Posted by 64Bowtie on June 30, 2008, at 1:27:28
In reply to Re: To all: My respect for authority + self-esteem » 64Bowtie, posted by Phillipa on June 29, 2008, at 12:29:30
(((Dear Phillipa))),
At no time do intend to harm or coerce... I do feel "Evocative" from time to time, as represented in my general threads...
I see a disciplined harnessing of obligations vs expectaions, after discovering our own self-respect, and before "nailing down" the "who we are" SELF (an unmistakeable image of Self), as being the shortest distance between where we are and where we really, really, really want to be, feeling wise; emotionally... Undisciplined obligations and expectations "is" an unmanageble life...
Some parent somewhere dropped some ball somehow...........
I takes a tenth of a second for the mind (brain) to resolve a new choice, permanently!!! I know we are not behaving like lab-subjects; much more complicated lives than that... Please follow my reasoning: if this is not a common enough situation, then why not??? The answer lies where we are operating on our obligation/expectation merry-go-round... Notice I am tacitly discussing the others in our lives: folks we are obligated to or we want obligated to us (by our expectations)... If BLAME would make a difference, this would be a much shorter discussion... But, alas, blame doesn't work!!!
Its our job, and duty to ourselves, to unscramble the calamatous mess that is our obligations and expectations... Did you ever wonder why monks and nuns choose that austier existence??? That's easier on their internal stress meter than tackling the family elephant-in-the-livingroom of multi-generational obligations and expectations...
Make no mistake, I know this is an awful job...
Rod
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