Posted by cockeyed on June 4, 2005, at 0:19:44
In reply to Re: anger management, posted by sunny10 on May 20, 2005, at 14:09:53
> What I've seen occur here on Writing is this...
> new people write things. And the people who have been here for a while don't really "know your voice" yet, so they question what you mean.
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> As a newcomer, feels like you are being asked to "defend" your work(because if you're at all like me, "answering to" or explaining my writing always make me feel a bit defensive).
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> But the "oldtimers" aren't really trying to put a stop to the cathartic energy of your writing. Most of us are just trying to get a feel for your "tone of voice", so we can understand you and support you better. And also trying to protect each other by making suggestions about how to protect others while writing for yourself. A trigger warning simply lets you write what you need to write. If I am feeling particularly vulnerable, I will probably not read those labelled as possible trigger just then to protect myself. It protects both of us. Your right to get it off your chest, and mine to not hurt myself.
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> BY NO MEANS should you stop the cathartic writing...
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> Keep plugging away- 'cause eventually most of us will know what you mean and what tone of voice you're utilizing for each particular piece... and if we aren't sure, we'll ask...
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> Be you- that's what Babble is for!Sunny, thanks. I was writing to purge a madness that almost overcame me 14 years ago after my stepson had died of aids. I was on meds and straight vodka. I had the sure and certain light that ultra-violence was perfectly sensible and acceptable as a response to an attack on me that was physical and unexpected. There is a part of me that can deal with the pure light of reason especially if I'm stoned...the usual mantra of criminal behavior...hey, I can get over. Hey, this is so cool. But the reason is really rage, senseless except in the light of drugs...so I wrote this to remind myself. It seems so clear when one is impaired...sounds pompous, how's this? When you're f----d up. And I was and I hoppe I'll never be again. Not like that. The trouble is that there is a seduction which takes place. I was lucky because I was in a way beside myself and a voice of reason anchored me and kept me from something I do not want to imagine. Life is at times cruel enough so that somebody like me doesn't have to add to it. Sadly, it happens all too much. Thanks, cockeyed.
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