Posted by ClearSkies on December 3, 2007, at 7:09:17
In reply to I am scared!!!, posted by twinch42085 on December 1, 2007, at 2:52:36
Being around people who trigger our own bad behaviors is one of those known problems: "people, places, things" that we've got to protect ourselves from when trying to get and stay clean. There's a friend of my spouse's who has really bad habits, is totally oblivious to his effect on me, but I HAVE to stay away from him for my own sake. Just a couple of hours spent with him and I'm ready to throw away months of hard work, for no good reason, except that watching him in action makes my sick mind think that if he can get away with it, so can I. But it's not so. I can't get away with breaking with my sobriety. The price I pay - in shame, guilt, and what I can possibly do to my body and soul, is too great. So I avoid his company at great pains, and it helps me a lot when I protect myself in this way.
It's a selfish thing, but for your own good, you must put yourself with people who are going to support your sobriety, not encourage the old habits. It may not be a permanent change, but for now, to keep yourself safe, it's really the best thing for you to do.
Good luck,
ClearSkies
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