Posted by baseball55 on November 1, 2018, at 17:58:05
In reply to Re: and another gym bites the dust..., posted by alexandra_k on November 1, 2018, at 15:08:17
Forgive me if this sounds unkind, Alex, because I certainly do not mean it in that spirit. But it seems to me that you clash a lot with people in many settings and, perhaps, misconstrue what people are saying, or maybe the spirit or intention in which they are saying it.
Maybe the comment about using clips was not an order, but meant as a helpful suggestion. They do keep the weights from falling, should you start to lose control of the bar. So maybe a response like "thanks, but I think I should be okay" or "do you really think I need them" would lead to less conflict. Also, my experience with weights and power lifters is that they are very happy to give advice, especially to novices and women, on form, etc.
I used to be a curmudgeon and do this leave me alone response. But then I started listening and asking their advice and it greatly helped my form. These guys know what they are doing and they are always helping and watching out for each other. Gym rats are also used to sharing equipment, so I have found that when the gym is crowded, all I have to ask is - can I work in with you? With free weights, this isn't alway practical because I'm using so little weight than they are. But most are happy and accustomed to taking turns on machines or telling you, with free weights, how many more sets they are doing.
I have also found swimmers generally willing to share lanes, to show you how to do a stroke if you ask and are willing to take advice. I mostly swim free-style and maybe some breast-stroke. Like you, I can not figure out the butterfly. But freestyle I find very soothing.
poster:baseball55
thread:1101759
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20180816/msgs/1101764.html