Posted by ClearSkies on January 3, 2008, at 9:27:21
In reply to Re: A new year for my step daughter » ClearSkies, posted by antigua3 on January 2, 2008, at 7:20:06
She is staying with us during the day. Signed up for a suboxone program ($$$) but can't get in until the 15th to start. Can't be trusted to be left alone with a phone or a car, so the family and BF are taking turns watching her. She sits, she sleeps. She doesn't eat, doesn't talk. She must be feeling pretty awful, I would think. But even this is projection on my part, because she's not saying.
The thing of it is, she seems pretty content to let everybody else do the work so far. Make the phone calls. Drive her places. Everyone else is taking care of her, and she's being swept along. Who knows if this is what she wants? If she wants anything at all?
It's not ME who is going through this. I tell her to drink fluids, to eat something. I point her towards websites that talk about withdrawal and what to expect, what to do for yourself. She is utterly indifferent. Why do I bother, why should I make an effort when she cares not to, herself? How much of this is the illness? How much of this is her own self, expecting the world to pick up the pieces of her scattered life, shattered before it's even had a chance to really start?
Her dad is angry, very angry. Her mom keeps calling him, saying that he could get her in to see a doctor sooner; but he balks, because he's not prepared to pay, again, to save her. She has bilked him of thousands of dollars already, and he is determined that she'll be responsible for herself. But she doesn't care to be! So there is a standoff, before anything has even happened. She has to make some movement, to show that she's prepared to take care of herself.
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