them.
Even though the book will consist of my personal story, and hopefully some input from cinicians as well, the bulk of the book will also consist of contributions from clients who have been hurt in a therapeutic situation. Whether it be from crossed boundaries, or a bad termination...whatever the form, the ending is the same: pain, confusion, emotional torture. Aliases will of course be used to protect the identities of all involved, and any clinicians will have a chance to respond and add their input, if desired.
This is just an off-the-cuff idea, so I was hoping for some feedback. One such book that helped me after I terminated with my T was "When Boundaries Betray Us" by Carter Heyward. This book speaks of her experience with her former T, and the pain she suffered and how she found healing. My book will be similar, but it will also include other stories as well, not just my own, and will also be geared toward professionals as a manual of sorts.
Again, this idea is just at the planning stages, and any input is appreciated (whether it's a good idea, if anyone would contribute, etc).
Just a thought.....
Peace to everyone,
SV
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