Posted by beatrix34 on May 4, 2004, at 15:09:29
In reply to Re: Non 12-step addiction recovery, posted by man_oh_man1977 on May 1, 2004, at 21:44:20
Hey there -
Hang in there. I lost a ton of my so-called "friends" when I got sober. Once I started to enjoy life without substances I noticed that a lot of these people were actually pretty un-stimulating (is that even a word :)). I decided that they were not good for me and it gave me my "power" back in making that decision. I can COMPLETELY relate to the loneliness. I got into a "relationship" 4 mos after I stopped using. He was a lot older than I am but it didn't matter at the time. I thought that I needed someone to help with my lonliness. I dated him for 8 mos until I realised that I was still lonely, even with his company. Healing that feeling is an inside job, and an ongoing process. It does get easier with some work, so have faith...I eventually attracted new people in my life that are good for me, but the work that came prior to that was the tough road of figuring out just who I was. What I liked to do, and even what my own morals and boundaries were. I REALLY believe that having a support system around me of people going through something similar (if not exactly the same) helped me a ton to stay clean. If ever you need an ear, or want to hear about my experience, I would be happy to listen and correspond. Sending you a BIG HUG!!!! Be kind to yourself.
Bea
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