Posted by TexasChic on July 23, 2008, at 14:02:55
In reply to Re: Bullies, posted by maree on July 23, 2008, at 0:48:51
> This is probably an aside, but I have always thought that bullies tend to be people who are very insecure in their own position, whether at work, socially, whatever.
> They seem to think that the more people they push down beneath them, the higher they rise. So if they see someone who they think they can dominate, then they go for it, as a special project.From what I've read, that is exactly the case. They usually pick on people that are intelligent and do well at their job.
> I was bullied at school, in my mid twenties, at one place of work; and now, that I am disabled, I attract bullies wherever I go. I have never been someone who is popular, so nobody has ever bothered to stand up for me, nor do I have much self confidence, particularly not now.
Wow, I'm sorry you've had to experience that, I can certainly empathize with you. But one thing I've found out is, even when you do have 'friends', these people usually desert you when the bullying starts. At least that's been a continuous pattern for me. I'm sure that's in no small part due to the fact that if you stick up for someone else being bullied, then they turn on you (that's happened to me too).
>I am a prime target for a bully, because there is no way that I can hurt them, this turning the other cheek thing, ignoring them, certainly does not work, it just encourages them to double their efforts.
I agree wholeheartedly with that. Not that I would suggest a full on fist fight, but when you ignore them, which is exactly how I handle it, they seem to thrive on it.
Thanks for writing, I don't know if I've ever spoken with you or not, I have a hard time remembering all the babble names, but I appreciate your input.
-T
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