Posted by Enigma on December 29, 2008, at 19:47:59
In reply to Re: Longterm friendships, why so rare?, posted by Sigismund on December 29, 2008, at 19:25:18
> >I hope my mood improves so I can go
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> That's the problem with parties....one's mood so rarely does, especially as you're walking in.
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> Parties are particularly difficult. The type of communication there causes me intense pain.
> All so breezy and superficial....one longs for something educational, or (failing that) some old fashioned drug abuse.I usually do ok at parties (I only go to a few a year), and I'll either just crack sarcastic jokes, or attempt to have a "real" conversation with someone. Unfortunately, the latter doesn't go over too well at New Years Eve parties.
Almost everyone there is going to be "super happy", as it's New Years, except me. I don't know if I'm going to be able to fake it.
Lately I've been severely down. I can't seem to snap out of it - I'm in bed much of the day. I take Nardil which only works about 50% for me (it just stops the suicidal thoughts, and doesn't do much else), and I take seroquel to sleep, otherwise, I toss and turn all night long and can't get a lick of sleep.
This particular party, for some reason, is causing me a great deal of stress/pain. It's a dance party, primarily, and I don't dance. I was just gonna drink myself drunk. If my mood is bad, I'm afraid I'll get drunk, wander off to the car, and crank some music I like and possible shed a tear or two.
Then if anyone notices, some drunks might come over to the car and try to make me feel better (which won't work), and then I'll feel like I'm ruining the party.
> Part of the problem is age related. Young people are hugely gregarious and it falls off as you get older.
> I think it's something in our culture actually (something wrong), but that's not of much help.I agree that it's part of our culture, as I'm Turkish, and have been to Turkey many times. I make friends there immediately, and they are the true, quality type of friends. I know some other cultures that have some similar aspects to long-term friendships.
I wonder what would happen if I lived in the Southern parts of the U.S. I'm in NH now.
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