Posted by Dr. Bob on August 20, 2010, at 1:02:48
In reply to Re: new members » sigismund, posted by Dinah on August 17, 2010, at 21:35:46
> Some people wanted Bob to acknowledge that the implementation of the civility rules had driven people away. If that had been given, one reason for opposition to Facebook and Twitter links would have fallen away
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> sigismundI don't think there's any question that some people leave because of the civility rules and their implementation.
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> Hmmm... I think there was some feeling that Dr. Bob cared more about getting new people on Twitter and wasn't as concerned with addressing the needs of older posters.
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> I suppose that could loosely be considered sibling rivalry. Though I'd consider it more about the perception of whether or not Dr. Bob was respecting us.
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> Respect. Concern. Responsiveness. Those are things that people need to feel valued. If he had framed it so that older posters felt respected, heard, and valued, Babblers would have felt less resentment to the process. I don't think any resentment was involved towards the actual new posters.
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> Of course that's aside from the less interpersonal concerns of safety and privacy and the indiscriminate excerpting of our private and personal thoughts.
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> DinahI know that process left much to be desired, and I continue to regret that. At the same time, not feeling respected, heard, and valued by me could be consistent with feelings of competition for my love and attention and terror about one's place and where one fits. And concerns of safety and privacy could be consistent with (seeing new posters as having) murderous feelings.
Just to be clear, I didn't bring this up to be critical, I just thought it might help us understand some of the dynamics here.
Bob
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