Posted by alexandra_k on August 1, 2010, at 6:52:17
In reply to Re: being blocked again, posted by Dr. Bob on August 1, 2010, at 1:11:57
> Would anyone be willing to try to show ron how he might rephrase the above or to encourage him to apologize? You may have the power to help him avoid being blocked again. Thanks,
Reading the above phrase results in my skin crawling. Then I get a shuddering sensation. Then I feel angry and a little like throwing up. Every time. Without fail. Lets see if I can articulate why...
You don't tell Ron what you find problematic about what he said. This would be direct. Instead you address the rest of the community. That is indirect.
Instead of directly asking Ron to apologize or rephrase and taking responsibility for your decision to block him if he doesn't meet your demands I think you attempt to shift the blame. That is indirect... And that makes my skin crawl.
It seems that you are saying that if posters care about Ron and want to help him avoid a blocking then they need to attempt to justify why it is that you think Ron owes you a rephrase or an apology and do what they can to coax him into meeting your demands.
I think that you need to take responsibility for your own actions Dr Bob. You decide whether you will block a poster and you decide how long you will block them for. You decide what they need to do to avoid a blocking (e.g., you decide that apology or grovelling is an acceptable out whereas explaining oneself is not and so on).
I don't think it is fair of you to insinuate that Ron doesn't care enough about the community or that the community doesn't care enough about Ron and that is why the blockings happen. I really do think that this is what you are insinuating. And I don't think it is fair of you at all.
Things like this... Is why many have left. But heck, many have said why they left and I don't suppose I need to speak for them. It is there is the archives. Maybe someone will actually listen / take it on board one day. But then I really do get the feeling that someone doesn't really care about the people who have left. I mean smaller boards / fewer posters have been on the agenda for a while now... Nicer to have those who don't complain (so much) I'm sure.
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