Posted by floatingbridge on April 2, 2011, at 16:32:28
In reply to Re: My daughter passed away » Lifeiswhat, posted by floatingbridge on April 1, 2011, at 11:53:57
I wanted to clarify my previous post.
Both of the kids I know are doing very well despite the abuse. In both cases the abusing parent is out of their lives by court orders. Obtaining those court orders was not an easy process and required signifcant courage and intent.
Both mom and kids participate in good,
successful therapy which the children welcome. Kids are awesome in their resilience, esp when they get suitable help. And the adoring love they experience with or for their therapists is warming and really beautiful.My point was that sometimes one parent
is slow or late to catch abuse in time for various reasons. If so, the parent needs to keep moving and advocate for their children AND themselves to achieve a good outcome. Neither mom I know could afford to remain mired in guilt--they suffered secondary trauma by discovering the abuse--but for their kids' sake they work on this in their own therapies.Best to all the kids out there, grown and growing. Best wishes to the young parents, the challenged parents....
*a rose by any name
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