Posted by Kath on April 23, 2008, at 21:21:08
In reply to divorced man with kids and committment in new rela, posted by danny9ds on April 22, 2008, at 13:55:35
You haven't failed. This is about him, now you.
Going through a divorce is a huge big deal. He'll have all kinds of emotional stuff to work through.
I hope he's in therapy & I hope you can do that for yourself also!!
I have heard in the past that it's best not to get into a relationship until 1 year after being divorced...that it takes that long to sort yourself out.
However - life steps in & often that doesn't happen. It didn't in my case.
Please don't take his confusion as a reflection about YOU. I suspect it's truly more about him having all kinds of mixed-up feelings he's trying to sort out.
I hear that this is VERY hard for you & that's understandable. I hope you seek counselling.
hugs, kath
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