Posted by Racer on August 22, 2007, at 12:14:24
In reply to Re: If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous! » cloudydaze, posted by TexasChic on August 16, 2007, at 22:01:27
> > I know I need to lose some, but hearing it all the time just makes me feel worse about myself, and less likely to help myself.
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> That's EXACTLY how I felt!
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I've had weight issues in both directions, and heard about it on both sides. At one point, my husband told me he thought the reason we never had sex was that I had gained too much weight, and he just didn't find me attractive anymore. I told my aunt about it, and rather than making any sort of kind noise, she said, "You did get very heavy you know..." (She, by the way, has been obese for decades.)Then, at the other end of the spectrum, she felt it necessary to tell me that I was too thin, and couldn't eat what I had for dinner, had to eat something else instead. Gee, I didn't know that there was a problem with my weight, it never occurred to me that there was anything wrong with being fifty pounds underweight...
Some people lack the tact gene, I think. For that matter, I think some people lack the common sense gene. (Many of those people are related to me...) And it doesn't help. I think it's safe to say that most people with weight issues are not unaware of those issues.
Besides, honestly, as an anorexic who feels ginormous all the time, I see women who are larger than I am, women most of the Western world would call large, heavy, plump, etc -- and I envy them so much! I wish I could look as good as many much heavier women I see. So, it's all a matter of perspective.
And TC? You look great from here... CD, I don't know you, but I'm sure you're lovely, too.
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