Posted by Racer on January 24, 2008, at 11:02:02
In reply to Re: Currnet Life right now is numb..... » your#1fan, posted by Kath on January 23, 2008, at 18:02:01
Hey, Kiddo.
When you say you have to be out by age 21, is that *your* goal, or was that target set by your mother? I do think you'll be surprised by how different life is when you're out on your own, but if it's a goal you've set for yourself, there are a few things you can do *now* to help prepare yourself.
One thing I'd recommend is to start now practicing some of those life skills you'll need when you're living on your own. Do your own housekeeping and laundry; pay your own internet and telephone bills; pay some rent to your mother; pay your own car insurance. Those are things you'll have to do if you live away from home, so getting into the habit now will be very good practice for you.
I was shocked, when I first lived alone, at how very different it was not having someone else around. Admittedly, I lived alone, not with roommates, so that's a bit different.
Also, the sad truth is that an awful lot of life is just not exciting. Learning to cope with the dreary routine of getting up, going to work/school, coming home, going to bed, and then getting up to do it all again, can be hard. The best ways I found to cope with those things were consciously wrapping my brain around the idea that life was often rather dull, and collecting hobbies and interests to help fill in the quiet times. It was easier for me than for a lot of people, because I have always read a lot, but anyone can find *something* to do. When I lived alone, I never had a TV, because I didn't want to fall into the habit of using the TV for company. I did watch TV, but I had to be around others to do so.
I'm glad to hear you're going to be getting a therapist. Do you know when that will start?
Good luck.
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