Posted by Dinah on October 2, 2011, at 14:51:41
In reply to Re: Should I have a child or not? » Dinah, posted by Emme-V2 on October 2, 2011, at 8:26:09
I'd say to you that by making that choice, given your knowledge of your situation, you were being a good mother.
The decision not to have children isn't as stigmatizing as it used to be, thank heavens. Even in my generation.
I think of having a child as being more of a fiduciary responsibility than an ownership. The child isn't ours. It's God's, or the world's, or most particularly their own selves. We can choose to take on the duty and joy and pain of nurturing them and helping them grow to their full potential. But it *is* a responsibility, and for those people with the ability to choose whether to get pregnant, it is the first of many choices that need to be made with well being of the child in mind.
I respect you for understanding your resources and the needs of a child, and choosing to do what you consider to be the right thing for that child.
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