Posted by alexandra_k on March 7, 2014, at 20:06:05
In reply to Re: Nope., posted by Partlycloudy on March 7, 2014, at 19:35:56
> The least expensive place I could find wanted seven months' rent up front in lieu of my having employment. Huge chunk of money. I have tried repeatedly and fall apart in a most spectacular way when I have attempted to work.
> I am feeling like that Loser word again.
> The roommate arrangement, though, might be showing promise. I really can't live on my own without making a significant financial impact, and it has paralysed me into place.
> I think I am staying in bed tomorrow.I'm sorry to hear that. I do remember what a mission it was for me to secure this place, though, so I'm not entirely surprised. It is unfortunate, but many people do wreck places. Or use them to make meth or whatever, as you know, heh.
I wonder if there might be a consumer / volunteer / charity organisation that might be able to help / advise you. Here... We have women's refuge and salvation army. If I had been in a relationship and was looking for assistance (they might even have support groups) for separation, I'd start there. Clubs, too. New Image... Singles Clubs... For help with the little things that don't learn until you need to. How to get rid of bugs etc (I only semi-jest).
House mates can be good, yeah. I think a huge part of why people have them is to ease the financial costs. Sharing accommodation and utilities helps a lot. Sundry items like toilet paper and handsoap etc can help some, too. And moving into a furnished place... And the company. When you are used to living with others coming home to an empty house... Can really get to people in ways they don't expect. It is one thing for it to be blissfully unoccupied on occasion... It can be quite another thing for it to be unoccupied always. Can be nice to have someone to check on you and con you into watching feel-good movies etc. Someone to help you take care of bugs.
It is hard though. And scary too... Yeah... Looking for this place... Was one of the hardest things I've done...
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