Posted by sunny10 on May 6, 2005, at 14:12:40
In reply to Re: thank you sunny, posted by AuntieMel on May 6, 2005, at 12:03:23
I think that right now I am too nervous to suggest much to him besides therapy...part of him thinks that he is agreeing to it just to make me happy, I think. He is still partly in denial, I think.
It's the fear thing for me- the knowledge that he needs to talk to a third party so it can "be made real" in his eyes. As of right now, we live in separate households BECAUSE he strangled me, so I am still a bit afraid of "saying the wrong thing" until he gets some anger management therapy under his belt...and I'm sure the talk will lead to the substances.
Until he talks with a third party, his "problems" are "partly overreaction" on my part in his eyes, so this kind of suggestion might set him off. I just want to wait on this suggestion for a little while.
It's the opposite of denial for ME- it's self-preservation at the moment.
I hope that your offer will stand in a month or so, though- I would love to suggest it to him when I am a little less afraid...and it has become a little more "real" to him...not just a product of his girlfriends "euphoriaphobia"- to use someone else's term...
but God Bless you! I will definitely keep you in mind when he is ready to accept your gracious offer to help.
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