Posted by pegasus on January 2, 2007, at 9:29:24
In reply to Gonna get coached, posted by pegasus on December 26, 2006, at 10:52:51
I met with the coach last week, and was underwhelmed. He seemed to listen to my story, and he did validate that I had good reason to be angry. And that my boss handled the situation unskillfully.
Then he laid out his conceptualization of the situation, which I have a feeling is the same conceptualization he uses for every workplace problem. Basically, we all learn how to take on the roles of perpetrator, victim, and rescuer. We all develop an affinity for one or another of these positions. When we drop into these roles in relation to each other, we lose our ability to approach things differently, because of our familiarity with those roles. The solution is to learn to communicate assertively, rather than passively or aggressively.
So, then he gave us a rather simplistic article on Conflict Resolution, and one on Managing Emotions. I wasn't terribly impressed with either. I can see that we're going to be approaching this whole thing on a pretty superficial level.
Although, he said that his goal was to help us work as a team, and that to do that we have to have real relationships with each other, and even possibly learn to really care about each other. So that vision appeals to me. We'll see if it can happen. My challenge now is to figure out what I need before I'm willing to do what *I* need to do to make that vision possible.
We have a group session on Friday. Scary thought!
peg
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