Posted by Dinah on November 1, 2013, at 9:37:24
In reply to Re: Snowflakes and a melting community » Dinah, posted by Partlycloudy on November 1, 2013, at 9:10:33
You don't consider it possible that Scott was not inviting you to leave by saying "Maybe it's not"? That my interpretation may not be correct? Of course, Scott's here and can say whether it is or not.
Are you saying that your statement about specialness *did* apply to Alex? In that case, do you think it might not be natural if she responded with defensive anger? Just as it would be natural to respond with defensive anger if Scott *did* intend to request you to leave Babble. If it one intends to confront someone with with what one considers to be an unpalatable truth, even if done with positive intent, anger is not an unexpected outcome.
Personally, I don't think it's particularly unreasonable when in a controlled environment to ask for accommodations where one can be comfortable. When I was admitted to the hospital, I was given a private room by chance. But had I not been, I couldn't have tolerated a shared room and would have checked out against medical advice, if necessary. I couldn't have performed the function for which I was in the hospital if I was in terror that my roommate would vomit. No matter how unlikely that might be. Would I be asking for special treatment? Yes. Would I have felt like that was a problem? No.
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